why is this christian lady ?

Question

what you think about minister wife that comes to church late and never does any thing in church but just sit and do not perticipate in any program because she said she is not a common minister wife she will not pray or read the bible

the church needs everyone i think to participate to help the church to grow the minister is al way's asking for people's help but the same few are rolling up their sleeves keeping the church from dying we could really use her help i want to ask her but do not know how? please answer if you are serious

he has been pastoring at this church for 19 year's and married to her for 38 year's it is hard to beleive she has sit this long

Answer 1

I don't know how she can do that, as a wife of a pastor, her service is to her husband who is serving the church. it sounds to me that she needs to get saved.
I am a pastor's wife and I have all the jobs in the church that no one else would take. I am the choir leader, teach Sunday school, change the sign each week, visit, call, and support my husband as he tends to the church, have been in every play the church has put on, clean the church on occasion, teach VBS, make church bulletins, and the list goes on for miles. do I do it for the church?.. yes and no... I do it for God.
being a Pastor's wife is the hardest job I have ever had. you receive no credit for the work that you do, you get criticized for what you wear, what you think and for everything that your husband says that doesn't sit well with others (if he makes them mad, they don't get mad at him, they get mad at me!), I am usually forgotten, unless someone needs a job done or a position filled. it's the most unglamorous job in the world. is it worth it? yes.
has she always been like this? or is this just recent that she stopped helping? she may be tired. either way, you should talk to her and find your answers.

Answer 2

She's probably a wife who wishes she is not a minister's wife. Sometimes a minister will go into the ministry and not take into consideration whether the wife is called to be a minister's wife. Also, she could be going through a lot of pressure. Ministers live in glass houses where the entire family is continually watched.
Or it could be that she is really struggling with issues. Pastor's wives are always expected to be there for other people and people forget that they need help sometimes as well.

I'd pray about it and see if there is anything that she needs. She needs loving concern.

Answer 3

First thing...If it is indeed as you describe and this is along standing practice... and not some recent action brought on by tragic cercomstance or illness... but is clear personality and a definate statement of her positipon... then you need to be finding a different minister... If he is yoked to an unbeliever...which this behavior indicates clearly... then he is not in a moral positon to pastor a flock... You do not state the denomination... it sounds a bit liberal... and you do not say how long the minister has been in the pulpit...or how long married... lot of things need to be taken in to account... you, and others who feel as you, need to bring this before your elders or deacons and have them deal with this in a biblical manner... if they do not...then find a new church home.

Answer 4

well i am a baptist minister daughter and i know that a wife has her place in the church too... one thing i can not believe a minister has a wife that does not pray.. and read the bible...most of the ministers wives i know are active in the church and even have woman missionary groups and always doing things to help people...i do not think she is being a good role model for the minister hisself or anyone else that is for sure...god knows her heart though and he will be the judge for her and all of us one day...we have all sinned and come short of the glory of god but as christians we are suppose to show the spirit of the lord in our ways, words and our actions....

Answer 5

Maybe you should respect her descisions in following whatever religon she wants in whatever way she wants. Thats what this country was built on...

I don't mean to make fun of you, but you know, there are some people out there who aren't even christian.....MY GOD! *gasps*

Anyways, modern church's, pastors, and denominational christian faith did not exist until 1000 years after christ (it also wasn't until then that people started profiting from religon $$$). Because she does not participate in modern customs, which usually have nothing to do with anything the bible, does not make her a "bad christian."

You should learn to be more tolerant of others, you are not perfect, and do not have all the answers. Just because you've known things to be a certain way all your life, does not mean your right.

Answer 6

just because she is the minister's wife doesnt mean she has to do all that. remember she might not be saved or she is not that christian, coz her hubby is a pastor so she has to go to the church, were it not for her hubby's sake she wouldnt even step in a church, so pls leave her alone.
after all its all a personal choice to read the bible or do those chores in the church.

Answer 7

She would not sound like a valuable individual era however the area of undergo in innovations is that christians are not ideal, in simple terms forgiven. Does that recommend we are in a position to pass around and do issues then ask forgiveness and be high quality, NO, yet people do it. And its going to be them status earlier God on judgement day. that's what supply Christianity a foul call. however the vast area of me is that a Christian will not be somebody who acts like an angel continuously, we cut back to rubble too. yet do not think of that's desirable here. She is utilising her christianity as an excuse to choose others and in my view she might pay for that throughout the top.

Answer 8

Perhaps her minister husband is just there to make a buck so he doesn't have to get a real job and his wife is onto him. Because of this she has lost her interest in the church.

Answer 9

Just cause she married the guy and he has a calling doesn't mean she feels the same way. Maybe she is hurting from a miscarriage or is having a hard time with something else right now.

Sounds like she really needs to be reached out to and befriended.

Answer 10

Sounds like the minister married the wrong woman