My husband LOVES to work so much that on the weekends he wakes up in a bad mood. I feel bad for the kids because they just want to spend some time with their dad and he get frustrated at them. I am a working mom too and realize that after not being around your kids all week it is a little bit of a culture shock when you are there with them all the time for 2 days. I guess I just know when my patients is being tryed and know what to do about it. My husband doesn't like to go anywhere on the weekends so getting him out of the house is not an option. Any suggestions?
2006-07-21 01:50:04 · 6 answers · asked by clclmom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hmmm... I don't know if I have enough info to answer, but here goes.
Does your husband get a chance to sleep in on Saturday? Is he not a morning person?
Maybe a good idea, would be to let the kids know that Saturday morning is Daddy's Sleep Make up time. Daddy must sleep in, so everyone must be quiet, and if need be, spend time in their rooms til such a time, until Daddy has had enough rest.
Your husband may just need a little space.
My husband is the same way.
Just let him sleep in. Let him take his time waking up. Leave him be, so to speak. If the kids are too rowdy, then Mom take them out to breakfast, spend some time out of the house, come back around lunch time.
Tell dad what you are going to do, and make a habit of giving him his time every week.
Then say to him, The kids want some time with you, let us all go to the park this evening, or anything, the lake, or whatever, give him a time. Take a picnic.
Let him know it is all about fun and relaxation.
If your husband is a workaholic around your house, then just set a time for this, then everbody pitch in so Dad doesn't think he bears the burden alone about getting work done around the house.
Being a family is all about communication and working as a group to make sure everyone feels good about their place in the home. Parents often bear all the responsibilty on their shoulders and heart to ensure everyone in the house is happy. Make it a Coop effort for everyone, even the children. Children like responsibilty, and if children believe that they were able to make Daddy happy and feel good, then that is a lot of power for a child, not to mention, the returns.
This group effort will take a lot of stress off you Mom! Good Luck!
2006-07-21 02:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you feel and how the kids feel. My husband does not like to lay around on the weekends either. It's not that he misses his job.. he would rather work at the house than go anywhere too. Just tell him you and the kids are going to dinner, movies whatever. If he wants to go, he will, if not just leave him at home. Some people would just rather be at home on their days off from work. After working all week, it's a pleasure to stay at home. Good luck! I have to do the same thing.
2006-07-21 02:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably your husband is in to Marketing or HR!!!! He is wearing a smiling mask all the five days and it takes a great effort to maintain that, He should also be having several set backs in his work!! Thus when he reaches home, he becomes the true person and all the frustration developed over the week is showered on you and children!!!!
My wife used to welcome me after every tour with a smile and used to be patient listner to hear the trivia I used to pour on her!! She never used to utter a word in support or against but I used feel relieved when I pur out the accumulated negatives!! She also works in a Bank and will tell me about her past days there.
She will not wake me up but will make my girl child to come near me aftet allowing two-three hours of extra sleep. My girl will coax me to get up with her naughtiness and i get up refreshed. I may still get irritated fast but my wife efficiently avoid confrontations!!
So, its my wife who used to refresh me every week end with her thoughtful needs!! Why dont you give a try to rejuvenate him?
2006-07-21 02:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stressed I think that is a normal feeling for a lot of men. I am alittle worried about the "mean" part that you mentioned though...that is an abnormal feeling for any man
2006-07-21 01:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by Deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean yours only acts that way on weekends?! WOW! Suggestion: Kids to grandmas, you anywhere you want to go. Hubby= who cares?
2006-07-21 02:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out (http://www.reducingstress.net ) there is a lot of great articles and expert advice on the subject there.
2006-07-23 19:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋