really need help with a white racist guy?

Question

If you can't tell by the pic, I'm a proud muslim. Every Sunday, I would go and pray in my mosque along with all my other muslim brothers. There's a big issue though. There's a cocasion old man who happens to live right next to the mosque, who would randomly wait every friday to 'diss'' and throw shotty remarks targeting us. Everyone else chooses to ignore it, but I feel like it has gone far enough, any one got advice for this? p.o.v's from all cultures would be appreciated. thanks

Yeah , sorry guys, I was just wondering about something else while typing this thing up. I go Friday , not Sunday, thanks for pointing it out. I really like all your thoughts, except the guy who said something about pork....

Answer 1

You shouldn't have to deal with that. Nobody should have to deal with any kind of racism.
I guess the easy thing would be for you to go to another Mosque, but that doesn't seem like the fair choice for you. I wouldn't get into any debates or arguments with someone like that. You really can't argue with anyone that has that mentality. It's almost like trying to prove a point to a small child. Toddlers have one way of thinking and there is no changing their mind, and many adults are the same, only it's downright pitiful in their cases!
Don't bring yourself down to this man's level. In just the question you are asking, the way you worded it, I feel like you are a good person and I would hate to see you allow him to provoke you into saying something that could be as rude and hateful as what he has said to you. So honestly, my advice is to just be as nice as you can! Every-time you see him, without actually stopping, before he has a chance to say something rude to you, ask him how he is doing, or wish him a good day. I know this probably doesn't sound like it would have much affect on someone, but you might be surprised! I had a friend advise me to do this when I had this mean next-door neighbor that tried to make my life miserable. And you know what? It worked! And I have used it on other mean people as well! Sure, there have been times that my niceness plan has failed, but for the most part, it truly has worked! Nothing irratates a hateful person more then when they realize they are having no effect on their target.
I am truly sorry that you are faced with this kind of ignorance. I wish you much happiness!

Answer 2

Hi, Pagan here, and I completely understand getting dissed from the neighbors.

Well, you could wish him blessings whenever he does it. Or you can report him to the police for harassment. It's considered a hate-crime to 'diss' people like that. It's a Federal offense.

As you say, he's an old man. I have found that the older generations tend to be the least tolerant. It's the mind-set they were raised with. They went through 2 world wars and several police conflicts. Our generation is only getting a taste of what they went through. Be kind to him. He won't be around for much longer.

Answer 3

You can try to get a restraining order preventing him from coming within so many feet of the mosque and those who attend the mosque. There's nothing as "going to far" when it comes to hate and racism. It goes to far the second it starts. I'm Christian, and Jesus commanded us to love one another as He loves us. If this racist guy is claiming to be Christian or being anti-Islamic in the name of Christianity, he clearly isn't a true Christian. You can pray to God that this man sees the truth about what he's doing, and ask God to let him be more tolerant of other religions and cultures. It's best not to confront the man directly unless you're prepared for a slur of anti-Islam and anti-Muslim comments, and he may be hateful enough to try to attack you. Just remember that God controls everything. I'll be praying for you and the attendants of your mosque that everything works out for the better.

Answer 4

The Muslims have made a nasty name for themselves all over the world. They've been killing innocent people for no other reason than to say they killed non-Muslims.
Some really bad feelings are bound to show up because of the reports. As Muslims, why don't many of you write editorials in the newspapers condemning what's going on with your "brothers"?
I have yet to see Muslim written articles against all the murdering going on by the "brothers".

Answer 5

Well, I'm a white guy and I think it's a tough situation you're in. See, if you do or say anything to him, he will feel like you're validating his position.

If he ever threatens you, call the police. If all he's doing is saying stupid remarks, here's a way you can REALLY get under his skin.

Be as friendly as possible. If he calls you a name, look directly at him, smile broadly and say, "It's okay, God still loves you" This will really throw him off. When he says some other hate-filled remark, say to him, "It's a lovely afternoon, I think we should have a picnic."

Finally, you could invite him to come in and worship with you. I know he probably won't, and I'm sure you don't want him there, but who knows? Most people who don't go to church don't like to be invited to go to church, as it reminds them of how they are turning their back to God. If you invite him every time you see him, he will avoid you like you were a Jehoviah's Witness.

Answer 6

well this is very sensitive issue that must be looked at from both sides,im very keen on this issue being a white power enthusiust.its kind of like the difference between a ***/ger and a black person ,sometimes people forget that not all black people are ******* or in this case all muslims are terrorists.in my oppinion the best thing to do would be to ignore it if possible or if you can't try telling him that you love this country as much as he does and walk away,it probable won't change his mind but it might make an impact.

Answer 7

In times such as the ones we live in it is best to do as your mosque directs you. Your actions could have consequences that will later effect another person who did nothing, or it could have consequences against multiple people. Being humble is often the answer.

Find strength with your brothers and sisters, and peace be with you.

Answer 8

Talk to him. He may just be mad, or he might be incredibly lonely and just looking for attention.

Racism is often just a matter of ignorance so try your hardest not to hate back, and do your best to bring him into the 21st century.

If you have no luck contact the relevant authorities (police, nut house etc).

So sayeth the British Agnostic Kung Fu Hamster.

Answer 9

You go to mosque every sunday ?
Why not friday ?
About the old man ; I tell you that :
Go to police , first . then try to understand from his friends or people who know him , why he does that .
Sometimes the past of such persons is very tragic experience .
But I keep saying that people respect respected people ; do your best to let people know that you'r respected people .

Answer 10

I would talk to your mosque leader for direction. What you do or say will not only effect you, but the mosqes reputation. Feel proud of who you are and don't let someone who is so imbittered bring you down. He is a miserable person, passing on his misery. I don't know about your religion, but in mine, we are to pray for our enemies!