my husband keeps calling girls and also keeps chatting with them behind me about sex? what should i do ??

Question

My husband keeps chatting with girls mostly lesbians and also he calls them and tries to date them ,
he thinks i dont know all this . when i found out once i asked him and he promised he will never do it
again but he is still doing the same so there is no point in asking him again because i know he will deny .
What is the pleasure he gets in seeing gals nude or chatting with them i dont understand because i try to
satisfy all his needs the way he wants
. what should i do ???

Answer 1

Hello dear,
I understand ur problem and i know it is so much serious.
The solution may be one of the following:
1) u must try to divert the attention of ur husband to some where els,
2) u can do this by giving him sexual attraction,
3) u should remain near/close all the time of him,
4) u should wear sexy dresses, or not wearing inners i.e. bra, panty etc.
5) or if u cant do it at ur home (in front of all other members of family) u can shift elsewhere,
6) If he attrcts temperarily and after sex he go for chatting, u should warn him.
7) If he dont listen, u should disconnect the internet connection,
8) after all above, if he doesnt understand ur "true love" u should give a legal notice for devose.

and leave him. He is a bloddy.

I know that he will definitely understand ur true love and will return to u at the end.

wish u happy married life

Good byeeeeeeee.

Ur true friend

Answer 2

My dear I am in the same boat as your husband. I am often found searching through profiles and chatting with women online. I am happilly married and I do love my wife very much. Most of the time that I talk to women online they are the members of my groups, throughout my sexual life I haveve learned so much from chatting to women that love other women.

A few advantages of being able to talk to these women is that I feel that I am still connected with the opposite sex even thought I am married.

*1 They are lesbians, so more than likely they are not at all interested in your husband knowing that he will not and can not ever feel like a woman.

*2 They are on the net. They could be a gay guy for all that your husband knows.

3* Talking to other women on the phone, even if it is a conversation about sex, is really not cool. However is it worth your marriage.

4* Your husband probably has some fantasies that he wants to act out. try to experience some of these with him. I have found that when my partner had taken an interest in my personal fantasies, we became that much more close.

Start easy, maybe with other couples, with a soft swap and maybe work up to the more hardcore things unless you are not at all interested in anything like that.

My personal feelings are that no one belongs to anyone else. Every person is free to do what they want to. I come home to my wife because that is whre I awant to be. i could just as easily go to another woman house but i don't because I love my wife. All i want is for her to try to experience new things. So she can say definitively if she like something or not.

Answer 3

why would you subject yourself to all of this you know its wrong for him to do these things and you still allow it if infact you know he is chatting with lesbians and talking dirty with other people dont you think there is a problem there is it because you dont feel you can get anyone else...we are wonderful women and deserve better than that i am sure on day you will run into someone who really wants you to satisfy them in the way you do with the one that your are with....why dont you start talking dirty with other people let him see that your doing the same if he is not into what you are doing then you can see there is a double standard where he is comming from...in all honesty this man has issues i would make sure if your having sex with him always wear a condom

Answer 4

Girl, he has issues. They are his, not yours. Don't ever try to understand other people little crazy issues, it will make YOU crazy trying to figure out irrrational things. I am sure you would satisfy any normals guys needs, so don't blame this on yourself. Sounds like he might be a messing around on you too, not just calls and IM, if he is trying to date them you know he has succeeded at least once. Confront him and tell him he isn't lying his way out of it anymore. With behaviour like that, you might be better off without him. He won't change for you. He needs counseling, he might even be a sex addict, you can find out more about that on the web, google it.

Answer 5

Tell him you're not going to put up with that crap. He made a committment to you and he needs to keep it. His behavior is not acceptable. Make it very clear to him. Not sure it will work, but you at least have to communicate very clearly how you feel about it.

Then maybe see if he needs some counseling.

PS Is this really the type of guy you want to spend your life with? Seems like an odd duck.

Answer 6

Leave him and wait for a man who can be what you want and need in a husband. This guy is going to eventually leave you anyway because 1 woman can't help him. So you may as well beat him to the punch and not let him break your heart any more.
He's not worth it. There are wonderful, faithful men out there just waiting for someone like you.

Answer 7

Record all of this activity. Get an attorney. File for divorce. Kick him out of the home.
Grow up, and quit trying to change people. It will never happen.

What he needs, you, or the next wife, will not be able to satisfy.

Try this hard at a new relationship. Where the man loves, cares, and respects you.

Learn to respect yourself. Don't you need to be Happy, too.
Good luck!

Answer 8

I know what you are going through, believe me! I hate it, and I have to admit it does make me a little jealous, but I figure it's prolly just a fantasy thing with most men. He shouldn't be calling them tho. That's when he is crossing the line! I honestly would try to explain to him that it;s upsetting you and ask him if he would like it if you were calling other men. IDK....If you find a solution. let me know I should have asked the same question instead of trying to answer....lol

Answer 9

Quit "satisfying" him. If you don't follow any other advice follow this, absolutely no more sex, under any circumstances.
Next, you do need to dump him. He obviously thinks that he is entitled to this behavior. It has nothing to do with you, or your ability to satisfy him. He thinks that it is okay for him to seek sexual pleasures outside of your marriage, and you don't think that it's okay. You've talked to him about this before, and he chose to pacify you rather than to end his extra-marital activities. You need to send him a clear message that you are done with his butt. You deserve to be married to someone who values you. This guy thinks he can do what he pleases, because he thinks you belong to him, and will put up with whatever he does, and he believes that he will suffer no consequences for his actions.
No argument that he can come up with excuses his behavior.
Send him packing, or get yourself outta there!

Answer 10

Hon, get rid of this horn dog as fast as you can.
Don't even tell him you're going. Just wait till he's gone out for a lot of hours, have your bags secretly hid and packed, and leave. You don't even have to tell him anything in a note, do NOT tell him where you're going.

Have a lawyer send him divorce papers. Chances are he's screwing around on you. He's a looser. Dump him before he screws you over.