Hi, im a fashion designer and i uhh.....sort of fell for another fashion designer that i really like. The only issue here is age though, he is very much my senoir. This type of thing is not appropriate because of that. Im old enought o know what love is, but ive never felt it, not in this way. Please dont judge me because of the age difference, I just need to know what i should do, should i hide my feelings and find somebody else? should i let him know?
2006-07-21 06:27:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is straight and single btw. i dont really want to give away our ages, its quite personal. thanks for the advice, however.
2006-07-21 06:35:19 · update #1
You do not supress love, it is a human emotion that you will feel no matter how hard you try. Just be honest, follow your heart, but use your head.
2006-07-21 06:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by tiravellian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the age difference? How old are you? How old is he? Sometimes many years in between don't matter if yer both adults. Is he married? Need more information to answer this question. If he is single, and you are at lease in yer mid twenties, I dont see too much of a problem. You just have to make sure that you are looking for the same things in life (long term, such as marrage and kids, buying a house, things like that). Depending on his age, if he is not married and doesn't have kids, maybe he doesn't want that, or maybe he hasn't found the right person. It's safe to say in the long run you may want those things. There is a lot too look at here. Good luck.
2006-07-21 06:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 3 kinds of love. The first is identified by the Greek word "agape" which is the love God has for his children. The second is "philia" which describes love that is shared between persons who are friends (can also be used to describe a brother/sister relationship). The third is "eros" where we get our English word "erotic". This love is shared between a husband and wife. The "love" you say you have for this person is not a love but a lust if it is for the purpose of fulfilling your need in a selfish manner. And all sex outside of marriage is selfish. outside of the sexual desire you feel for this person you can help describe this "love" if it causes you to do one of three things...phileo: you see him as a friend (or sibling); Eros, if you desire this person sexually; and, agape, if you want this person to have a fulfilling and happy life--even if it means never having you in their life. But one can never suppress love. We are made to express these kinds of love appropriately and towards the right person, otherwise you will do more harm than good. Think about it. Step back and judge your motivations and your heart.
2006-07-21 06:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by weepingprophet15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to let it be, the negatives far outweigh the positives here, even if he is interested.
You see the age difference as an issue, whether you think he will or not. If you want to supress it, you will need to manage it on your own. Telling him will make things ackward in ways you aren't even thinking of right now.
Once again, even if he returned your feelings, what would happen to you, your position, your potential if the relationship fell apart later... think it all through and find someone who better represents everything you want - or keep looking.
2006-07-21 06:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by You_got 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is just a chemical reaction in our brains that is Mother Natures bumbling way of creating parents that should stay together long enough to safeguard any children. Mother Nature never banked on all the attached stress that this little chemical reaction would cause but there are 8 Billion of us now so who is going to fight with Mother Nature?
Its just another Tsunami (your own special one)
2006-07-21 06:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by TD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just shut off your feelings, lil sis! It's hard to answer what is appropriate because I don't know either of your ages, but love is a funny thing... it doesn't follow rules, cultural boundaries, sex or age... so if you are in love with this dude, then you're in love with him and there isn't much you can do other than follow your heart or turn your attentions elsewhere...
Good Luck, sister!
Aloha!!
2006-07-21 06:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, ask yourself :'How well do I know him?". Also, are you experiencing the true, genuine love or is it just a temporary (Summer) fling? Why don't you start slowly- be friends. If you are convinced that you're really in love, then I'd suggest that you should explain to him how you feel.
Good Luck
2006-07-21 06:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by BeBe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it if hes not married.. and not gay Lol just kidding but love has no age limits unless you are talking about a child .... I am 20 yrs old and in love with a 17yr old yea thats lame but oh well its love.
2006-07-21 06:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by ABC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont say anything to him... The only thing that will come out of this is pain for you.... forget it all... concentrate on your goals in life and remind yourself that ur life is too important to be thrown away like that
2006-07-21 06:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave him alone but thats just me.If you really like him and love him then go for it.tell him how you feel and don't worry about you're age.good luck
2006-07-21 06:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋