He claims to be allergic, but it is more like we have a new house and he doesn't want the cat hair in it, or the litter box, or the scratched furniture.
2006-07-21 02:00:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Cats
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2006-07-21 09:09:21 · update #1
Honestly, some ppl are just not cat/dog ppl. I have a dog... I dont like cats. i wont date someone with a cat I dislike them that much. I dont go to friends houses cuz i dont like them. You have to respect the fact that he may really be allergic and if he isnt the fact that he doesnt want it in the house. At least he letting you keep it. i know tons of couple s were they have to give the cat up once they get engaged.
~Good luck.
2006-07-21 02:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Im just me 2 · 6⤊ 3⤋
Lots of folks are going to say this, but consider the man. I'm not saying dump him, but take a little time and really analyze him. Does he tell you what to do in other areas? Does he treat you like a child, talk down to you, call the shots? Perhaps one of the things he loves about you is that you allow him to tell you what to do. If YOU didn't want a pet that HE had, you would say the same excuses that he did, kwim? "I'm allergic. I don't want the furniture messed up."
Don't dump the man, necessarily, but do consider his actions. It's never just one thing, like it's not just the cat.
It's true that he feels he can tell you no cat. What else may he be doing? THEN, talk to him. Tell him that your relationship is 50/50. That you are not a child and you expect your wants and desires to be equally important and weighty as his.
There have been studies done about this very thing. How a person treats animals says sooo much about them. If they yell at their pet, they may yell a lot. If they have a short temper with a pet, their temper is always going to be short about things. Etc, etc.
2006-07-21 09:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think twice about getting married. I mean, are you really going to be happy living without your cat. Then after the cat it might be something else. Sounds like ya'll need to compromise, or actually he does. I have found that men who have an issue with something that is important to you, will find another issue when the first one is resolved. Think twice if it's a control issue with him. My boyfriend wanted me to put my medium size dog out, said it was too big for the house, always this or that with my dog. My dog is just glad to have her side of the bed back and we don't know or care were he is living and we couldn't be happier!!
2006-07-21 09:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he complain more about the damage the cat will do or his allergies and if its hes "allergies" Let him know there is medication out there to stop that. If he asked you to marry him knowing that you have a cat did he think you were just going to get rid of it? Sounds like he might be trying to change you. I would start asking into it. Good Luck
2006-07-21 09:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Marcia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shave the cat. Wash it often. Have the cat declawed. Teach the cat to go to the bathroom on the toilet.
2006-07-21 09:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump your fiance and keep the cat.
2006-07-21 09:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by courage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to take a double take on your relationship with him.
2006-07-21 09:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by macleod709 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who you love the most.....
2006-07-21 09:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by 3-selin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋