Therapist needed!! Boy-trouble!!?

Question

I have a problem and would appreciate some advice (as honest and frank as you like). I'm seeing this guy casually, but he has a girlfriend. I didn't know he had a girlfriend (he didn't tell me) until after we first fooled around, but now he wants to sleep with me, but I know he's not going to break up with his girlfriend (he says cos they're gonna break up soon anyway cos he's going to university in a different town and she's getting a job someplace else). Anyway, my question is: why does he want to sleep with me if he has a girlfriend? And should I? I like him and all, but it's not like we could have a relationship, so it would be a casual thing.

Anyway, my head's a bit of a mess, so any advice, plain speaking, etc would be most appreciated! Thanks.

Answer 1

He wants sex with you that's it, not a casual fling just sex.
Have some respect for yourself and for his poor girlfriend and tell him to get lost

Answer 2

Sweetie, WHY DO U THINK HE WANTS TOO STILL SLEEP WITH U???? He wants his cake and eat it to. U don't want to be a part of that. Have some self respect and tell him that if he wants U he can wait until he ends his relationship with her. One thing U will learn as U get older is that U never open one door without closing the other, think about that.
If U want my advice:
I would dump him all together, he lied to U about having a girlfriend so he could sleep with U. Then he's obviously lying to her about U. Both of U deserve better, U don't wanna be a doormat and that's just what he's treating U like.
Something else U might wanna think about is if U have a future with this guy, what makes U think that down the road he won't do the same to U?? Trust me honey he will. And one day the shoe may be on the other foot and it could be U that he's fooling around on. U don't want or need that kinda guy.
Find U a man who appreciates U for U, not one who is selfish and is only in it for what he can get. Ur worth more than that, and this guy will never see that.

Good luck doll and I hope things work out for ya.

Answer 3

HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!!! Girl wake up!!! He's playing you like an X-box! Trust me I've been there, if the guy really liked you and had respect for you, you would be the main course, not the side dish. Is that how u wanna be thought of as? My mama always said "Youre worth what u say youre worth". What do you mean why does he want to sleep with you? Why do people in hell want ice water? And he may think that he has the world in his hands b/c he has his girl and u who he'll probably try to turn into his freak. But you need to realize that u have the world in your pants!!! Don't give up that power to some idiot who doesnt deserve it. If you give it up, he won't ever leave that chick and if he ever does, he will be checking for someone else, not u becuase he's already got what he wanted from u. Why buy the cow when u can get the milk for free. All u gotta do is drop him like a bad habit. If u didnt have so much feelings for him, i would tell u to switch it up on him(since u havent given it up yet) and play him. Right now the ball is in your court, don't let him get it. Save it for someone who is willing to wait for you...

Answer 4

Well, of course, he wants to sleep with you. That is all he is after is your bobs and bits. He has a girlfriend for his relationship quota. There are lots of Cocky men out there who find it such a thrill to lie to a girl, just to get in her knickers. He is just hoping if he baits the hook enough that you will believe him. He is so desparate, and so pained that his girlfriend will soon be gone. He is so sad, he needs your comfort, then wham bam, you are in a jam.
Aren't you worth more than that. You sound intelligent, and you surely are a beautiful woman who needs all of a man's attention. Why would you settle for this loser? Cause he talks a good game?
Move on. Find a real man, instead of this flake.
You know this, or you wouldn't be here asking a question, when you already know the answer.
Perhaps, you just like playing the game, too much.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

This boy is a tool.
If he finishes with his girlfriend and you are happy to have a casual thing thing going with him that is fine.
But from what you have said he seems an idiot and i would stay well away.
If you do choose to sleep with him i would use protection because you don't know how many other girlfriends he has on the go. (& u always should anyway)
If he wanted you so badly he would finish with his g/f but he has left his option opens proveing he just wants it all.
Next time he comes near you kick him in the nuts

Answer 6

at least you know what he's about. he's just sowing his wild oats. do you want to have casual sex? only you know how you will feel about yourself. this girlfriend may be in the dark about it and find out and come over and punch you. personally I'd give him the heave-ho.. you don't need using or messing up. Get a real man who'll take care of himself and you and wants to make something real in life. are you a charity case yet? Doubt it. tell this guy you're flattered by his attention but you want to save yourself for somebody special.

Answer 7

He just wants to get some on the side, he's using you.... forget a "casual relationship" and have respect for yourself! Put yourself in her place she probably doesn't even know about you and their supposed future break-up! Go find yourself another casual friend without so much baggage!!!! With the amount of S.T.Ds going around now-a-days its not worth it who knows how many casual friends he's had!!

Answer 8

Wow so thats exactly what every guy wants..a girlfriend and a girl on the side..breaking up is hard to do sometimes but you deserve better than to be a side thing..id tell him to go somewhere else...and plus if he did that to her he might do that to you...You shouldnt risk it

Answer 9

it all starts with u. do you want 2 or not? coz if you do well dont babes he's only playing you cos he says he is goin 2 break up wit his chick. so he says I think he is lying he is nt gettin a new job he is probably gonna meet his gf at da university. well afta all dat i say get someone huge 2 kick his *** im available and then you leave him

Answer 10

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