I posted a question earlier, and I would still like more input on it. Can you click my name and go to the last question I posted? I think the title is I'm Devastated. It would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
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2006-07-21 05:43:52 · 16 answers · asked by Green-Eyed Gal 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As with everything in life, marriage is a gamble. Many women are also not faithful, especially when their man is away, like in the armed forces. Don't let the chance of something bad happening stop you from experiancing life. In the long run, good and bad experiences will enrich your life. Getting on a highway is also a gamble and could result in a tragic death, but people still do it everyday. Don't hate your dad, try to understand. If your mom wants a divorce, that's her choice, but I hope it's not from a temporary state of mind. After all, true love conquers all and her husband's moment of weakness should be no exception, especially if he is repentent.
2006-07-21 05:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 9⤊ 3⤋
oh, the human animal and the frialties of personality!
These things happen. Since you are now big, you just have to accept that people may break up, just like teenagers, could happen at any time. Go on with your life. It wll be hard to forgive him, but, then he will punish himself far more than any one outside of himself ever could. That will be sad too.
It's sad and hard, yes when parents split. He messed up his marrige, but it doesn't mean anything about how your life will turn out. Don't let it!
The old adage about "walk a mile in those shoes" maybe you could even understand the shadowed side of reality. there may be deep seated frustration that forced its way to an outlet.
sad but probably true.
best to you,
Omnimog
2006-07-21 12:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by omnimog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to find someone who has already been through this experience and have come out happy and healthy. The best way to deal with a problem is to talk it out.
You still have a mother and a father and love them for that and nothing else. Remember they are alive and make the best of the relationship you have with each of them... don't be regretting later because they're gone.
2006-07-21 12:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by love bn a mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hurtful as it feels to you now - you have to remember that your parents have their own lives and baggage to deal with. They're human - just like you - and they make mistakes - just like you. Their situation is unique to them. For you to worry about what your future holds with your relationships is a little pre-mature at this point.
Even if you fell resentful toward your father, do your best not to take sides. You said he's been a good dad - no point in destroying your relationship with him no matter how disappointed you may be with him. You can still be sympathetic to your mom and as much as she may want a compadre with her emotional state, it will be unfair of her to drag you into the middle (if she tries). Be forewarned.
Also, as far as your future goes, you're 17 - you've got plenty of time. If you find you still have unresolved feelings about this (and men) in the future, the best thing you can do is see a therapist who specializes in family/marriage counseling. They will be a good soundboard for you to bounce unnresolved feelings off, as well as help you develop healthy feelings about men and your relationships as you move forward in life.
Good luck.
2006-07-21 12:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by pattitutde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have looked at all your questions. Why do you have to ask twice for an answer? You need to work on your self esteem and since your family is having issues some counseling would certainly help.
Good luck
G.G.
2006-07-21 12:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you think that you cant let any man into your life, as he might do the same to you, but you cant automatically assume that every man in the world is going to break your heart, that doesnt mean you cant be extremely carefull in finding some one, but there are loving faithful men out there, you just have to open your eyes and find them.
i really hope this helps
2006-07-21 12:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by Matt M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to heal your relationship with your father. Talk to him about it all. Let him know how you feel. It will not be a onetime thing. Most of the advice previously given is true. It does take time to heal. God bless.
2006-07-21 12:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Dennis Fargo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I answered on the other one.
2006-07-21 12:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um....I think it would be better if u'd go to it, and get the link and post it in this question!....
2006-07-21 12:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
d accord
2006-07-21 12:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋