why did he stop calling??

Question

so i was talking to this guy and we werent boyfriend and girlfriend but we hung out alot.. i even stayed the weekends at his house and he came to my prom. and we talked like 1-3 times a day. and we had more than just friendship there was alot of chemistry there he took me out and paid for everything! we got along really good also. then all of a sudden he stopped calling and contacting me whatsoever!! and i didnt call him because i dont chase after guys if they dont call they dont call i really liked him but im real strict with this rule I DONT CHASE GUYS! i have had a crush on this guy for like 4 years but i was always to afraid to talk to him. then he finally made a move everything was great and then this.... by the way we dont go to the same school we are like 11/2 hours apart. should i have cracked and called him or did i do the right thing im mean he was gorgeous!! its been like a month since we talked last. do you think it was because we were about to go to college (not the same).

Answer 1

I didn't even read the details of your question, because they're not necessary.
A guy will call if he's interested; he won't if he's not. Nothing else matters.

100% of guys polled said they've never been too busy to call a girl they were interested in... It's not that he's doing other stuff or can't spare time or is out with his guys... If he's interested, he will call.

Answer 2

If this were me I would be worried that something had happened to him. Maybe he's got family problems or got into trouble?
Call him! You say you were friends so it wouldn't be 'chasing him'. It would be you phoning your friend for a chat and to find out how he is. Friends do phone each other, you know - it's down to both of you to keep the friendship going.
And what's wrong with 'chasing' guys anyway? If they're decent blokes they like to know you're interested so they don't have to do all the running.
Whatever the reason for him not calling you, he must be thinking that you've lost interest in him because you've not called him either!
Do call him and find out what's going on - if he's not interested at least you'll know and stop wondering and can move on.

Answer 3

Girl, pick up the phone and call him. Especially since it's been a month. Just tell him you called to see how he is doing and what he is up to lately. Why is it that women assume that guys should be the ones making the first move all the time. This is the 2006. You can make the first move without being aggressive. I mean, you guys were just friends. Maybe he wanted to be more than just friends with you but was too shy to approach you in that way. There may have been another girl out there that wasn't afraid to approach him and tell him how she felt about him, therefore, he stopped calling you. You'll never know, unless you pick up that phone and stop being so shy about matters. Call him and tell him you miss talking to him and ask him out for lunch or something.

Answer 4

PLEASE CALL HIM!!!!
Let me tell you about me and my shy guy.....

I met Dylan when I was 15 and he was 19. He was (and still is) the love of my life. we did go out for a couple of months but then we stopped getting together after a while. I was heart broken and wanted him soooooooo badly.... but I wouldn't chase him.

I am now 26 years old....... and my heart still aches for him. Its been 11 years. I eventually married someone else, but that marriage is now over. I saw Dylan at the beginning of this year and decided that I HAD to go get him.... so I did. When I asked him why after we had been together we stopped communicating, he said he was shy and never knew what to say to me. He felt the same way about me. He said that he could never pluck up the courage to even say hello to me sometimes. apparently, he thought I was way too beautiful to talk to. sweet!
He was so glad that I had gone over to him.

so my advice is to go get him. Just tell him you miss his friendship, or ring him about a tv show thats on that you think he would enjoy or something. Go on, give it a try. Don't wait over a decade to do it like I did. Its a waste of precious time!

Answer 5

You need to get over that attitude. I mean chasing someone and calling to see what was up are two totally different things. I never really saw a woman's ego get in her way but this is the case.

Now consider this, you call him he says, "blah, blah, blah", and you say oh OK. You move on but you can learn from it. You don't have to chase him if he doesn't want to be with you. So, ultimately you still get to stick with your motto.

Answer 6

Why not just call him and say whats up? I haven't heard from you in awhile, and I just thought that I would call and see how you are doing. While chatting with him in a friendly way (act casual), you can slip in, are you dating anyone? Because I was wondering what happened to you?

Answer 7

if you really love him call him and find out whats going on how come he hasnt called.This is not considered chasing after guys he was just your friend you werent dating really.If you dont call him and ask whats up you will regret it later on.

Answer 8

I think that he may have found someone else in his life. If you really care about a person, you will take time to communicate with them, unless you don't really want to, or they don't want you to call.

Answer 9

No,it's because you waited to long and now he's gone elsewhere.Call it a day with this one and don't the same mistake twice.

Answer 10

maybe he have a girl,or he is afraid of a real woman.maybe he have the same rules you have.forget him call me.