What should I do if I'm engaged to be married and I don't think my family will approve?

Question

My father still thinks of me as "Daddy's Little Girl". He knows I've been with my fiance for about 6 years but he doesn't know we're engaged. My dad said that he really liked my fiance. So I'm not worried about them not getting along. I'm just worried about his reaction and not getting his blessing. I understand that I am still young and I have a lot to do with my future still like going to college. But I love my fiance and I always will. Nothing and nobody can change that. I don't think my mom will care too much. But I'm not sure about the rest of the family. More than anyone I want my dad's blessing. I just want some advice on how to tell my family about my engagement.

Answer 1

I got married when I was 16 my father didn't know about it but you should tell him even if you don't get his blessing you are happy and you shouldn't let your father come between you two. sooner or later he will come to terms that you aren't daddys little girl. yeah maybe in eyes you always will be but he will come to terms with it

Answer 2

The two of you should tell them together, so they can see his face and read his reaction when you tell them. Too many girls get engaged to a guy by practically bullying him into it; he's not really enthusiastic about the idea. That may be especially true where you've been dating a long time, and crossing the line to engagement is something that comes as a surprise. But I don't think they will be hostile, just surprised.

Of course, you need to be prepared to discuss details of the wedding, the when and how big, how traditional, etc., since that's what will matter to your parents, especially your mother. Be flexible; as long as you get married, it doesn't matter all that much about the details.

Answer 3

The cleaner the apron string are cut, the more they want to come back to the kitchen. I wish more parents would learn this.

You need to be an adult and sit down and talk with your father. Even more so, you need to be an adult and stand up for your love of this other man.

Ask yourself: which is more important, my father's blessing or my love for my fiance?

Answer 4

I am glad he has already met your family. Now you both should go over there and tell them you have anouncement to make. They just want you to be happy . You will be their little girl; no matter how old you are.. He is not marrying the family. It him that loves you . You just have to see what happens, but you would be surpised they just want the best for you. Good Luck Cong. Pem

Answer 5

well if you're dad already said he really likes your fiance and you predict your mom will be OK with your engagement, then you're most of the way there. that the main "argument" you're predicting is your youth....and it sounds like you're well prepared to address that issue e.g., your decision to still go to college. you just need the courage of your convictions when you face your dad. in the end, it's your life and given how much it sounds like your father loves you, i think he will give his blessing even if he wishes you'd wait longer.

Answer 6

This is the best answer and you wont believe the respect it will gain with your father,

If you fiance is willing have him speak to your dad and ask for your hand in marriage.

You will be suprised !!

Congratulations !!

Answer 7

Listen to your family...they have been around a lot longer than you. And, by the way, divorce sucks...BIG time. They are trying to save you from that. If it is that good, & solid, you can wait & maybe he can convince dad that he isn't so bad...

Answer 8

first things first tell your dad your not a dadys girl and to your engaged boyfrind tell him that you are going to get married and don't let youur dad ruin your future?