Do you want to have kids or not?

Question

How do you know you're ready to have children? Is it wrong to not want to?

Answer 1

Sure, it's not wrong to not want children.... But I don't know when you're ready to have children or not. You got to be emotionally, mentally and physically ready. You can adopt or give birth to a baby... but I wouldn't like getting up in the middle of the night to change a diaper or to just feed the baby... ^_^

Answer 2

I don't think it's wrong to not want kids. A lot of really nice people don't for whatever reason, and that's fine.

I am not a parent, so I can't really say when it's best to have them if you want them. I guess you just have to examine your situation and see if you have the financial and emotional stability to do it. I've heard people saying things like "You'll never be ready. Just jump in and do it." There probably is some truth to that; I don't think anyone is every totally ready to enter parenthood. Then again, I am not a parent, so I can't really speak from experience. However, I once heard this spoken to a young couple in college who were scrambling for money to pay the bills. Now, I'm sure that no one is every "ready," but I'm sure that couple could have been more ready than they were at that time.

For a long time, I have been tossing around the idea of whether or not to have kids. Right now, I'm kind of leaning towards no, but I am currently single with no prospects in sight. Some might look down on me for this, but when I was younger (like teenage), we used to have a lot of family get-togethers at my aunt and uncle's house. They don't have any kids, and I always thought it would be so neat to live the way they did--just having themselves, with no responsibility of children. Granted, my uncle had two daughters from a previous marriage, but they never lived with him and my aunt. Anyway, I just thought it would be so neat to live they way they did, though I knew their lives were not perfect.

Now, a lot of people would look at the lifestyle of my aunt and uncle and say "How could anyone live like that?" So I think it's just my preference and everyone feels differently about it. There are already over 6 billion people on the planet, so not having kids is obviously not going to hurt anyone. If everyone decided to do that, it would, but that is not going to happen.

Answer 3

It is never wrong to want or not want children it is a matter of personal choice, but before conceiving a child you should be somewhat financially stable and have a good job with insurance most people have a hard time affording children but you do the best that you can and go forward from there.

Answer 4

I am a mother of three, grandparent of five, and the happiest couples I know do not have children.

I wouldn't change the fact that I had them, but I sometimes wish I could have done all of the things I might have done if I hadn't.

Even at 48, when I finally was able to go back to school, I had to drop out when my youngest got sick. Now, having had the kids, I don't resent the fact that it was my responsibility to care for them, nor the fact that I had to give up a lot. But I often wonder . . .

No, it's not bad not to want children at all. Nor is it bad to want them. It's wonderful that after so many, many generations, we have the choice. Women in many places still do not.

Answer 5

Of course I want, some time in the future... I think you never KNOW you're ready, but when it happens you should embrace it and learn how to live with this new role in your life, being a parent... But if you REALLY don't want to have children, then don't... It's for the best... If you do, you will just make each other miserable for the rest of your life...

Answer 6

Having children will be the biggest responsibility of your life! No it is not wrong to not want children. At least you are honest about it.
Some people have children that don't really want them and look what happens to the child. My fiance new he never wanted children when he was younger. He loves children but he knew he could not take on such a huge responsibility, . He is wonderful with my children and now my grandchildren. They absolutely adore him. He plays with them, jokes with them and thoroughly enjoys them but he does not have that responsibility of raising them. I think it is best if you really think about this. Please do not have a child just to have one like everyone else. If you decide you definitely do not want one, Then Don't. You can always enjoy your nieces and nephews or friends children. Good Luck in your decision and God Bless.

Answer 7

Not in the least! I know several people who don't want kids ever. Someday you may change your mind and, trust me, you will know! I was the opposite, I always wanted a baby, but just one! After I had my son, I can totally feel the difference! I have NO desire to be pregnant again!!! It's a personal decision and one you should take seriously. Just make sure if you think there's a chance you will not ever want kids that should you get married your husband feels the same way. My brother doesn't ever want kids and he told his girlfriend this before they got married, she said she wanted 5 or 6 kids, they got married anyhow. She now thinks she can change his mind and is desperately wanting to get pregnant. Its causing a lot of stress on their marriage. Don't compromise yourself on this either! You don't want to bring a child into the world that you don't want! No worries though, your perfectly normal!

Answer 8

No, it is fine to not want to. Most couples in Europe and other countries other than the US don't have kids because they are more aware of the space and situation of the planet. There are too many people in this world already. Stupid people should stop haveing kids as "accidents." Because then, they raise their kids as consumer rednecks who don't care what impact their lifestyle will have on other people and on the environment. They just drive their SUVs, make lame excuses that global warming isn't happening, annoy people by trying to convert them to their religion, and buy crap from Walmart. If you dont want to have kids, then dont. Overpopulation is going to be a problem in this world soon. If you really want to have a family and want to raise your kids so that they can help with the future of this planet rather than work to destroy it, then I say, go ahead.

Answer 9

I already have 2 and I always wanted to have kids. The ready mode will kick in and you will just know. There's nothing wrong with not wanting kids. I actually appreciate people who don't want to have kids and really don't have them. So many people don't want to have them and give in to societies mark of shame if you don't and have them just to have them. Kids should always be wanted when they're brought into this world.

Answer 10

No one is every ready for children. And no it is not wrong not to want children but if you are religious in any manner then the book says to go forth and multiply.