what would you tell a friend who told you she wanted to kill herself?

Answer 1

Like the elephant, we are unconscious of our own strength. When it comes to understanding the power we have to make a difference in our own lives, we might as well be asleep. If you want to make your dreams come true, wake up. Wake up to your own strength. Wake up to the role you play in your own destiny. Wake up to the power you have to choose what you think, do, and say.

So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.

In the midst of hopes and cares, of apprehensions and of disquietude, regard every day that dawns upon you as if it was to be your last; then super-added hours, to the enjoyment of which you had not looked forward, will prove an acceptable boon.

Live, Desire, Acquire & then Inspire.

Answer 2

Ask her why.Tell her that you understand.Ask her if she can maybe wait until she speaks to some council.
What you don't want to do,as people often do,is cheering her up with remarks as"it isn't so bad","you have so much to live for""life is beautiful".
Although this may seem friendly and positive remarks you must understand that they also minimals her problems and make her feel like she's not taken completely serious.Let her speak about her problems,emphasis,give her love,make her know that you are there for her if she wants.Tell her you and others will miss her and why she is appreciated.
Remember to not come with quick solutions,that's insulting.She wants to kill herself for it and you think it's solvable in a minute?Always think before you speak.
Good luck,hope it works out and she will live a long and happy life.

Answer 3

gosh that's a toughy.

I would ask her why and what would drive her to such an extreme and hopefully try to talk things out with her and make her see that things are not as bad as it seems. Nothing should make you wanna take away your life.

I would also meet up with my friend and have a face-to-face heart-to-heart. It's much better than talking to her on the phone and also it'll ensure that she isn't doing a number on her wrists as you talk to her.

talking should help. If it is serious, tell another friend and talk to her parents or a school councellor.

I hope that this was a question out of general curiosity and not real life!

Answer 4

I can relate because I have a friend who tries to kill himself every time he is frustrated or things does not go his way. I live in New York and he live in Virginia and he is still alive. I have known him for 1 years. You have to make the person feel very comfortable, especially around you. Let the person know you love them and they can count on you no matter the situation. Whenever they are in a crisis talk to them to calm them down, get their mind of of things. If you have not heard from the person in a while or calls you for advice drop everything and listen because they are coming to you for help and you want to be there with all ears and a strong heart to give support, it worked for me. Good Luck.

Answer 5

It's hard to comfort someone who feels this way, but it is important to try.

When people feel so full of despair that they want to die, they feel worthless. When you spend time with them and make them feel loved, that feeling starts to go away, slowly, and can make a difference.

Try to get her into situations with several people who love her and try to get her to see that she has many reasons to live.

However, if she tells you that she is actually planning on committing suicide, you need to call someone. Your friend might hate you for a while if you do so, as suicide risks are often commited for a few weeks or held in the hospital for a while. But it beats having your friend die.

Things you should never say to a suicidal person are:
I know how you feel
I can relate

People who are at a point where they want to die don't think anyone feels like they do. The only effective way to help these people is to love and support them, give them constant attention and / or get them to a professional.

Until that point, stick to your friend like glue. I've suffered from horrible depression, and I didn't want to hang out with anyone. But my friends and family made me. They came over whether I wanted them to or not, and it helped me to admit that I needed professional help.

Answer 6

Depends on age. If she is a teenager - tell her parents.

If she is an adult, if you want to talk to her before taking any action, as morbid as this sounds - as her how she would do it. People who have "a plan" are generally more serious with that comment, as opposed to people that are having a crappy week.

Either way - I would tell her that her saying that to you gives you the responsibility of taking action. If she gets offended because you called her parents, or the police, or a psychologist - that's something you'll have to deal with ... but well worth it considering the alternative.

Answer 7

Dont leave her a lone. I've been there myself, and sometimes the person doesnt really want to die, just for the pain to go away. It could be a cry for help since she told you. 95 % its a cry for help. Talk to her, ask her what is so bad that she wants to die? Tell her that you care about her, you dont want to see her hurt. You dont want her to die. Convince her to get help, go to a crisis center. If this is the first time you have heard this from her, convince her into telling her parents or a pastor. I hope this helps

Answer 8

well first you should ask them how long they have felt that way, and ask them what it is that is making them feel that way, and tell them that they need to go to a dr to get them put on an anti depreasant because they are obviously depreased or they would not have these feelings. let them know that things do get better and that taking your life does not have to be the solution the problems are just temperary. remember to be there for that friend becasuse she really needs someone to talk to. you should try to tell someone else like her parents or another close friend that way you can create a network of friends to support her

Answer 9

dont talk to your friend go to some one right now that can help her. this way you have a chance to save her and that will mean so much to her to know someone cares.

Answer 10

tell some one who can take control of the situation immediately!