i mean should he assist in the area of doing the cleaning in the house,cooking,sweeping,ioning and other donestic work at home or the woman should be left alone doing everything?
2006-07-21 06:08:59 · 117 answers · asked by baby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's all a question of a fair division of labour - marriage is a partnership, after all.
If the husband goes out to work long hours and the wife stays at home on her own then she should be contributing to the partnership by doing all the domestic chores.
If there are small children in the house needing constant attention then she should do as much as the children's demands permit (the children should come first!) and the husband should do the rest - or at least take the kids off her hands so she can do the rest in peace. Looking after children is often more tiring and time consuming than many other household jobs.
If both partners work similar hours then they should also divide the domestic workload evenly between them.
In the end it's up to both husband and wife to agree an arrangement that suits them... but that's not the same as one not bothering to do anything and therefore forcing the other to do everything!
2006-07-21 06:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If there are small children in the house needing constant attention then she should do as much as the children's demands permit (the children should come first!) and the husband should do the rest - or at least take the kids off her hands so she can do the rest in peace. Looking after children is often more tiring and time consuming than many other household jobs.
If both partners work similar hours then they should also divide the domestic workload evenly between them.
In the end it's up to both husband and wife to agree an arrangement that suits them... but that's not the same as one not bothering to do anything and therefore forcing the other to do everything!
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2014-11-02 12:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm amazed at the answers I've read. 115 posts and nobody considers what the guy might do for a living. Does the answer change if the guy's job is incredibly stressful or if the hours are terrible or if there a load of travel.
Does the answer change if, at the end of the day, the husband's work has provided college for the kids, a paid off mortgage and ample retirement savings for a comfotable life.
Is anyone suggesting that on the weekend the wife should provide support to the husband with his job? Should she go to his workplace and do his work for him.
It really is a tough call. The thing about housework is that is very very boring. But remember, there is little stress in that kind of job.
2006-07-25 00:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by nicowna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends but I my opinion sides on yes. Some wife's believe the husbands should help with domestic work and other believe it's more of their role. Statistically most wives prefer their husbands to help with the domestic work. It all depends on what type of work each person is equipped in handling. Through history, house wife's have done most domestic house hold work, while men do the type of work they're more equipped to do. It's important the all the work will get divided evenly so each partner has contributed a fair share. I feel it's important for a couple to be able to communicate with each about this. Discuss on how the work should be divided up. Also discuss which type of who you and her most prefer to do. Every person is different so it needs to addressed to the partner. Sometimes it's good to do a little more then asked because this will win respect and brownie points.
I hope this helps.
2006-07-21 06:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
en should come first!) and the husband should do the rest - or at least take the kids off her hands so she can do the rest in peace. Looking after children is often more tiring and time consuming than many other household jobs.
If both partners work similar hours then they should also divide the domestic workload evenly between them.
In the end it's up to both husband and wife to agree an arrangement that suits them... but that's not the same as one not bothering to do anything and therefore forcing t
2014-11-07 07:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends. Does the wife work? If she does and it is a job that is just as time consuming as the husband's then I do not think it is right if a woman does everything "domestic". If the wife choses to stay at home and take on the role of a housewife, then I believe that the wife should end up doing the majority of the housework since the husband is out working all day. Do you really think it would be fair if the husband busts his butt all day long and then has to come home and vaccuum the rugs? I personally feel if the husband would like to help out, then he is a wonderful man, but if he doesn't...cut him some slack since he is trying to support a household financially and that is stressful enough.
2006-07-21 06:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tytania 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the man help to make the messes, dirty up the house, wear clothes, enjoy eating meals at home? If the answers to these Q's are yes, then you have your answer! If both parties are working outside the home then it should be a 50/50 partenrship in cleaning the home and cooking. If the other party is not working then it should be more like 70/30. It's not the "HAVE TOO" that comes into play here it;s the "WANT TOO". You want to help out because you appreciate all that your partener does to give you a comfortable home to come home to. You show your appreciation by helping out with the everyday mundane chores. In too many realtionships it's a thankless job and this causes stress in the relationship because the person who does all the chores begins to feel used and unappreciated. Share them, have fun while doing them, make it a prequell to something exciting once you have finished!
2006-07-21 06:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by Fancygal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its kind of amusing that you should feel the need to ask the question really! Respect, love and sharing includes the washing ironing and cleaning etc. Women are not slaves, but equals. If a woman is a housewife, then she will probably do the larger share of domestic chores because that is the 'job' that she/they have decided is right for the partnership, but the guy should muck in when he finishes his 'job'. If a woman goes to work, then the chores should be split 50/50. Strangly enough, when we are born, we dont come out holding a duster, a tin of pledge and a Dyson in our hands, in the similar way that we are not born knowing how to iron, it is something that is learnt, and men are capable of learning just as well as a woman!!
2006-07-21 06:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Moi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both working then he should help with all the domestic chores. If however you are at home and he is working, then I believe you should be doing all the housework and visa versa. I have been married for 14 years and there is not any domestic chore that my husband cannot do, and he does most of the cooking as well, as he enjoys doing it.
2006-07-21 09:33:33 · answer #9 · answered by Elana N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you for even asking this question. If you simply picked up your own stuff (like a responsible adult should be able to do)that would help I'm sure. And if this is your spouse, best friend, lover, etc. that you are sharing the home with then why would't you want to help that other person get the housework done so that you can spend more time doing things together that are oh so much more fun and entertaining than housework.
2006-07-21 06:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by tiff2conl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋