How can people say that God only gives people what they can cope with?

Question

My aunty has just lost two sons within 4 months, and she certainly is not coping. Her own health is not good,so we are worried about her. Has anyone religious got any views please

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to hear about ur Aunt and her 2 son's. Yeah I don't believe this either so many people suffering including me. I got problems that are more than I can cope with.

Answer 2

collective prayer might help your aunty ,its hard to understand why things happen but we all have to focus on the good in people and the good that was in the lives that have moved on. People just dont understand why things happen thats why they say you only get what yopu can cope with. remember the positive and think about what they would say, the sons who have passed on. god bless your aunty i will certainly pray for her . best of luck .

Answer 3

I am so sorry to hear about your aunty's losses.
Please note God does not give bad things to us or cause them to happen to us.
James 1:13 tells us:
'13 When under trial, let no one say: “I am being tried by God.” For with evil things God cannot be tried nor does he himself try anyone'

So even if a clergy person tells you differently they are mistaken

There are other reasons that tragedies happen.
please read this: "Does God Really Care?"

http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2002/4/8/article_01.htm


and this: "Why Does God Allow Us to Suffer?"

http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2003/1/1/article_01.htm

Answer 4

here are a few quotes for your aunt to read.

"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those who are crushed in spirit."
Psalm 34:18

"I am holding you by your right hand - I, the LORD your God. And I say to you, 'Do not be afraid. I am here to help you.'"
Isaiah 14:13

Jesus told her, "I am the resurrection and the life. Those who believe in me, even though they die like everyone else, will live again. They are given eternal life for believing in me and will never perish. Do you believe this, Martha?"
John 11:25-26

i hope these quotes have meaning to u.
GOD BLESS YOU

Answer 5

I agree with Treehse65. God gives you only what you can deal with, with His help. He also gives you challenges to help you grow, and other challenges to help other people grow. The way your Aunty handles this situation may give someone else (a friend, a relative, etc) the strength to deal with their problems now, or even in years to come. You never know how your actions and reactions will impact another person. It's an old cliche' but it's true, He never said it would be easy, only worth it.
I'll end with something that has given me a lot of peace over the years.

"If thou art called to pass through tribulation... If thou art accused with all manner of false accusations; if thine enemies fall upon thee; if they tear thee from the society of thy father and mother and brethren and sisters; and if [they] tear thee from the bosom of thy wife, and of thine offspring, and thine elder son, ... shall cling to thy garments, and shall say, My father, my father, why can’t you stay with us? O, my father... And if thou shouldst be cast into the pit, ... and the sentence of death passed upon thee; if thou be cast into the deep; if the billowing surge conspire against thee; if fierce winds become thine enemy; if the heavens gather blackness, and all the elements combine to hedge up the way; and above all, if the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou, my [child], that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good.
The Son of Man hath descended below them all. Art thou greater than he?"

Answer 6

They may be referring to 1 Corinthians 10:12 - 13. So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

The apostle Paul was also led to write this:
2Corinthians 1:3-11 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort.
We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about the hardships we suffered in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life. Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, as you help us by your prayers. Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many.

Sometimes, like your aunt, we feel overcome by events; the only way through it is to pray to God for help, and to ask your friends to pray for you. I haven't yet experienced your aunt's situation, but in the face of other challenges have found this approach to work.

Answer 7

God enjoys making people suffer. That's why he created earth, because there was no suffering in heaven and it got very boring. God is a sadistic being, in fact he's so evil that even when one of us humans was really a part of himself he couldn't resist torturing and killing him. Why anyone would worship or love this guy is beyond me.

Answer 8

I am sorry for your aunt. I know her heart is broken.

It is my belief that God did not cause the deaths of her sons. Now if she relies on Him, He will help her cope, but he did not cause their deaths.

Answer 9

I would suggest that maybe you could go and visit with your aunt and Pray together.
I think maybe your aunt and God are not as tight as they should be.
I hope your aunt gets better.
Prayers of faith.

Answer 10

My understanding is that the Lord only gives you what He and you TOGETHER can handle. Try and make it on your own - no guarantees