2006-07-21 05:02:14 · 15 answers · asked by LarryGuy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It depends on what age the child is- I think that if a child, even a toddler is having a nightmare, the mother and father should take turns going in the romm and comforting the child, in the child's OWN bed, rub his bad, forehead, talk softly to them until they fall back asleep and then go back to your own room. Otherwise it will be harder and harder to get them to sleep in their own bed in the future.
This also reassures them that their own bed and room are a safe place. If both parents go alternately and comfort him or her, mom one night and dad the next and so on, this helps to reinforce a unified team and gives one less open door to parental manipulation, playing one parent against the other .
As long as the child is sleeping with mom and dad disagrees you have a unified mom and child front against dad and that is not appropriate nor is it healthy for the child or the marriage
2006-07-21 05:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see so many negative answers here it is disheartening. You are not there for your child in a simple little matter as a nightmare why should they trust you to be there in the much larger issues? Your teen gets pregnant, why didn't you talk to me? Uh, let's see, I don't know. You have problems with your child stealing, Why didn't you talk to me? Uh, I don't know. If you are not to be counted on now, what about when the real problems start arising. Parents are going to have to start realizing these little creatures they call kids are human beings. How would it make you feel as a wife if you had a fear issue and your husband told you to get lost I don't want bothered by you. Or maybe you husbands, I lost my job today, wife says that is nice but don't bother me right now I am busy. I don't have time for your trivial little problems. Don't you think it is time for parents to see their children as more than excess baggage. They have fears, concerns and worries just as adults do.
2006-07-21 12:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, that will open a can of worms that will be hard to shut, give your child a nightlight and reassure them that it is only a nightmare and that it will go away, limiting late night viewing of aggressive movies or shows helps prevent these especially if they are sensitive but do not let them sleep with you because it will go beyond just the nightmares and it will become your nightmare especially it you and your husband want some private time.
2006-07-21 12:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all depends. I was 9-11 when I had all of my nightmares. None reallly at a younger age, and was I going to sleep with them? Uh no. My nephew's phycologist told us that when he has a nightmare to draw it on a piece of paper ( monster) then you draw a monster, then you cut it up , and put in a bag and tie it up. I works well for him. Yes, I think it would be ok, if a little one slept with you.
2006-07-21 12:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by vmbbfreak06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because then when they have a nightmare when they are older they will still come to you. Let them come to your room but he or she should not be able to come in the bed. Walk him back to his room while he explains his dream to you and say it is just your imagination. Then help him think happy thoughts.
This works very well with children!
Good luck!
2006-07-21 12:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Wiens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Teach them to get up on there own and watch Tv or drink a glass of water. Also If they continue to have nighmares something may be going on in there lives that cause it so after a while you could consult a counselour of some sort.
2006-07-21 12:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by alphabuenaunis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. What other reason is there to be a mother than to nurture. All kids need to know they call always rely on their mother. I always put them back in their beds when they have calmed down.
2006-07-21 13:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by i.needitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every time , only first or second time, when they have one teach them to stay in their bed and think of happy things. Such as, going to work with daddy or going to a friends house somthing exciting to them.
2006-07-21 12:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by DUH! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no, that will just teach them to be a baby. They'll have to grow up sometime and learn that nightmares arent real, and going to cuddle with mommy is definetly NOT going to teach them that.
2006-07-21 12:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by vannabanana138 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a problem unless it bothers you. They need some comfort when they get scared. So if you don't want them in bed with you, spend a little time to help them feel more secure in their own bed.
2006-07-21 12:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋