when my mother constantly reminds me and the rest of my relatives that im still single. When she tries to set me up with every man and his dog that we come accross and when she marks the men she thinks are suitable for me in the personal adds. Im take your advise and be pround to be single - at least on the outside anyway - i'll try! What do you think?
2006-07-21 03:18:47 · 24 answers · asked by PIDGE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her she is lucky you didnt get pregnant amd married at 15 like i did damn i wish i was single...would she rather you be single and happy or married and hating it.
2006-07-21 03:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by doodle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what, we've all gone through this or are going through it. It's people like you're mom who perpetuate the myth that a person can't possibly be happy outside of a relationship.
I don't know what the relationship is like with your mom but either bite your tongue and smile or do what i did and just say:
"look mom I'm getting more sex now I'm single than most of my married friends. When I decide I don't want lots of sex anymore and would prefer to spend my weekends shopping in ikea and mothercare I'll let you know and we can find me a husband together!"
She got the point and we had a good laugh.
2006-07-21 04:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, ask your mom to back off. Doesn't sound like you have a problem with being single. What's wrong with being single. Have fun and enjoy it. You can get serious later when YOU feel like it. I'm sure lots of your relatives are envious. Just have fun, tell mom to mind her own business. If you need help finding a man, you'll be sure to let her know, lol
2006-07-21 03:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very offended. If you are an adult, your mother is overstepping her boundaries.
It is better for you to wait until you are 50 to marry than to marry the wrong person just to make mom happy,
I read that the divorce rate is more than 50% now.
I'd tell mom nicely to stop doing that because she is embarrassing you and hurting you when you've done nothing wrong. Single is not a bad word.
2006-07-21 03:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't take offence, just tell her its annoying and upsetting you when she keeps on.
It is much better to be single waiting for the right man to come along than to be in a relationship with the wrong one just because you feel you have to.
Good luck and if all else fails you can have Jamie lol
2006-07-21 03:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by jojitsui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be offended, she's treating you like a child. Let her know that you're capable of finding someone when you're good and ready. Right now you're focusing on yourself and other important areas in your life. Let her know also that you don't need a man to make you happy or make your life complete. There's nothing wrong with being single. It definitely empowers you it gives you more breathing room and a sense of self. So be happy being single and take your time to decide who should share your heart....and when....
2006-07-21 03:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by BaBy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen that's just mums, honestly my mum tried to set me up from about the age of 16 with her friends son, its gross i can pick my own men you know ?
i think its a generation thing they think to be complete we need to be with a man, I'm sure my family thought i was gay for a while because guys were just fun to me, i didn't want a serious relationship,
now i do have one the baby the lot so i get left alone, but dont worry just tell her the time will come and even if it do sent then so be it....if you are happy then so should she be.
2006-07-21 03:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by kez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, are you happy being single? If so then yes take pride in it. If you are not, then tell your mother that you are the master of your life and will find someone to be with. That she should not preoccupy herself with setting you up with someone. Tell her you appreciate her trying to help but you are an adult and can do it on your own.
2006-07-21 03:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Raistlin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mums can be a pain in the bum. you've just got to laugh it off. perhaps you can tease her back? Ask her why she's so interested in your sex life and get to the bottom of her concerns. Ask her is she dying and worried you will be alone. really push to find out what's behind it. seriously you can do that with a mum. Otherwise start saying embarrassing things about her when she does it like ..'it's difficult going through the change' or 'i hope i'm still getting jiggy with it like you when i'm really old'
2006-07-21 03:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you know she means well but that she is really upsetting you with her behaviour. I know its sometimes scary to defend yourself against your mother ( hell, Im 26 with 3 kids and a hubby of my own and i still cant confront her at the best of times) and that if she carries on with making you uncomfortable, you will simply stop seeing her. That should do it.
2006-07-21 03:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by lucy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That makes me mad...I think you should sit your mum down and have a talk with her. Tell her you're not interested in guys at the moment. Be calm, but assure her that you will meet someone when you least expect it and you're not in any rush. Good luck xx
2006-07-21 03:39:56 · answer #11 · answered by before&after 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋