i would like to stay a virgin until im married...not because i want to, but because i promised my parents and i know its the right and safest thing to do. i get a lot of pressure about it and sometimes i wonder if its a turn off in a situation where a guy asks you if you've been with anyone and you say no. will that make him like you less? it's really hard these days especially with all the pressure that gets put on you...
2006-07-21 04:12:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guys have asked me and i sort of just ignore them...STDS and getting pregnant doesn't appeal to me much. the guys dont usually get bummed out or angry, but i just want to know what you all think
2006-07-21 04:22:24 · update #1
I like it more if you're a virgin, that gives a first impression to a guy that you're an innocent person and you haven't been with anyone in bed. Not only does it give a nice impression, it scindillates to the guy that you're high-class and not some low-class slut who sleeps with any guy that she meets. And no, I would like it more if she's a virgin, therefore I can trust her.
2006-07-21 04:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. to some guys it might..but to others it may not. See , what I think is , once you find a guy you really love..he will know you are a virgin..and that might make him feel better..knowing that you havent gone to far with a guy yet..and who know that guy might end up marring you..so you could lose it to him. But dont let any guy pressure you into having it when your not ready, if they do..leave them.. see if the guy really loved you he would respect your answer and will have to wait for when you are ready.. during that time he should complain.
I might be wrong about this..Im only 12..but you never know..I could be right...
2006-07-22 13:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tayy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is alot of pressure these day to stay a virgin. But I believe that for some guys; its a huge turn on that you are still a virgin, it means that you have self control, and able to stand up for what you believe in. Plus it also tells about you, that you want to save yourself for the one you love and marry, and that is special to a man knowing that you have saved it for him; and he should be the same way saving himself for you.
That's what I think, and know I am a virgin as well and know about the pressures of today
-Doc-
2006-07-21 04:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys aren't turned off by virgins. If they like you, they should like you for you anyways. I wouldn't worry about it, any guy that won't wait is only after one thing. I get offers all the time and I won't sleep with them. It's kind of weird though because the guys know that I am waiting, but it doesn't seem to bother them. Maybe they just want to see if they can change my mind. Who knows, but waiting really is the safest thing. Plus you get to see how the guys really feel about you.
2006-07-21 04:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mustang L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on the guy. Some will scoff and leave, some may get angry. Others will be fine with it. A lot may be turned on by it and want it more though haha.
I personally don't think there's anything wrong with premarital sex as long as you're in solid monogamous relationships.
Good luck and hope you find a great guy
2006-07-21 04:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'm not into virgins, unless it's going to be a very serious relationship. Other wise no I've done it a few times and it's really not good sex initially becasue it hurts her, I want it to be pleasurable she wants me to like it but at the same time I can't move so no thanks unless we are getting married. Then I will wait and I think it would be fun to have a woman explore her new found sexuall Godessness with me, and I'm kinky so yeah that would be fun, but it really does have to have serious potential.
2006-07-21 04:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i do not mind having a girl that wants to wait till marriage. I know the pressure is there. If that is what you believe you want to do then hold off. Good luck! If you want to talk feel free to IM me or email me. I am 23
2006-07-21 04:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by captainccc2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly not Mandii.
To be honest, there are alot of jerks out there that hunt for just that.
But, a decent guy wouldn't be bothered by it. I sure am not. I feel it's a very wise decision.
2006-07-21 04:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by brandonedbishop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think girls are prettier if they stay a virgin untill they are married it means that they want something in there life i am doing the same thing its a real turn on
2006-07-21 04:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually that wil probably make him lik you more, for in 2 different cases, if he is one as well, he will enjoy the fact that the two of you can share such a paramount moment together but if he isn't, he would enjoy teaching you and showing you different things.
2006-07-21 04:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋