why do old people get grumpy?

Question

my familey lost my granfather a year ago and he used to be the one that was always complaining. he still had a few times that he was sweet and funny. My grandma always complained that my brandfather never let her do anyhting. Now that he has passed away she has the chance, Why wouldnt she do anyhting now. Why has she gotten grunpy? she always thinks that her familey is in the sh*ts. Why does she take it out on me? I understand that she lost her life partner but shouldnt she be happy she had a fam that stands by her even tho shes difficult to deal with?

Answer 1

they are really not grumpy they probably wish that they were your age instead of their age
thank you

Answer 2

The elderly often feel lonely and left behind. Society says they are useless and a waste of time. Families generally reinforce that, even when they don't mean to do so. Please, please do your best to ignore grandma's grumpy moments and remember that she has lived a long life. Old bones get tired easily. They hurt and ache. Often, they are scared that they are also close to dying. She may have health or other issues that you are unaware of. Ask her about family history, her younger days, or something she wants to do and why. Then, LISTEN. That is the best thing you can do. Don't fake an interest, BE interested. They have some amazing stories to tell. You, who are young and healthy, cannot possibly understand how she feels about losing her partner... nor should YOU be complaining about her being grumpy when you think family has stood beside her. While you cannot possibly understand what it is like in her shoes, she has been in yours already!!

Answer 3

Grumpy you say? I would have to disagree!You know we all gotta grow old one day ,if we are blessed to make it to that point in our lives! I like the term set in their ways because as an elderly person,you have earned the right to be the way you want to be in life !!People go through many trials and tribulations in order to get to where they are today! I say Love her Hug her and enjoy her while you can in a twinkle of an eye she will be gone and you will be left with fond memories!!!! I miss my grandma lost her when I wa s18 and I'm 36 now How I wish that I could turn back the hand of time and we could go to the five and dime store and have strawberry shortcakes together,Life is but a dream!And then you wake up!!!!

Answer 4

She's probably dealing with depression, and maybe even a little dimentia if she's older. My grandma turned really short tempered and kinda mean when she was in the early stages of alzheimer's. You may want to suggest that the family arrange for her to be seen by a medical professional just to make sure everything is OK. Just a little prozac might make a big difference.

Answer 5

No one knows how another feels until you go through the same pain. It is hard to understand things if you haven't been through them. A lot of young people are mean and grumpy too, not just old people. Our minds don't grow old, just our bodies. You will have the same thoughs and feelings you have now when you are old. Kids don't realize that. a 60 year old has the same thoughts and feelings as a 12 year old.

Answer 6

grumpy is usually about some kind of pain! pain that she never learned to deal with or dissolve. also pain that has worked for her through the years to get attention and CONTROL others. she has learned from early childhood how to defend her self and control others with all those 'bad' behaviors and isn't likely to change so long as she thinks her 'act' works to keep her safe and one-up.

if i were you, I'd take her bad example of coping with the world and create a better, kinder, happier 'act' for your self to cope with things.
of course, you can't do much better than the grandparents until you dissolve some or all the pain and unhappiness that may be lurking in you since early childhood or you'll just become another troublesome grouch like them.
dissolving unhealed pain and grief from childhood may take some counseling or work but it's worth it to get free of 'hang ups' and be wonderful for those around you - unlike the grand parents.
look up 'grief work' on google....good luck

Answer 7

Honey, ask her why shes grumpy most of the time. Tell her that it bothers you because you love her. And you want her to be happy. Maybe it will get her in to thinking or she may just get more upset. If she gets upset stay away from her for a while, and see what happens. She may just get the point.

Answer 8

Some people are not happy unless they are complaining. All work and no play makes people like this! The Older they get the more they realize nothing is going to change!

Answer 9

Well think about it, old people can't do anything they used to do. They can't see so they can't drive well and get yelled at for it, they can't walk fast enough, they have aches and pains have to go to doctor's appointments all day and pop pills at night. It must be hard to find joy in life with all these things happening to you not to mention having to depend on people to take you places. Also your grandmother lost her husband, she's probably feeling very alone right now. She needs her family.

Answer 10

The ache and have pains and everyone is dying, its a depresssing thing, also they are most likely not getting laid, enough exercise, good food or any other pleasures so they sit around and b/itch and moan.

Answer 11

Because the mind as well as the body goes as we age...