Ive had a boyfriend for 7 years, on and off but mostly on. A few months back we went his tourny for hockey. We were on the rocks before hand, trust issues were bad. I chilled with another guy (who I will call mister x) on his team more than anyone, we really hit it off, it was refreshing. When we came back, my boyfriend and I spilt, and I hung out w/ mister x, had a great time, he seemed really into me, as I was him. Hung out again the following night, he was very distant from me, and stopped calling. I was really upset.
Im back with my boyfriend now, trying to work out trust issues and communicate. It's hard because my boyfriend and I are best friends, we truly care about eachother alot but 22 now, and have been with him since 14. I cant stop thinking of mister x.
2006-07-21 05:03:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably backed off beacuse your b-friend is a team mate and probably a friend of his. Your b-friend probably confided in him or he caught word that he was trying to get back with you. So, he backed off.
If you don't want to work it out with him, tell him and end it. Then mister x may come back around.
I also suggest if you can not work it out with the b-friend, try going outside your circle of friends and find a new guy - many out there.
2006-07-21 05:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by DrMikeonCall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to face the truth: your seven year relationship is nearing it's end. In a relationship, your thoughts should only be of your partner... that appears to have changed. He may be your best friend, but is he the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Perhaps you only have an infatuation with Mister x... but that really doesn't matter... what matters is you are realizing there is more out there. Your current relationship began when you were a child... and it's possible it could continue for the rest of your life. But now that you're 22, your needs and desires are much more than they were when you were 14. You need to do some self-exploration... decide who and what is important to you. You need to examine your values and morals... are you the person you think are? By looking within yourself, and give it some time, you'll be in a better position to determine what it truly is you want out of this one life you've been given.
2006-07-21 12:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mike S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it with both guys. Take time for your self. A month, a few months, a year. What do you really want out of life? Where to you want to be in 10 or 20 years? Work on the hard life decisions. Spend time with your family, girl friends, and self. Who knows, one of these guys may go crazy without you or someone else may be your Mr. Right.
2006-07-21 12:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by ladytc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mister x lost interest in you, so put him behind you...if you dig your on-again-off-again bf so much, why would you risk that by allowing yourself to dwell on someone who has indicated he's not interested?
Let it go...you're not being fair to the guy you are with, if you are spending time thinking of someone else...either stick with current guy, or cut ties permanently and go see what's out there in the big world...
My guess is that a large part of your problem is that you committed to someone at WAY too young of an age, and haven't allowed yourself to really live life, experience relationship with others, ect..you will likely come to regret this decision at some point, if you stick with current guy long-term...
Mister x is on your mind, because you've not given yourself the opportunity to explore things with others...chances of both you and your current straying at some point, are quite high...simply because you will each begin to realize what you've allowed yourselves to miss out on...
2006-07-21 12:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You loved the Mr.1 first then fell for Mr. 2. Now Mr. 2 is not feeling for you at the same time you are not feeling for Mr. 1. Forget about Mr. 1 & Mr. 2. Go for Mr. 3 then for Mr. 4 then .............. I don't see any good future of yours with such type of attitude towards life. Try to change.
2006-07-21 12:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoaaaa sis sounds like some sop story. well if mister X separated himself from you the best thing to do is just leave him alone. I know your going to keep thinking of him but you have to find some way to forget about him. maybe you should sound yourself with new things.
2006-07-21 12:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by yaya t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget "Mister X" he obviously isnt interested...If you sincerely want to work on your relationship with the BF, then do it, why be deceitful with him, while thinking of the other guy who has obviously not given you another thought! Be an adult!!
2006-07-21 12:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Mr.X backed off in respect for your boyfriend. You are most likely building Mr.X into some dream man, because you know he is unattainable. Only you know where this is going, but maybe you and your boyfriend should cool it for a while so you can decide if he is the right guy for you.
2006-07-21 12:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there,,sounds like ,,your b/f and this guy are close and if any honour was there he must have asked if he could see you ,,and guess the answer was no ,,so thats why the distance ,,,but your b/f wants you to himself and seems like hes the one that the trust issure is about ,,kinda like have your cake and eat it to,,,,if hes not going to commit to you hun ,,maybe get out and give some time before ,you see mr x,,but if hes into you ,,he will understand,,let him know whats up ,,
2006-07-21 12:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by fyr s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be single and experience different guys. Mr X is exciting because he is different. You are going to hurt your BF and lose a good friend if you don't end it and experience life single for a while. Don' become a cheating wh0re!!!!
2006-07-21 12:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋