what can you do when u feel lost?

Question

what can you do when you feel lost or distent from your family. Or when you get the feeling that your family just dont want you around anymore?

Answer 1

Go find a kid's playground ---
Swing yourself (hard and high) until you feel better -
Focus on physical activity breaks the circle of depression. . .

Answer 2

I'm sure your family loves you dearly, but you will never know that if you don't reach out to them. It is very likely they are wondering why you have not called. So you have a choice to make; sit and wonder what they are thinking, or pick up the telephone and hear the truth.

Another thing to consider is that you will never be able to change your family, no one has the power to change another person. You can only change yourself and how you react to the behavior of others.

It seems that you may be feeling down on yourself.

I know what it is like to feel isolated an all alone so here is a little advice.

It would important for you to focus your energies on refreshing yourself. Getting regular sleep, eating well, and regular exercise will get you started in the right direction. However, if you are already doing those things and still feel low or without energy, then you should seek help from your doctor.

I believe the bottom line for what ails you is communication! Pick up the phone and choose to no longer be alone.

Do it NOW!

Answer 3

I'm not going to give you a smart a** answer. If this is how you truly feel, you can work on a couple of things.
1) Your family probably has no idea you feel this way. Who are you closest to in you family? Have a talk with them and explain how you feel. You may be reading too much into comments made by family members. You may be so sensitive that they hurt your feelings without meaning to.
2) You may need some "alone time" when the family gets to be too much for you to handle. That does not mean go out with friends. That means go sit in a quiet corner and read a book or listen to music - anything that helps calm you down and put you into a better frame of mind.

Answer 4

My advice,,, take it or not, would be to make this a time to FIND YOU! Despite your feelings on so many levels of abandonment, external disregard, even self pity, or confusion about all the "WHY" questions,,, This is a perfect time to reconnect, or get connected with YOU.

I'm not DR. PHIL, nor am I strictly pshychic. I just know that "I" am the most important, valuable person I know,,,and I don't say that in an ego centered way. If I lose others, or they lose me,,, I still have ME!!!

I can't know your reason for the Q and don't strictly need to know, but I can tell you this,,, There is life, after that life, and there is, in that new life, the only person that matters.

Certainly much of what I said may be a moot point if you are a minor, dependant on others, but if you are, you can still find ways to know the value of you, and "places" to take you to, that offer something affirming.

I could ramble on but I hope you get my point.

Rev. Steven

Answer 5

Wow, your first three responders sound like heartless MORONS.

You should sit down with your family and discuss your feelings, and what might be going on that's bringing about these feelings. You may want to see a counsellor on your own as well, if only to learn some coping strategies for your situation.

Your family probably does care very much about you. It's very rare that families geniunely don't care about their members. All families go through rough patches and hard situations. Maybe you could suggest some family outings like going to the movies or going on a trail hike together.

Tell your family that you love them, but that you feel unnaccepted by them and that they should love you for who you are. Perhaps they have felt pushed away by you, even if you didn't know it?

Good luck and take care (((HUG)))

Answer 6

Take some time to check in with yourself about how you're feeling about this. Think about what isn't working, and what you'd like to see happen. See if you can also tune into what your family members feelings and needs might be. Try spending some time with them and taking an interest in what's going on in their lives and -- if they start opening up, letting them know whats going on with you. It might also be helpful to talk to a friend, minister or counselor about this.

I've found Nonviolent Communication to be very helpful in connecting with my wife. I've also found "Inner Relationship Focussing" a very good way of getting connected to my own feelings and needs.

Hope this helps and I wish the best for you!

Answer 7

As a parent, I bet as much as you feel lost and perceive you're not wanted, your family members are feeling the distance even more.

I don't know your situation, but your post seems to imply you used to have a close family structure but at present you don't feel that.

Talk to you parents. It's possible they see you growing more distant and don't know what to do themselves - they may not even be able to articulate how they feel. Break the ice, and take the risk of being transparent with them.

Answer 8

hey tht used 2 happen with me earlier n i cried a lot as i really felt neglected n a burden on my family. but soon, as i started maturing, i understood tht u must nt epect anything 4m otherz. give otherz urs best but never epect any return. instead be happy tht otherz r happy. in family or frnds, never-ever mind any1's words. listen 4m 1 ear n let it out 4m other. if its gud thn send those words 2 ur heart n capture them. well, i dont know eactly wht happened with u but beleive except a few, every1 is kool or u cn say gud. its a human nature 2 mind things. nothing new but instead of feeling neglected go 2 the root y is tht happening n u urself ll have 2 get the ans n solve it. best of luck n be positive. evry1 is gud if u r gud.

Answer 9

I can relate to this question. I have a mother who I tried to be real close to all these years...and she just doesn't seem to care. She cares dearly about her sons but when it comes to her daughter ...ME...I can't do anything right.

Don't worry about it...worrying will only cause you more depression and even mess with your health. Although your family is suppose to be your life-line...not everyone can have the picture perfect...Leave It to Beaver...Brady Bunch-type-of-family. I say move on...meet people...you can't pick your family...but you can pick your friends.

Answer 10

I highly doubt that is true. If your a teenager, its common to feel distant from your family at times. I say talk to your friends and when the time is right. Talk to your family.