If you look at my last question i asked about why my girlfriend didn't do anything for my b-day yesterday. I confronted her on it like people suggested and she freaked. Told me that she wanted to give it to me my gift in person. She pretty much told me that I've opened her eyes to how terrible of a person and girlfriend she is and thats not what i wanted to make her think. I feel so terrible. I don't know if this will blow over or if i've lost her for good. I don't know what i'd do without her. I'm starting to feel life wouldn't be worth living if i didn't have her. I'm feeling so many emotions right now but one of them is fear that i might do something to myself. I don't know what to say to her and she just tells me to leave her alone and ignores me. I'm not the kind of person that can sit back and wait, i want to do something about this. What can I do to let her know she means the world to me and I don't want to live a minute without her in my life?
2006-07-21 02:53:40 · 16 answers · asked by mtugodfath3r 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I haven't read your last question and the advice given, but it sounds like a bit of reverse psychology and a bit of pouting punishment.
The right thing to do when a b/f or g/f has a b-day coming up and you can't see them on that day, is to call them, wish them happy birthday and let them know that they're getting a gift the next time they see you.
Anything else is a set-up for an argument and hurt feelings.
The responsibility rests with the person giving the gift.
Don't let your emotions get the better of you now!! and don't go all soft. She'll come around.
2006-07-21 03:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she freaked out so much because you asked her a question about your bday, and she is taking it as far as saying she is a terrible person and girlfriend, then she is blowing it out of proportion. LDR's stink, but you should not go overboard with this either. Calm down, she might be embarassed thats all. At least she did say happy bday to you. LDR tend to make every little disagreement seem huge because you have that distance btwn the 2 of you. Believe I am in the same boat. So just make sure your next conversations are back to normal, if they are you are fine. If not, then maybe she is using what you said, as the reason to end it, but that seems unlikely. Chill and give it time. Dont freak out though and make her think that your life is worth nothing without her, cuz that might scare her even more. Forget the bday thing for now, and focus on you two getting along.
My heart goes out to you, I wish you all the luck : ), and Happy Birthday !!
2006-07-21 10:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you, but if she tells her to leave her alone... to show her that you do care, the best thing right now would be to sit back and wait. A day, at least. Let her sort out her feelings; take care that you sort out yours. And try again tomorrow. If she tells you to leave her alone, try again the day after that, etc. She needs time, and from what you write, so do you. At the very least, give her 24 hours after she told you to leave her alone before you do ANYTHING else - call, sms, mail, whatever.
2006-07-21 09:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically make her listen and tell her all those things u just told just told us(except the part about wanting to end your life) remind her of all the wonderful things she has done for u and how much u appreciate her and need her around and ow lonely u have been in only the short time u have been apart
2006-07-21 10:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by banker lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok listen hun, Don't talk about hurting yourself that is a permanent solution to a temporary problem! Give her a little time, I'm sure she will realize that she would have felt the same way and when you guys sit down next time TALK this through don't get angry and raise your voices or yell it doesn't accomplish anything.
Good luck to you!
2006-07-21 10:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and for most...do not harm yourself. Send her some flowers with a card that says just what you wrote. Getting flowers out of the blue is very touching and sentimental. Show her how you feel, just don't tell her.
2006-07-21 09:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by ladychineen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you got some really bad advice somewhere ( please dont say the internet! Just say a friend of yours) and you are very sorry that you were unable to get your point accross they way you wanted to. just tell her you were a bit upset that she didnt do anything for your birthday but that you are glad that it wasnt because she had forgot. Thank her for allowing you to talk to her and that you really appriciate having total confidence in being able to talk to her about the things that bother you.
2006-07-21 10:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by lucy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to some My Chemical Romance, buy some razor blades, and start the warm water.
2006-07-21 09:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down w/ her and MAKE her listen to you! She'll appreciate it. Tell her everything you put on this question. I wish you good luck. I know I'd be lost w/o my boyfriend.
2006-07-21 10:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by wolfgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call her up, or talk to her and tell her what you really meant and that you'd still love her if you didn't get a single present for the rest of your life, because she's the best gift over anything. psh. if someone said that to me...im his forever!
2006-07-21 09:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋