I'm so fade up and deppressed by my sister's attitude and I'm sick of the way she makes me furious and I'm sick of her making me want to kill her..I'm serious, my patience is at its end..if she keeps this on,I'm going to kill her..what do you suggest?? everyone else tells me that revenge is sweet but some of them tells me i should go to see a tharapist..well???
2006-07-21 02:38:56 · 28 answers · asked by Dante-rebillion 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, don't KILL her!! Try ignoring her. I know that sounds simple but it's true. She drives you nuts because she's probably just trying to get a rise out of you. Stop speaking to her. Act as if you can't hear her. Pretend she isn't there. It'll drive her CRAZY!!! Women HATE to be ignored!!
2006-07-21 02:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by berkeleygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, murder and jail time or execution is pretty serious. If you really are considering these things, then you need to find a counselor TODAY. Not tomorrow. I have no idea how old you are, if you live at home. But in ANY situation, be it marriage, siblings, work...remember this:
All you have real control over is what YOU DO.
What can you do to make the situation better? Lock your room? Stay away from her 100 % of the time? Do not speak to her? Get rid of the things you worry about with her, don't get rid of her. You clearly need SEPARATION from her, lots of time and space on your own. It's not your job to control her. Make your wants known. If she can't change, then change what you can.
Also, pray about it. Ask God to break the hate between you two. Lots of kids are beaten by their parents, but they still want their love and acceptance, even as adults. Some day, as weird as this may sound, you will want your sister. Sounds like she is just too young to be of 'use' to you now. Distance. Time.
2006-07-21 09:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason that she pushes your buttons is because you let her by interacting with her. If you don't get involved with what she is doing it will become boring and she will stop. Violence never solved anything. Find a picture of a young girl in prison and put it in your nightstand and look at it everytime you get angry. That should make the desire to argue and react less strong. You will both grow up and forget all about this. Have you tried sitting down as a family and disscussing it. If you can't or won't try to resolve the problem it will continue to be there.
2006-07-21 09:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same thing with my sister. I finally decided that I needed to love her from a distance, meaning that I love her, but I put an end to our friendship as we both knew it. We used to hang out all the time, now we just say hello at family gatherings. Try this once and if she changes things will get better, if she doesn't change, keep the space between you.
2006-07-21 09:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by flowerandkevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away and don't have so much contact with your sister.
Tell her to back the **** off and leave you alone.
Let her know she is only making you angry and that she needs to find someone else to harass.
If all else fails, just get away from her. Don't talk to her, don't have her come over, don't go to family events for a while. Most of all, don't hurt anyone. That will only hurt you more.
2006-07-21 09:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow we are like twins right now. I can't stand my sister. I talk to her on the phone and within 5 minutes i'm wanting to kill her.
She moved into our house with her new husband and she completly changed.
They moved out and now i talk to her on the phone for 5 minutes when she calls lookin for my mom (who is really angry with her as well because she disrespects her) and then i hang up.
The best thing i can say is talk to her for 5 min enough time to say hey and then not any more. It works for me
2006-07-21 09:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all look at what bothers you about her and figure if it is really worth hating her for. A therapist is a good idea if you really want to kill her. Alot has to do with your ages also.
2006-07-21 09:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u know we have the same problem but u know just ignore it. u know i will share you this: my sister was so so bad she was actually 11months older than me, she was always insecure at me despite the fact that she is prettier than me and more intelligent but i just couldn't understand why why she really hates me. but you know i just ignore it and now we are not talking to each other but we compete.. that's lyf dear.. if you'll ignore the people u will stay. remember there's a saying "survival of the fittest and elimination of the weakest."
2006-07-21 09:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by reka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you move away and cut communication with her? You might have to seek help if you actually feel so much hatred towards her, but not just you alone but she probably need to go too.
2006-07-21 09:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by thisisme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems that you need a good talk with your sister. tell her why she's pissing you off and work it out. alterntively, both of you can see a therapist to work things out. there's nothing more important in the world than your family ties.
2006-07-21 09:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by thatsoundssowrong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋