well im 14 years old and i just came back from uruguay. me and my mom moved there 5 years ago. I came back 8 months ago and ive been living with my dad and his wife. My mom cant come shes not legal and i cant ask for her till im 21. So in the mean time i was suppose to stay with my dad. His wife hates me she has called me names. she has insulted my family, she makes up stories. She thinks i want to break them up. she hates me. She has kicked me out 8 times. I've had to stay with my brother, he's 24. Well this is the last time shes kicking me out. I want to live with my brother but my dad doesnt want me to. My mom agrees with me but my dad doesnt he wants to send me back to uruguay with my mom. Im doing great in school here and i want to stay what can i do? can i live with my brother?is that possible?i want to be able to have a future andi can't ask my dad to leave her so can i legally move in with my brother?
2006-07-21 07:08:48 · 32 answers · asked by Eskanka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to speak with a lawyer. You brother needs to be given custody of you legally to put you in school, etc.
2006-07-21 07:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother would have to gain legal custody of you. Talk to a lawyer before talking o your dad. Tell the lawyer everything alone. just you and the lawyer so he can get the right story from you. If you are doing great in school and look like you have a future in America there is no reason for your father to send you back to your country. After all he is still your father, sure the woman is his wife but you are his daughter, he shouldn't have to think about who's side to be on. And well if your brother is nice and has a decent living space where you could have your own room and he is a good guy with No criminal background,I think there should be no problem. I'm not sure but i think so. Just remember talk to the lawyer first and alone. I think you can also be emancipated from your dad. I'm not sure about that. Just talk to a lawyer first.
Do it as soon as possible because you never know the wife might even start hurting you physically or something.
Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-21 07:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me when I was 14. It is very hard for the child. So I understand what you are going through. I am 28 now and it still bothers me. Your brother needs to make sure you do good in school and provides you with the necessities. It will be a big change for both of you but if it keeps you moving in the right direction then your dad should do whats best for you. My dads wife kicked me out and I had to go live with my mom that I had not seen since I was really little. It was not a great situation but I think I would be dead if I stayed in the house with my dad and "the devil woman". She did everything in her power to break my dad and me apart and it worked till she moved out when I was 18. I would talk to your dad and let him know how you feel and if he is man enough he will stand up for you and tell his new wife the back off . Most men wont but it is worth a try. It took 6 years for my dad and I to have a relationship. Now that I am grown we are doing great. He has a new wife now and she gets jealous of our relationship but i just make the best of the situation and realize that I cant change anything it is up to my dad. One way I get through the backstabbing is to play a little chess with her mind. Always be a step ahead of her. Your dad,hopefuly will realize what she is doing and give her the boot.
2006-07-21 07:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by purplerose57703 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your dad knows about you being kicked out 8 times then he's a sorry exscuse for a father for choosing a woman over his own child,and you should move in with your brother and if you dad gets the law involved then just tell them whats going on and insist on staying with your brother.
2006-07-21 07:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by oldschool_southern_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....1st off, I think that is totally unfair of your Dad. He should be thinking of his children foremost. Not himself. If your brother loves you and wants what is best for you, then he should let you stay with him. Everyone deserves the opportunity to have a better life. I'm not sure what legal steps you can take, but I would go and visit your city's family court system and see what options you have. I think your brother can be made your legal guardian. Good luck....and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-07-21 07:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by BronzeSiren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough spot right now. I can tell you love your family, but you really shouldn't have to put up with anyone putting you down or threatening to kick you out so often. Go to Social Services in your town. Tell them the situation. Let them know that you love your dad, and don't have anything against him, but living with him while your step-mother is in the house is not working. You would request that your brother be made guardian, or even just to live with him, as you are doing well in school (take your report cards along to show this) and would like to continue to get an education here. Have your brother talk to them as well, on your behalf. Have him tell them that he is willing to have you live with him and will help you with your schooling. Unless you really want to have them investigate your step-mother, you'll have to stress that you are simply looking for a better environment. Good Luck! You sound like a smart kid!
2006-07-21 07:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have your brother petition for legal guardianship of you for now and then move on over there. I would get out of that situation. You dad needs to step up and be on your side you are his blood. B i t c h e s will come and go blood is forever
2006-07-21 07:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your brother needs to be talked to first..and I think all you ahve to do is fill out some paper work for legal guardianship...and you are good to go.
But you can't just decide to live with your brother...as awful as this woman may be..your brother may not be prepared to support you...and it takes a lot of money to support other people. Keep that in consideration.
2006-07-21 07:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to get into a big legal battle with your Dad if he doesn't want you to live with you brother. Unfortunately it sounds like he is not a very caring parent, and chooses his wife's happiness over yours. Is there any one close to you and your dad who may be able to convince him that you should be able to live with your brother?
2006-07-21 07:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure if u can legally move in with him but i would if i was in that kind of situation i say move in with ur brother and have a furture girl! o and before u leave do somthing really really horrible to your dads wife somthing that she will regret for the rest of her life lik tear apart her favorite things or break her favorite glass or really expensive things and act like a little brat to her before u leave and if your brother says no then beg him to death!
2006-07-21 07:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by puppylover1025 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the laws of the state you live in, but you'll probably have to have permission from your father to do so. Your brother would also have to agree to be your legal guardian and assume responsibility for your welfare, and that's asking a lot -- talk to your father and brother about this first, and if everyone is cool with it look for a lawyer in the Yellow Pages who gives free consultations so you can ask about the laws in your state.
2006-07-21 07:14:24 · answer #11 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋