Don't you know it take the romance out of dining. Let him pay for you why not..make him feel like a man. Women are suppossed to be their treasure, real men take care of their girlfriends. Men who allow you to pay are not MEN.
2006-07-21 03:00:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Dining Out ➔ United States ➔ New York City
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 9 months and when it comes to paying for things such as meals and movies and any activity, he almost ALWAYS pays. There is the occasional time when I might surprise him at his work and he doesn't carry the money on him so I pay, but he always pays me back one way or another.
I am his treasure and he tells me everyday how lucky he is to have me, but there comes a point when it doesn't matter who pays for the dinner. It is always nice when he pays, but what matters is the feelings between me and him and how he makes me feel and vice versa. I believe in what the Beatles sang...Can't buy me love.
2006-07-21 03:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by revesdamours 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
To me this is a really old-fashioned way of thinking that I don't subscribe to.
Men aren't real men because they pay for a meal. They are real men when they are respectful and caring and sweet. Men and women should take care of each other. The price of a meal is meaningless, buying dinner shouldn't make a man feel like a man. A lot of modern women don't make a big fuss about money and who pays what. I sure don't.
If you are old-fashioned like this then you can definitely find a woman who wants to have everything paid for her and wants to be "taken care of." But it doesn't apply to everyone. Not all people are the same.
2006-07-21 10:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by smartbunny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I would never pay when going on a date. If a guy had ever expected me to, that would have been it for him. It's not the money, its the fact that if I'm not worth the cost of dinner then whats the rest of our life going to be like, ya know? Now I am engaged to a wonderful man and the only time that I pay for our dinners is on his birthday or when I have his checkbook! But he wouldn't want it any other way either, that is one of the reasons why we are a perfect fit. =) He treats me how I think I should be treated and in return I treat him how he wants to be treated. That's what makes a relationship work. =)
2006-07-21 11:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by blueeyedlovebug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't pay at first.
If we are mutually getting serious like on the 5th or 6th date I will pay, yet nothing extravagant.
Sometimes if I am hanging out for a long weekend, I propose to by coffee on an off day like Sunday.
2006-07-21 10:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really the responsiblity of man to pay for the dinner on a date. But I also think that who ever is the one who invited or who proposed to go out, is the one who pays. But it is not required. In our part, it depends on thw two of us dating.. as long as we share quality time together, it doesn't really matter who pays. But I often insist to pay because I don't want women to pay....
2006-07-21 13:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by chalyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a giving person so yes, i have paid for the entire meal on a date. even a first date. but the fact that they didnt offer to pay or pay even half made me never see them again! hahaha
2006-07-21 12:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by Queen Nefertiti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's always da ones dat be tawkin like dis dat say wimen shoodn't be payin fo nutin'. don't dey know "it take the romance out of dining."
there is no romance in dining per se. dining per se is just eating. and romance that is dependent on money is called "prosteetuition."
2006-07-21 11:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if it's a casual date, i will offer to pay my half..if he declines my offer, he moves up a notch on my impression of him..if he accepts my offer..so be it, but i will observer him more caferully in future dates....haha...
if it's my bf, then yes, i'd expect him to pay for my dnr, but i'd offer to pay for drinks later, or a movie that we catch...n if he hasn't got the cash (for cash only outlets), i wldn't mind paying, as long as he does not make it a habit...
bottom line is...we are always fighting for equal rights....so????
2006-07-21 10:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by beacon732003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i take turns paying. it all depends on who's idea it was to go out and who has money at the time
2006-07-21 10:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by lilkracker78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agreed. I am married but even when dating I never paid for anything.
2006-07-21 10:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋