They've been together for a year. I completely trusted the boy until I found out they were having sex. But it just kept getting worse. Now I've recently found out that he's been telling people stories about the sex between them. My sister wouldn't even have had sex with him if not for his pressure on her. He's a very overwhelming person, and very clingy. He's not good for her. I've been standing by and watching this relationship go on for too long. I can't let him keep doing this to her! This is a bad situation, and he's gotten her into a lot of trouble. The stress in her life has a least DOUBLED due to him. How do I get her out of it without hurting her, and having her get mad at me?
2006-07-21 06:04:26 · 16 answers · asked by Nikki W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her about it.
2006-07-21 06:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your job to break them up. She's a big girl and if this relationship is a mistake, she'll have to figure that out on her own. And you'll seem like the bad guy if she suspects you of messing with her relationship. They had sex, so what? Guys talk and apparently she does too if she told you. Relax.
2006-07-21 13:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her. See if she will talk to you though. By this is mean, ask her if SHE is happy. She may not be and needs someone to help her out. Be careful how you word things though, people have the tendency to get on the offensive. Make sure you make clear to her how worried you are about her! Explain things you have seen happening. Try not to rehearse the conversation, it may not sound sincere. If she gets angry at you for mentioning it....give her time to cool down and she may come back to talk.
Regardless, she will listen and will ponder over your words.
Good luck and let me know how things turn out.
2006-07-21 13:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I believe if she know the situation, she is the one to have control over this. No matter how much you try. and if she doesn't believe you she will be angry at you. So sit with her and tell her how much you love her and to think what she is doing.
Other wise, your hands are cross.. sometime when we try to help, we end up the one in trouble, so be very wise.
2006-07-21 13:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Evy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe you love your sister a lot & does not want her to be unhappy, but its best to stay out of her affairs. The best way to deal with this situation is to have a serious talk with her & tell her about all the consequences she ll have to face later. Then leave her to handle it herself.
2006-07-21 13:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my parents most especially my mom about it. Your mom is the person who should intervene, not you. Let your mom talk to her gently and help your sister decide what is best for her.
I know you care deeply about your sister, and I praise you for trying to take initiative to protect her.
2006-07-21 13:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her life not yours. Tell her your concerns. If she listens, that's great. If not...it's her life not yours. Just back off and let her make her own mistakes. That's how we learn.
2006-07-21 13:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by virgogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way would be to talk about it to her and her boyfriend but not at the same time. make them realize what their doing is wrong.
2006-07-21 13:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by shaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi NikkI!!!!
u hav 2 say ur sis abt de boy.....n ya i think ur sis iz mature enough....so let her make her own decisions.....but ya u should discuss abt dis matter wid ur sis....ya in de startin she might start hatin u....she might not share any secret wid u....but 1 day she herself will come 2 know de truth n dat time she'll regret....but de least u can try iz doin counsellin wid her.....dis iz de way i think now its upto u...
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2006-07-21 13:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by $@LLu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. It's none of your business. Unfortunately, that's who SHE chooses and whether you like it or not, that is HER choice to make. Not yours.
2006-07-21 13:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your sis that he is doin this stuff! if that dont work then talk to a adult that you trust!! good luck.....
2006-07-21 13:40:13 · answer #11 · answered by Volleyball15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋