I'm having problems with my relation with my boyfriend. I feel that I love him more than my self so I always try to make he feels good and I totally forget about me. But the more time we stay 2gether he changes more and stay away from me. I'm afraid that he has another girlfriend and dont want to tell me.
Why he is changing so much? Am I the problem? What I am doing wrong for me do not receive his love back?
I love him a lot and I dont want to break up with him!
What should I do?? I need help!!
2006-07-21 07:12:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes you can hold on too tightly and end up losing someone you truly care about. A lot of guys like a woman who makes them chase them just a little. Don't be so quick to please him or be so available. Make him chase you... make him look for you... make him wonder where you are... just a little.
Sweetie... you've GOT to love yourself most of all... first AND foremost. If you don't love yourself, then you can't really love anyone else. Always put yourself first, then everything else will follow.
Give him a little challenge and make him have to work for you just a bit, then you might just be surprised at how much he'll do for you.
"Hold on losely, but don't let go... if you cling to tightly, you're going to lose control."
2006-07-21 07:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Silly Little Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can really be a big problem if what you're suggesting is in fact the case (Loving him more than yourself). You really do need to love yourself first, before anyone else to truly be happy in life. Once you can love yourself, you'll find that the love you can offer someone else is soooo much better! And it will be received that way as well!
While you're both two different people, you both need to develop as individuals as well as together as a couple. it's an important part of growing in a relationship. So give him the space he needs from you to allow him to be himself, without smothering him, and at the same time, look for ways within your own life to improve upon yourself - Not for him... but for you!
Good luck!
2006-07-21 07:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love yourself first. if you don't love you, then how do you expect for someone else to love you? you may be smothering this guy. don't be so convient for him. you need to have a lif outside from him. YES show him love, but also give him the chance to show you some as well. love is a give and take relationship. although a relationship is NEVER equal each of the two of you should be doing your part. sometimes we as individuals can take our love for a person to far. ( we sometimes cross the line) Relax, relationships come with enough stress, without you creating more by trying to analyze what he is feeling. ASK him, don't assume. the main thing that i want you to do is to take care of YOU and the rest will eventually fall into place
2006-07-21 08:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by ms floyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself and respect yourself before you can provide healthy love for someone else. He may feel like he is being smothered by you, take some time to get to know yourself and love yourself and you will see future relationships work out much better and differently.
2006-07-21 07:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by manderin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok maybe you love him TOO much. Are you controlling him or being clingy? Maybe that's the reason why he's acting strangely. Sit him down and talk to him. Say 'Is something wrong' He'll probably say "no" and then you'll have to start throwing questions in. "Am I annoying you?" "Am I being too clingy?" He'll know that you really want to know and he'll open up to you
Good luck!
2006-07-21 07:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋