I am in love with my bestfriend but i'm NOT SURE i MUST TELL HIM IT MIGHT RUIN OUR FRIENDSHIP
2006-07-21 03:11:39 · 44 answers · asked by daydreamer_qt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him if u love him
2006-07-21 03:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by ☆☆☆☆☆☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy quite honestly. I have been in love with two of my best friends before. One of them was like a brother to me, and still is, but when I told him how I felt for him, he let me know that he felt the same way and we dated for about a year.
The other guy I kept trying to hint to him how much he meant to me. He never got the hint...finally, I just told him out right. And he said, "I understand." And that was it. He didn't feel the same way, but he didn't stop being my friend.
Now I'm in an amazing relationship with a guy who has become my best friend through time and love. We have a good relationship, but a solid friendship as well. I believe in telling him. He might like you too and you will never know until you bring it up (cause he probably won't). If you tell him and he likes you too, great, fantastic! If you tell him and he doesn't like you in return, I'm really sorry, but if he is truly your friend, it won't matter. Things might be weird for a day or two, but the will return back to normal if you go back to normal.
Don't get me wrong, it will hurt for a day, but you'll see that you are still a good person and you can still do with him being your best friend. Chances are though, if you love him, he has noticed little changes you've made and might not understand why you are acting a certain way and that might scare him off.
The worst thing that can happen is that he stops being your best friend, but if that's the case, then he was never your friend to begin with.
Good luck!
2006-07-21 03:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by revesdamours 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how is that a question? here is the best answer you are going to get, if he makes you feel awkward and things don't stay the same meaning you to can't stay friends afterwards then it was never a friendship that really meant anything anyways, take a chance because you only get to live this lifetime once
2006-07-21 03:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start to give him signs that you are interested, see how he responds. flirt a little, touch him a little, ask him his opinion about things. If he responds in a way that makes you think he is interested, do something else, take it a step further. Start very slow. Don't necessarily tell him you are in love with him to begin with, that might scare him. But do tell him you are interested in a date to see how it would go. Tell him you are attracted to him... See what happens and take it from there. Good Luck!
2006-07-21 12:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by sexychik1977 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation recently. You should know if he feels that way for you. I knew because I could feel it when we were around each other. Does he get jealous when you talk to other guys? Do you talk to him every day? Is he dating someone? If the answers are yes, yes, and no....give it a try. I went for the timid approach. I told him that maybe we shouldnt be around each other for awhile because i was beginning to have feelings for him. Within 2 weeks he was at my house asking me to be with him. Being away from me made him think about how he felt about me.
2006-07-21 03:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by jerseycricket69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him how does he feel about u or ur friendship 1st.. if he looks @ u as a friend then no u don't tell him ur in love w/him.. and if that's the case then u need to fall back a lil bit and make some more friends so u won't have him on ur brain all the time...
2006-07-21 03:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just teLL him that u Love him and aLso u don't wanna Lose him as a bestfriend if he doesn't feeL the same with u.. x) weLL maybe u two can't be as cLose as before u toLd him ur feeLing,, but it's better than not to try rite? and aLso u have to take the risks on what u've done..
2006-07-21 12:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by mariana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that he feels the same way about you then go for it.Be careful things like this usually ruins a friendship.Good luck!
2006-07-21 03:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by sherell212004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might ruin your friendship, but perhaps he feels the same and is afraid like you. Ask him exactly how much he likes you.
2006-07-21 03:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling for your best friend can easily happen. You have to be able to realize that if he is not interested in you in a deeper way that you could loose your friend. On the other hand some marriages work best because you marry your best friend.
2006-07-21 03:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by SunshineSparkles1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it won't my best friend told me that he loves me in a boyfriend/girlfriend way and I told him that I love him in a brother way and nothing has changed with us.I help him take care of his kids.He is a single dad.I told him they know me as aunty not mom.So tell him it may be the boyfriend/girlfriend love it happens everyday.your soul mate is someone you always be around and you don't realize it.
2006-07-21 03:16:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋