first off is it a bad thing that im am very protective ogf myself when im in a relationship i never trust my boyfriends and always afraid of getting my heart broken so i never fully open myself up to them and the relatipnships never go any where im only 18 but im still worried about the long run!!! im always so guarded and extremely picky with who i date and no matter how much i try i cant express my feelings or tell them how i feel unless they tell me first. not to sound conceited but im not ugly or fat or have any deformities i have confidence and i always get noticed by the guy first but i still never can initiate any thing in a relationship unless they make the first move and ive pushed away some guys that have truely liked me but i cant help it. and the bad thing is i know what my problem is but i cant fix it. what do i do a recent relationship that i had just ended because i couldnt even get over myself long enough to call him and i reeeeealllly liked him.any suggestions. help!!
2006-07-21 04:30:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am a girl
2006-07-21 04:35:23 · update #1
Just relax, you're only 18. You have time.
There's nothing wrong with being picky (sorry, guys).
You'll know when someone is right for you, you'll feel it. Don't push yourself.
Good luck!
2006-07-21 04:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by orchidea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is this. You are young. Young people have a lack of experience when it comes to dating. I know this being that I am 26 and the person I am seeing is 21 (as of this Saturday).
There is nothing wrong with being overprotective of yourself. Protecting yourself from being hurt is natural, but when you enter in a relationship, you are accepting some risk because relationships do not always work out.
My advice is this. If you currently do not have the ability to trust someone, then do not show interest in having a relationship at this time. All it can do is cause pain to the other person. When you feel you are a ready to trust someone, then allow yourself to be involved but when people ask if you want to go out, merely tell them you are only looking for friends at this time.
A relationship is about two people, not just about one person. I tell the person I am seeing this all the time. It takes two to make a relationship, so my advice is if you are not ready and willing to put someone else over yourself, then do not bother with relationships at this time.
2006-07-21 11:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by tiravellian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay back you need to be relaxed even if u break up give it time and the heart will Heal
2006-07-21 11:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by TE LEGEND IN THE MAKING 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's courageous to recognize your weakness but the next step will be to discuss these same exact feelings with someone you really like and see what they have to say..if he really likes you he'll appreciate your honesty and attempt to break down those walls, with your help of course
2006-07-21 11:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by gennalo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a makeover done.change hairstyle n make some body.tht will make u into a completely new man !
2006-07-21 11:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by pri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax ! and enjoy ur life go ahead and hunt !
2006-07-21 11:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by nurslife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋