A lot of people get hurt and that leaves them scarred....many are afraid of letting people "in" or trusting people...many "think" they will never find a person
like they had before...
2006-07-21 04:25:14 · 7 answers · asked by lilgigglez2207 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what it feels like. Even though I'm only 16....I've been through it. It feels like I'll never "truely" be able to get really close to another girl again. But I'll say this.........in the time I've been thinking about my problem (same as urs) and talked to others about it......I've realized this. You need to really think about how you changed from this past relationship........and what you've learned from it. And take all of that into the next relationship once you're ready. We need to keep getting up when we fall.....and eventually we'll stay up..walking the path to our happy ending. The right guy will be the one that makes you trust him......that makes you a believe he can be better then what you had before. There'll always be someone better out there........they're just harder to find. But you'll know when you do. But you'll never find that someone that's better if you're not open to the possibilities of another relationship....and I know it's easier said then done.......but just stay ready for that guy when he comes along...and don't scare him away because your "closed up" still. We never forget the ones in our past....but you have to move on to the next chapter of your life.
2006-07-21 04:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by high heat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's difficult but the only thing you can do is just risk it. Nothing, I mean nothing is going to happen if you don't get out of your comfort zone and start seeing people. If you're always going to be afraid of getting hurt and if you don't start trusting people again, you're going to end up alone. If I were you, I would have more fear of ending up alone for the rest of my life than getting hurt. Believe it or not, there are people out there who are honest and trustworthy. You just have to try harder to find them. Remember the clock is ticking. The sooner you change, the better.
2006-07-21 11:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by pureessence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly agree with you...I'm sort of in that same position...I love someone so very much but he will probably never love me back in the same way...I find it so hard to even think of finding anyone else because I have put so much into this other relationship and it's hard to imagine myself ever meeting anyone else that I could possibly share as much with. It's not that I'm opposed to meeting anyone new it's just that I have this funny "feeling" that I will never meet someone who I can relate to as well and that I feel as comfortable with...it's scary and sad....I don't want to be alone forever....I would much rather share my life with someone eventually. It's not even that I need someone RIGHT NOW...I don't mind taking it easy and waiting because I'm not the type of person to rush into things but I just would like to think that one day I will have the chance at someone else....I guess the best you can do is take it one day at a time and hope that someone will cross paths with you when you least expect it....only problem is, I've been waiting for this to happen for the past 3 yrs. and no go.....I hope that you have better luck!!
2006-07-21 11:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know. But I guess that you never lose that fear. It will always be there you just have to realize that without taking chance nothing good will happened. If you don't get hurt, betrayed, humiliated at least sometimes in your life you cannot say you are real person. And thats how it is.
"Its your fear that makes you worthy."
2006-07-21 11:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by HarMonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loosing the fear of getting hurt, is by facing your fears, if you dont learn to face your fears, you will never conquer them, you will be faced with alot of your fears, so take the right attitude today and learn to face them, and no matter what happened you have moved past that fearsome scenerio.
2006-07-21 11:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Blessed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never find two people just alike. Just don't get so involved with them so fast. Take it slow and see what developes and if nothing dose then move on
2006-07-21 11:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just takes time. i think that fear is always there, but you learn how to deal with it over time.
a wise man (my father) once told me that you have to take risks to get anywhere in life. you have to risk getting hurt in order to find love.
2006-07-21 11:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋