2006-07-21 03:40:49 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are about to dump your girlfriend, then make sure before you do it you work out WHY you are doing it.
Make sure you pick the right time to do it - if her favourite pet dog has just died, give it a couple of days!
Try to be tactful and to the point - the key here is to do it in private - never, ever dump someone in front of their friends or family.
Take some quiet time, be sympathetic, and explain gently your reasoning.
Make sure that you aren't talked out of it though - stay firm to your point of view, but in a delicate way.
Hope that this helps~
2006-07-22 04:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to make her feel bad no matter what you do. However, think of it this way - by telling her the truth and dumping her in a mature manner, you are showing that you have respect for her, and will not waste her time. This will hurt her much less than leading her on until she finally gets the hint and lets go. Although women may react poorly to break up talks at first, most of us do prefer that to you wasting our time, telling us that nothing is wrong when something is wrong and hence making us feel crazy, and demeaning us by pitying us because we can't have YOU anymore. You men may not be able to face this, but we can and do get over you.
No do NOT listen to that person above me - do not just start acting like a jerk to make her want to dump you. That's a pus*y's way out. Not all women freak when you dump them - if they do freak then maybe you aren't choosing very strong women to date in the first place, and that is your fault. I've been dumped a few times, and while it sucks, I actually really appreciate the fact that the guy came right out and told me. I respect them for realizing that I could handle it, and now we are friends.
2006-07-21 03:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anyway you can dump a girl without her having any hurt feelings. But there are ways you can do it and hurt her less. Just be honest with her, but cautious with your words. Since I don't know why you are breaking up with her, I can't tell you what to say, but just say it to yourself first and see how it sounds. Remember, there is always more than one way to say the same thing.
And one last thing.... do it in person! Do not email, IM or call her to break up with her. Show her you respect her by doing it in person.
2006-07-21 03:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by MELISSA B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without any details about why you're dumping her. i can only advise you to be honest but in a kind way. keep in mind that no matter what it's going to hurt her if she's not aware it's coming or doesn't want it to end. so no matter how kind you are expect her to be hurt. just put it in a way to make her understand that there is nothing wrong w/her, you just feel that it's time to move on and that you don't want to play with her emotions and feel that it is in both of your best interest to end it now to avoid further pain. most important, do it in person!
2006-07-21 03:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by HopeThisHelps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why u wanna dump her? At least you have some sympathy and compassion about it. There's no easy way, dude. But honesty is always the best way to go with a gal. We HATE being lied to!
2006-07-21 03:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be impossible to break up with someone with out hurting there feelings. Just be respectful and avoid saying cliches like "its not you its me" or "lets just be friends" the best thing is to be honest and do it face to face. Be straight forward and be sure not to says things that will lead her on like " i need space" "im not ready for a relationship RIGHT NOW", This will only re-break her heart later on when she realizes your not going take her back later. Be truthful about the reasons your breaking up and be clear that it is over. Im sorry but this will not be easy, she may cry and probably will be hurt, its just part of life.
2006-07-21 03:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth! You dont have that once strong feeling for her!
Just tell her that She is well off without you! You dont want to hurt her, I dont want to get you involved for the trouble im in! lie a little but dont go overboard
Just let her know she is better than you! so that way! she wont be hurt
Ohh yeah! Break up at HER house! NEVER AT yours! she will have a break down and she will break your stuff if she gets angry!
At her house! you can just leave or run, if she gets crazy!
2006-07-21 03:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by vaiosoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way to not make her feel bad, but in the long run, she will respect you and herself more if you are honest with her. You can just tell her, if it is what is in your heart, you don't want to be tied down to anyone right now. She might be hurt, but it is hard to argue with someone "wants". If you are honest with her instead of sneaking around her back, at least that tells her you respect her enough to be honest with her, even if you have to point that fact out.
2006-07-21 03:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can fake many pretences but the best approach is the direct one. Tell her in a friendly and amicable way that you're through and that you'll remain friends etc. She'll hurt and cry but that's for a brief period and she'll forgive and forget. That's human nature and you're not the first or last to pass such experience.
2006-07-21 03:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it was nice while it lasted, but you won't want to be with her anymore. Say you're sorry and do it quick.
On the other hand, I'm tempted to reply: tell her you're the kind of lad who asks people on the internet how to dump her, so she's see what she's not missing.
Pick either, really.
2006-07-21 03:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋