my b/f just started his job yesterday. he works morning and i work nights. we really wont get to see each other much. if u were in this sitution what would u do? is this really going to affect our relationship? emotionally and phsically cant spell very good
2006-07-21 05:01:46 · 19 answers · asked by horses19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-21 05:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the spell check.
If you are destined for each other, your relationship will survive. If you want to be together, you will make time for each other and behave when the other is at work. If your relationship isn't strong enough to accommodate this, it isn't meant to be.
I'm not sure what you expect from the question, "What would you do"? You could break up, if that is an option in your mind, or you could try to change jobs, if you think that it is worth it. I guess my best advice is to try to make the most of the situation for a while and see what happens. If you want to look for a day job and it's a reasonable alternative, go for it.
Good luck.
2006-07-21 12:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by nighthawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this going to affect your relationship? Absolutely and you would be foolish to think that it won't.
If you want the relationship to work you will need to make time for each other... surprise each other with together time.. leave each other love letters or notes in your pockets that they find later in the day... be much more creative...
Having said all of that, it will become increasingly difficult to maintain this relationship. After a while it is hard to keep your eyes on the "short term sacrifice for a long time gain" mentality necessary to survive this situation.
You should ask yourself, "Do I have the stanima and think this relationship is worth the struggle it will take to keep it."
Good luck with all of that.
2006-07-21 12:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If will effect your relationship if you let it. There will always be ups and downs in a relationship, if you want to keep your relationship, you will just need to work a little harder on it. Make the effort and things will be just fine. If you work it right, your relationship can even end up better than it is already. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Make the moments you have count.
If you close enough, suprise him with special lunch trips.
Plan things on your days off.
Meet after work.
There are always opportunities for little sexy things you can do, give him reasons to rush home after work.
2006-07-21 12:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Drea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he works mornings and you work nights, try to find a median in there where you can send sometime, if you aren't sleep go have lucnh with on his break or he could come have lunch with you a number of things can be arranged, and it won't affect your relationship unless one of you or the two of you let it. Changes happen in relationships you just have to make the adjustment.
2006-07-21 12:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be a benefit if you look at it this way. yes, it will give you less time together which is the bad part. however, it will give you space and time to build up more to talk about. it will give you more excitement bcs you will see each other less but when you do see each other there will be more spark & excitement. it will build sexual tension which is always good. no one likes to see their lover less but nothing more exciting then when you finally do after so much time apart. you talk for hours and make love to no end...good luck! just be patient!
2006-07-21 12:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by HopeThisHelps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a challenge at 1 but make sure you take time out to enjoy each other. in between shifts you can take time out 4 each other. people have made it yrs. like this. so i wish you all the best
2006-07-21 12:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually this might be OK. they say that absence makes the heart grow fonder. meaning that since you wont see each other a lot then you will miss each other making the time you r together that much better. just make sure to make time to see each other.
2006-07-21 12:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you both really like/love eack other you should both do an effort to spend more time together by working less hours or spending the time you do have together and just make the best of it .just try to hang in their if you really care for him.but thats just my opinion after all i am only 13.!
2006-07-21 12:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by linduhbby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try taking him out on holidays n of course try spenting some pleasure time with him after office.i know its tedious but u dont have a choise .or elsekeep close by chatting in phone or mail
2006-07-21 12:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by JIJO G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make time for each other it allows for spontaneity surprise him at work your home during the day he's at home in the nigth make it happen if you real want to be together best of luck
2006-07-21 12:09:00 · answer #11 · answered by playful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋