my littel sister chanel is 14 and she uses yahoo answers her id is heartbreaker i belive she is really outa control and i take care of her cuz of what are parents(dad,stepdad1,stepdad2) have done to her and i am really woried about her cuz of our parents she was introduced to sex at a really young age four to be exact and i now she is saying she is engaged and i checked with her BF and he did ask her to marry him and she did say yes. please help me she is planing on being a teenage mom. i dont knwo what to do and i wanna know that my sister is gonna be safe. if u have any information on what to do or what all she has asked please let me know. becasue she wont talk to me any more she says i am trying to take over our moms position so if u have any info please let me know i am all she has really and i dont want her to ruion her life like i did.... please help
2006-07-21 06:50:18 · 8 answers · asked by Jasimne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
With heart breakers comet on your question she is a little brat. 14 is not old enough to make any decisions. You do need to report her boyfriend and get her some help NOW!!!!! Freaking 14 OOOOOOOh boy!!!!!
2006-07-21 07:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get the boyfriend in jail for attempting to rape a minor. You're sister is too young and she has to be at least 18 (i think) before she can marry. Consult a lawyer about this.
You and your sister need a heart to heart talk and you need to explain to her the consequences of what she is about to do. Tell her that she is throwing away her life by doing this to herself at such a young age (she has more than 2x those many years to live and she's going to throw it all away?). You need to find someone whom your sister will listen to and try to ask that person to try and convince your sister not to marry, at least not now. Get her a counselor or someone she'll listen to. Don't try to be too preachy and try not to scold her when you talk to her about this. Tell her in a way that will assure her that your not trying to control her life, but that you're just keeping her from making the biggest mistake of her life and that you will always love her, no matter what she chooses to do with her life. Pray for her, because God is a force that even your sister cannot defy.
If she's really gonna push through with the wedding (and let's nto hope she does) then you can only sit back and watch, after all, it is HER life. The best thing you can do is to keep showing her that you love her so that when the time comes, (and I'm sure that its gonna come pretty soon) she'll have someone to run to whom she can be assured, loves her.
I really hope that things work out. Children shouldn't have to go through these kinds of things.
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2006-07-21 07:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jasmine I have never had something like that ever happen to me but it runs in our fam ya know and it might make her very very very very mad at u but you need to call the DHS and get her out of there and into therapy and stuff do it before she realy hurts herself and read yur answers and u will find her i am so sorry this happend to u I know the only thing u want right now is to lose yur sis but ya got to do it anything right now would help becareful you could end up hurting u and her and also you need to report the boyfriend as long as he is over 18 hopefully he is i know wat u mean about having to play mom and stuff cause i take care of my brother and sis while they are at work and if u need to talk my address is loganlovesgod@yaho.com or my e-mail is loganlovesgod@Hotmail.com talk to me if u need to.
2006-07-21 07:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by loganlovesgod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I THINK I CAN HELP YOUR SISTER CANT GET MARRIED UN TIL SHE IS AT LEAST 17 AND TH ATS WITH BOTH PARENTS AND THE JUDGES OK AND IF SHE DOES GET PREGNANT BEFORE THAT THEN WHO EVER DOES IT WILL BE GOING TO JAIL FOR SODOMY AND POSSIBLE RAPE AND AS SOON AS THE BAB BY IS BORN THE STATE WILL TAKE IT IF YOU NEED ANY OTHER HELP TALK TO A LAWYER
2006-07-21 06:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... report the boyfrind. That is statuatory rape. The BF will end up in jail, and you can get your sister in one of those teen Mom programs, where they teach her how hard it is to raise children.
2006-07-21 06:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call social services -- today. good for you for TRYING to get her some help.
Make sure you don't put yourself in danger, she must have some serious issues.
2006-07-21 07:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk somone
2006-07-21 07:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her help@!
2006-07-21 06:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋