I met a guy who seems ok and we had a good time on our first date although it was a little long. We are going out again and it is going to be another all day thing. I like to go out places but can't really say I enjoy spending the whole day with someone I hardly know. I would prefer to go out for a few hours 2 or 3 at first. I have alot of other things to do and I just don' t like spending my whole day with someone and then having to come home late at night and try to get everything done before bed. I have to work on the weekends so I don't have the free time to catchup on stuff. I just feel long dates should be for when you know someone well and you are in that spend time together just to be together stage, not in the first few dates. I ended up rushing through my morning so I could be ready to go out for the rest of the day.
2006-07-21 07:04:33 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I made the mistake of telling him i was off from work so he knows I have the entire day free.
2006-07-21 07:11:17 · update #1
You're not wierd
You're honest and sincere
and you realize you have things to do and that you have to do them!
You enjoy the company of others but don't like to feel suffocated or caged in, boxed in or pressured
you like your independence and your privacy
all this and much more are among the things that make you... unique.
2006-07-21 07:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, you aren't weird. Its usually not recommended for the first few dates to be so elaborate. The good news is that he's trying very hard to impress you.
He's defeating his own purpose though, cause the whole date you are just thinking about the stuff you need to get done at the end of the date.
I'd say to sit him down and talk to him and tell him that you are really enjoying the amount of effort and energy that he is putting into the dates, but ask him to save those for special occasions, cause you are indeed stressing the amount of stuff you need to get done.
Ask him to just take you out for dinner, just dinner, so you can enjoy being with him without the stress of time.
In one fell swoop you get what you want from him, and pat him on his ego by hinting that there will be special occasions and reinforcing that his efforts aren't being wasted.
2006-07-21 14:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just tell him that you only have a few hours free but you'd love to spend those hours with him.
This way he knows he only has a few hours with you and it's an ego boost to him that you want to spend those "few free hours" with him.
2006-07-21 14:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by GretzkyMVP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not weird.
2006-07-21 14:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋