I have just heard a friend of mine's daughter was killed in a car accident , he is devastated , How does one approach this kind of thing as I am sure he needs his space , but may need support 2.
Thanks
2006-07-21 02:42:49 · 13 answers · asked by grahamhoodsa 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Don't over crowd him tell him I'm here for whatever he needs
2006-07-21 02:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by boredgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He definately needs your support!
He is probably waiting ot hear from his friends. Just so he can have a place to put all his feelings. And, won't have to feel like he has to be strong and hold it all inside.
If it were me, I'd call and say John I'm so sorry to hear about Sue! I can't imagine what you are going through right now. But, I'm here for you and want to help.
I don't know much about his situation but its always nice to bring meals. You could also send something via mail like a card or some flowers. But, that should be done after you make the call.
I don't know that I would just stop by. It depends on your relationship and how he's holding up. Also, there may be family staying there to help out as well.
Make yourself available and don't let him keep saying he's okay. Most people say this because they think they have to remain strong for everyone else.
2006-07-21 09:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's a very difficult situation for your friend. I really don't know how to approach a guy in such a situation, but I'd say it helps to hug him and let him cry on your shoulder when you two are alone. He needs space, but he needs a shoulder to cry on as well. You don't have to say a word, just be there to hug him. This is good enough. I always do this when I try to offer someone comfort. You're free to cry as well. I'm sure this makes the father see how much you empathsize with him.
2006-07-21 09:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by prudence z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is say nothing beyond "my condolences. I don't know what you're going through, but I'm here for you." Feel free to hug him and let him cry on your shoulder. Sometimes the best, most healing thing is to let someone hold you while you cry. I've done it many times. The reason I say condolences is because it's the only word that seems to describe how you genuinely feel; the literal translation from Latin is with/through tears.
2006-07-21 09:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recomend just saying how sorry you are about his loss....I don't really know what to say but I have lost several relatives and i can tell you what annoyed me,and so what NOT to say...things like its part of gods plan.... maybe its for the best... as least she went quickly and didn't suffer... people often say these type of things and i find them horrid...of course I took them in the spirit in which they were given , as people trying to be helpful but just being too stupid to realise they weren't helping
2006-07-21 09:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are close to you're friends needs I would also suggest comfort and ask may you be of any help at this time. You know how he /she is going to react but be with them. Don't bring flowers but yourself and your heart given sympathy and condolences to him /her. For the rest you see for yourself. My deepest sympathy and condolences for the loss. Good-Luck !
2006-07-21 09:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by Carmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go hug your friend. Show him you're there for him. Offer your help with the paperwork connected with her burial and all. You don't have to actually SAY anything. Friendship is not about saying. It's about doing and being.
2006-07-21 10:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know you are sorry and that you are there for him. Perhaps bring over something to eat because people in mourning tend to neglect themselves or get very depressed and dont realize that they dont eat.
2006-07-21 09:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by nylatinanurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that you are so sorry for his loss, and that if he needs anything, even just someone to sit with and talk or not talk, that you will be there for him.
2006-07-21 10:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by pinkgoddess725 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he can talk to you anytime he needs to but you wont ask him if he needs help hell come to you for comfort
2006-07-21 10:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kaila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋