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I met a really sweet guy on a website ; we spoke on the phone for hours , laughed and even talked lightly about past relationships . I messed up when I agreed with him that I dont want a relationship! he felt the same way I did and we continued to kick it on the phone . A few weeks later we met , still fine about 3months in we had SEX and he put it down (WOW) I was wipped he needed to be stamped with (PERFECTOOOO) I played it cool and didnt tell him but almost immedatley I felt like a school girl and couldnt even talk when he called , I felt instant want for this guy the whole I love being single went out the window !! He sends me a goodmoring text every morning and I respond however I really want him and I sort of told him that but he only responded "Im speechless" Question is should I not answer his text messages and calls anymore and keep it true to myself with the next guy I meet. The only reason why i was fronting was because some guys are leaches and Im picky.
Signed,
Sad

2006-07-21 06:58:46 · 28 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Ok here's what i'd do. I'd lay it out on the table and tell him the truth. Which it seems you already did. If after the whole "i'm speechless" episode didn't play out into a real conversation about if he wanted the same things. I'd cut it off with him. The reason is, if you two already set boundries to "just be friends." Despite how much you try to turn off those feelings, they will grow with each passing moment you spend with him. Then if you just happen to hear about or see a date he went on or something of that nature you're going to be crushed. But the only person you're going to be able to blame is you. So if in fact he doesn't want the same thing it's best to go your seperate ways. When you do come across another potential mate be sure to tell him exactly what your looking for in advance. That way, you both go in it knowingly.

2006-07-21 07:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sxyblkdiva 1 · 0 1

Ok....U have been intimate with this guy and now U find it difficult to ask him how he feels?????
Hello..... If U felt comfortable to have SEX with him then U should feel comfortable asking him how he feels about U.
TRUST ME in my own life I know that's easier said than done.....
But let's face it..... We don't always do what's best for us, now do we?
ok if U really are into this guy, all U can do is put it on the line....Tell him how U feel and see if he feels the same way.
Chances are he does, but in case he doesn't don't beat Urself up doll, but I think U might have been used. Don't feel too bad, we ALL have been at one time or another.
And chances are we probably will be again.
But I think U need to find out NOW how he feels cause it sounds like U are hooked. And if he doesn't feel the same then U need to get out NOW before U really get hurt.


Godd Luck and I hope he feels the same........


P.S. Being picky is not ALWAYS a bad thing...especially when it comes to relationships.......
U HAVE to look out for U cause no one else will.....

2006-07-21 07:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0 0

If you really like this guy and he seems to like you, I would still answer his text msg. and phone calls. Just slow down some. Do you know anything about him. He could be married and just be lying to you. He could be alot of things that you don't know about. I'd lay low and try to find out about this guy. A man can tell you anything over the phone and since you don't know him, you wouldn't know if it was true or not. Go undercover and find out all you can about him. Do you call him or does he just call you? Have you been to his house? These are ways to find out if he is at least available to fall for. If he seems to be hiding these things from you, he may be a snake in the grass. Do an investigation on him before you decide that he is all that. Good luck

2006-07-21 07:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Actually, everything is cool. See, when you two started your conversation.. neithr one of you led each other on. So when you met, it was mutual that there was no relationship. (for the record, Kitty, it did not matter how long they knew each other, I am sure, you have some bones in your closet!) Once you two hooked up and you caught feelings and told him, he was probably under the impression that you two were still friends. Now, you just have to talk to him. don't avoid him or his calls, if you like him let him know. He probably feels the same way. Best of luck. NEO.

2006-07-21 07:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by NEOSOUL 2 · 0 0

Its alright if you've changed your mind about wanting a relationship. Its been a few months, that's natural once you've gotten to know someone.
Just tell him how you feel. Best case he'll feel the same. Worst case he doesn't - but at least then you'll know where you stand and can either suck it up and deal or move on.

2006-07-21 07:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Miss. A. Laneous 2 · 0 0

I think you are cheating yourself by not allowing to see where this can really go. Assert yourself! Especially if the sex is good, call him and state how you feel. Putting it out there will be alot better than holding back...you may miss da boat!

2006-07-21 07:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by justme 2 · 0 0

Ok, well you should do what your heart is telling you to do. I mean ultimately it is your choice to make, you want to be happy with the choice you make. It seems to me from what you have described that you are happy with this man, and in a relationship if your happy with everything what more could you want? Dont let other people influence your choices because to put it bluntly it isnt their choice its yours and what may good for them may not be the same for you. Do what your gut tells you to and from there GOOD LUCK!:)

2006-07-21 07:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by brm272 1 · 0 0

i guess you should once have a clear talk with this guya nd get to know what he feels about it....

incase he is fooling around,just get him away from you life and be truthful..and it'll be good if you are really picky,cos going around with every second guy in the town is not a very healthy sign...

2006-07-21 07:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0 0

Why aren't you hooking up with this guy you've already met? Guys always say that when they first meet a chick online to cover themselves so the chick doesn't get the wrong idea. I bet he's changed his mind now.

2006-07-21 07:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0 0

Try telling him how you really feel. If it's right it's right. I know it won't be easy, but if you really want it to happen then it sounds like you're going to have to take a chance. I hope all the best for you! Good luck!

2006-07-21 07:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Meagan M 2 · 0 0

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