you cheated and very feel sorry .... try to change for the better ...will u tell the person that you cheated? or keep it coz u dont wanna lose the person.
2006-07-21 07:38:45 · 18 answers · asked by cat&dog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell them. Maybe they'll forgive you maybe not - BUT if you lie it shows that you are still being selfish, and have not changed. You would still be more concerned with hiding your mistake than taking responsibility, and showing remorse.
2006-07-21 07:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by VL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends what do u call cheating at. If it was a one night stand and u r very sorry about and u know that was a big mistake, u would NEVER do it again, then dont. Damage was done and It has no solution, and u would hurt ur partner more with the truth.
But...if u were seeing someone else for quite some time, forget it, u HAVE to tell, and rethink the relationship, cuz if u r cheating, then it means that is not working at all.
2006-07-21 14:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by spoiled_noche 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the true motivation for wanting to confess. If the person truly does not have a clue, are you doing it just to rid yourself of a guilty conscience? Be honest with yourself about why you cheated. Is it a pattern for you? Is the relationship lacking in meeting your needs in some fundamental way? If it really was a one time major screw up, keep it to yourself and don't EVER do it again. Remember also--there is only ONE second chance.
2006-07-21 14:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by RetroGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be truthful in your deed and action. But as a nature you may commit sin, mistakes through words, Physically or thaught. Humans are bound to do mistakes but if you repent with deep conscience it will heal your mind.
So if you think a truth may hurt someone don't reveal it also if false which benefit many you can do it.
The person unaware of truth will be at peace don't disturb it on the other hand your mistake will give you guilt and keep you away from further mistakes.
2006-07-21 14:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by Taurian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would tell, and I have in the past. I couldn't live with the guilt. It all depends about how you feel about yourself. In my case, we managed to stay together, but the lack of trust eventually killed the relationship. You have to ask yourself why you cheated. If you're not totally satisfied by your boyfriend, do him the favor and tell him you cheated. This way, he can make an important and informed decision. If you respect him, tell him. But expect the worse, it wil be horrible.
2006-07-21 14:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them. Chances are they might find out later from someone else. Either way you betrayed their trust, so better for you to just come clean yourself. If you lose them, I'm sorry but you shouldn't have cheated in the first place if you wanted to stay with them. If s/he forgives you, work really hard to re-earn their trust and don't do it again.
2006-07-21 14:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is any possibility that he will find out from someone else that you cheated, you need to tell him, Better that he hear it from you than someone else. Just hope for the best.
If there is no chance that he will find out, do not tell him. It will only hurt him. It's not worth hurting someone that deeply simply to ease your guilty conscience. You can only commit to yourself that this will NEVER happen again. Good luck.
2006-07-21 14:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally when it comes to the bad word "cheating" i would rather hear the truth from my partner than me finding it out from other people. truth hurts yes, but lies hurt even more. so go for it! tell the truth you will set yourself free as well. best of luck.
2006-07-21 15:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by lilygriffs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is not always the best policy. When it involves hurting someone to get rid of our own guilt is never smart.Once you open that door you will never be able to shut it again. The trust he has for you for what ever you might have done will be gone forever. Even if he forgives the thread of doubt will be there. So is it really worth hurting him for your own peace of mind???
2006-07-21 14:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Angel in Oz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you see I'm in that situation right now...and I dont wanna tell him wat happened..i think about it every once in a while but I would never tell him becuz it was a mistake and he broke up with his ex becuz she did the same thing..I love him too much to just be his ex...so im not sure how you feel...but I aint letting him know at all...
2006-07-21 14:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by Scorpio Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋