everyday that i wait and try to be calm about this i grow further away from my own heart and feelings. i get new resentments toward her everyday because the things she is doing meantime are destroying my love for her and soon there will not even be the strength in my being to keep her in my life at all. i tried to suggest that while she is involved with my (friend?) neighbor that i dont want to be a part of her life nor do i enjoy the humilliation and hurt that her choices have brought to our lives on a daily basis. she didnt consider an alturnitive action to fulfill her needs, but to this day has me hanging on by a thread. i have changed so much about my life to make things better for us to be happy but i am only sinking deeper into ahole of finicial, emotional, and mental disfunction while she goes further and further away from me in everyway except her material needs. she gives me guilt ,anxiety and an oppurtunity to feel pain on a daily basis but i dont want to giv up
2006-07-21 06:43:52 · 11 answers · asked by flower4bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This girl is taking advantage of you from what it sounds like to me. You sound like a very caring, considerate, wonderful guy. You deserve better than this girl, you have to convince yourself of that. She obviously only cares about her needs, and if all you're doing is caring about her needs too, who's caring about YOU?! You should be taking care of yourself, loving yourself, taking care of your needs. I know how love feels and I know that it's hard to break away when you feel sooo attached to someone, but it is possible. You can do it. You have to. Honestly, what do you see happening in the future? More pain from her probably. So instead of having her cause you pain, break away from her, stop talking to her. This will cause a lot of pain as well, but at least the pain will be for a better reason. It will be so you can heal and find someone who loves and respects you just as much as you do them. This is what you deserve. This girl does not deserve you.
2006-07-21 06:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Brooks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never start a thought with a pronoun. The antecedent must always precede the pronoun. For example, my mom, she does this and that. Now we know what you are talking about. My friend, she does this and that. Now we know what you are talking about. My lesbian lover, she does this and that. Now we know what you are talking about. From the angst you report, I infer the latter. It is better that you include the antecedent so that we won't have to infer. My observation is that you are co-dependent because of having starving needs. Trouble is with those needs, they never get satisfied at this level of maturity. The reason is that you want to "feel" the needs met. You live by your feelings. So your emotional highs and lows are your roadway in life. Being content in circumstances that don't produce ecstatic feelings, like working steadily at a job, is a mark of maturity. A relationship needs two complete whole persons. That means you are content to live by yourself,and don't need someone to make you happy. Then when such persons meet, they don't demand from the other. They give and take in a healthy non-narcissistic and non-neurotic relationship. You may see yourself as noble for hanging on no matter what.You hang on because you fear the alternative of being alone. I don't particularly approve of same-sex couples, but your pain is real nonetheless. You have made this your whole life. Not good. You need to talk with a counselor who can help you to see what is going on here and push you to being a complete person.
2006-07-21 14:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not giving up, it's moving on. Your soul needs to be freed, I know that sucks and you love her but enough is enough. Why should she get what she wants while you suffer in misery. Tell her no more, your done. That all you have to give her is your loyalty and love and that's it. If that isn't good enough then you never want to see her again. You will find someone else that will love you as much as you love them. Love, true love does not hurt. There is that perfect girl for you and this one is not her. Let her go, free your self of the misery. Good luck, I hope all works out well....
2006-07-21 13:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by celtic925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is taking advantage of your good nature.
Get strong and walk away.
She isn't caring about you or your feelings, your money, you as a person. Just making everything easy for her to be with whomever she wants.
2006-07-21 13:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as long as you hold onto this, you will make yourself more and more miserable. I think that if you can't sit down and make yourself heard with this person and if this person is not wiilling to take your feelings into consideration of their actions, you will be better off with a different person.
2006-07-21 13:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who r u talking about? Your life partner? Find someone who cares for you as much as you do them. There are good people out there.
2006-07-21 13:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jaime L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be hot.
Are you cute? Do you have pictures of your girlfriend? Like....really nice....girl to girl kind of pictures you would like to share with us?
I just need to see them to answer your question.
Pillow-fighting in lingerie photos are preferred.
2006-07-21 13:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might have to give up, dont sacrafice your life for some one who is not worthy of it. You know what u have to offer, andu u deserve that if not more in return :)
2006-07-21 13:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off, Let her go. I know it's hard but it will show her, open up her eyes, and realize what she has. Good luck!
2006-07-21 13:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Blujeenz♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious answer. You need therapy.
2006-07-21 13:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by Margaret Thatcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋