He only bites at school and I am not sure what to do. They cant spank him at school and he just laughs at them when his teachers put him in time out. WHAT IS A MOTHER TO DO??PLEASE HELP!!
2006-07-21 08:11:23 · 12 answers · asked by payton19_21 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I wish people would actually READ the question before giving dumb answers...anyway, a lot of toddlers bite only at daycare mostly because it is an attention seeking behavior. I would recommend that you talk to his teachers and be sure that they understand he is doing it to get their attention, therefore when he is doing positive things like playing by himself or nicely with others that they lavish him praise and attention and some one-one time with them. The other key to it is be PROACTIVE and encourage them to document when he bites, what was going on at the time, and how both children responded and were responded to. They need to look for patterns such as when he is playing in a certain area of the room, time of day, or particular child. When it does happen the teachers should turn all of their attention to the hurt child and virtually ignore your son. I know this may sound harsh but it will help show him that there are much better ways to get attention. I hope this helps!!
2006-07-21 08:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back slap him right in the mouth. It ALWAYS worked when my mom wanted to get the point across. Don't do it so hard that you buss his lip open. Just a quick pop so he knows it's wrong. As he gets older, the slaps should get harder.
Talking to a 2 year old will not work. You have to have some sort of discipline. Trust me, one day he's gonna bite the wrong kid and someone's parents are gonna be PISSED and then, you'll be the one to blame.
People don't send their kids to school to be bitten by a kid with no home training. If a child bite my son/daughter, I would think that the parents were raising their child to think this is okay. But then again, he is only 2 years old and he really doesn't know any better. But it's never too early to start with the discipline.
2006-07-21 08:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by s_sill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally when kids move up to the 2-3 year old class they stop biting because it's a phase that they go through because they can't communicate. You need to tell him that biting hurts and isn't a nice way to deal with his anger. There are lots of books that can help.
These are the 2 that we had for our daughter:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1575421283/002-0281882-9652072?v=glance&n=283155
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/044842584X/sr=1-1/qid=1153509426/ref=pd_bbs_1/002-0281882-9652072?ie=UTF8&s=books
My daughter was bitten alot at daycare so she learned to bite from the children at school. She loved these books and the kids at her school did to when she took them in to share.
Good luck.
edit: DO NOT BITE HIM BACK! It only teaches him that biting is acceptable. The other children will bite him for biting them. Tell him "No biting! Biting hurts!" and put him in the corner if he bites at home.
2006-07-21 08:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can a baby of 20 months have class-mates? I guess you have him in daycare...that's too bad life is so complicated for mothers and babies.
It sounds like he has to experience something less pleasant than time out - and since he is just a baby - he doesn't realize he is causing pain to others. I think he needs to feel a bit of the pain that teeth can cause. Or perhaps he just needs what all little tykes need - unconditional love and attention. Daycare has a lot of babies, and the attention given to each one has got to be inadequate.
Hope things go OK. I am so happy I was able to be with mine full-time. Life was just so much more tranquil. Good luck with you life girl! You have lots on your plate.
2006-07-21 08:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite him back. At 2 years old he doesn't realize what hurts others hurts him, and by biting him back you're showing him how it feels and he'll stop doing it. Trust me, works like a charm.
2006-07-21 08:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biteing back always worked for me.
2006-07-21 08:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that your going to talk to his teachers and every time he bites someone you're going to take one of his favorate toys away.
2006-07-21 08:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by ♪♫britt♪♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he bite at home? He is frustrated. My daughter use to
bite too until I bit her back. Never happened again!
2006-07-21 08:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Ontario_Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's only going to be 2 in septemeber, why the hell is he in school?
2006-07-21 08:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by malintzin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with everyone above me but bite him as hard as u think he bites others. just enough to where he knows it hurts. he'll stop!
2006-07-21 08:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by college_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋