Im seeing this guy who already has a girlfriend, but he still wants to be with me. His girlfriend lives in another state, while me and him live in the same state. When we're together we have such a great time and we're soooo comfortable with eachother, but I sometimes feel like what I'm doing is wrong. What should I do?
2006-07-21 03:51:50 · 17 answers · asked by sassy gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you did say "girlfriend" not "wife". At this point, he is only doing his thing because he's not totally commited. Until then girl, enjoy his company.
2006-07-21 03:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since neither one of you is married, there's no commitment here. But, for the other gal's sake, he needs to tell her that he's seeing someone else. If they are a couple that seems to be working on having a future, that might be what's making you feel like you're doing something wrong. He needs to make up his mind about what he's wanting out of his relationships. If he's having a sexual relationship with both of you, that's unacceptable. It's like he's trying on shoes at a shoe store to see which ones "fit" the best. That's not fair for either one of you. If he's just wanting a friendship & companionship with the both of you, there's nothing wrong with that. But if the other gal doesn't know and thinks she's his one and only, she needs to know otherwise. Just consider how you would feel in her place. Your heart is telling you somthings' wrong, so let this guy know how you feel and see what happens. If it's just a fun relationship he's wanting with you both, and you're both cool about it, there's no harm. If he's made some kind of commitment to her, it's not cool. You see where I'm going here? I know I'm an old fashioned gal, but old fashioned still works. That's why you're feeling what you're feeling too. Once you(or anyone else) has sex, you've bonded in a way that just friendship can't compare. It's because sex was made for marriage. There. I've said it. But it's true, and your heart knows it. I'm not judging you or anyone else. It's what I've experienced myself, and it's what I've seen in others. When you've been around the corner as much as I have, you learn that there are patterns that never change. This is one of them. So, talk to your guy and see what happens. I think you already know what to do. <*)))><
2006-07-21 04:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to this guy seriously. Ask him what his plans are or what his feelings are. you have the right to know where you stand. if you will just be his fling, that will be very unfair to you. But if he continues to see you, he is actually cheating on his girlfriend. he should gather up his thoughts and emotions, figure out which girl he likes best. Then if he make up his mind, and chooses his girl from another state, you should respect that, anyway, she had him before you did, and if he chooses you, he should be honest enough to tell his girlfriend that he had a change of heart. This way, he cannot be called a two-timer or a cheater. Cause if he is really cheating on his girlfriend, chances are, he might do the same to you if you eventually end up to be him. You in return should think twice too, on not to let your feelings overthrow your mind. You know what is right, and you should always follow the righteous instinct to lead you out of trouble. Good luck!
2006-07-21 04:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on whether or not he's agreed to be exclusive with either of you girls. If they have not mutually decided to date exclusively, you're not doing anything wrong. However, if they've never discussed it, and the other girlfriend assumes they are exclusive, HE is the one who is being dishonest. It's not cheating unless both parties know they are dating exclusively. If he still sees other people, run.
2006-07-21 03:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right what you are doing is wrong. He needs to dump his girlfriend before he starts a relationship with you. He is cheating on his girlfriend with you? Do you like the role of "the other woman?"
2006-07-21 03:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong or right is a matter of opinion. The fact is that even if he was dating you, he would not be faithful since he has made it obvious he is not above cheating. If you don't care and are just using him for booty, that works however don't get attached because he will break your heart and it will ve your fault for being ignorant.
2006-07-21 03:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should distant yourself from that, because he has a gf. it doesnt matter where she stays, even if that meant another country! he has a gf, and you should respect that. Put yourself in her shoes; how would you feel if you found out that your guy from another state, that you trusted enough to be in long distance relationship with, was talkin to another girl...it would hurt you a lot! so you can be friends wit this guy and whatnot, but thats it...;-) good luck!
2006-07-21 03:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not marry still ok the ball and chains are not locked yet. its still a free market. but he should break it off with the other girl if he thinks your the one he ones being a two timing pimp.
2006-07-21 03:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe..he must to break up with his girlfriend...he loves you,no??and if he really loves you he will to that!you can`t be the second person!nobody can be traid like this!
2006-07-21 03:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and step back and let him figure out if he wants you or her.
2006-07-21 03:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋