how do u get someone to emit they have and big drinking problem for it to late
2006-07-21 01:45:55 · 15 answers · asked by mommy72403 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
this person is my husband... he spends his time ween he not at work on the computer and drinking
2006-07-21 02:12:17 · update #1
It is very hard to force someone to admit this.
It is more likely that you will have to wait till they realize it themselves...
Most people, when confronted, will deny they have a problem with drinking. The more you press someone, the more vehemently they will deny it!
The clear definition of a 'drinking problem' should be clarified. It is when drinking starts affecting things in a persons life (such as his job or marriage) negatively.
You will not get someone to admit they have a problem unless they want to admit it!
2006-07-21 01:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by crazyotto65 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, the last two people got my answer before I got here, use a camera and get family and friends together to do an intervention. But make sure that you have atleast tried to have an open and one on one talk first, or this could be a disaster. I mean it will most likely be a very difficult thing, but atleast if you tried the one on one first it would show the person that you tried to go about things in a compassionate and private way first. Good luck
2006-07-21 01:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They pretty much have to realize it on their own. Like in a hospital ER, for example. Or perhaps in a wrecked car, maybe. How about in the drunk tank at the local PD? I do like the answer where you video tape them while they're wasted, but that might only make them realize they have a problem, whereas they probably wouldn't do anything about it. It's a complex issue that usually requires therapy of some sort.
2006-07-21 01:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do an intervention in which that person is invited to a home that contains his family, close friends and a intervention therapist.
The therapist will have organized the session and will direct the agenda.
There usually will be an offer extended to the alcohol abusive to join a clinic to help him 'dry' out.
2006-07-21 01:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Patti's answer is good but it leaves out one side. As with all problems there are two sides. If you cannot abide anyone who consumes alcohol, the problem may be yours.
On the other hand, like Patti states, a person with a drinking problem has to hit bottom first.
2006-07-21 01:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by The Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tuff. Most people who have drinking problem won't admit it out right. I would suggest a visit to a counselor that is trained to handle these types of situations and they maybe able to help this person admit that they do have a problem and get the correct treatment.
2006-07-21 01:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult; in my experience, they just grow aggressive...
Dare them to spend 24 hours with you, non-stop, without drinking, althouth then they would also become very grumpy, and maybe vicious... It's a sad situation.
A good try would be to seriously talk to them while they are still sober - not threatening, not unpleasant, just serious talk. That is not easy (my mother's current partner is fully drunk by 10 a.m.), but if they care about you, they may listen...
2006-07-21 01:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to understand is that you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
Secondly is you need to talk to them when they are not inhebriated with alcohol so they have a rational reaction to what your concern is.
If you can't be around them and they refuse to get help it is best to let them live their life without you in it. You will only become more stressed over something that you just can't control.
2006-07-21 01:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't unfortunately. They have to come to their own terms with it & even if they do admit they have a long road ahead of them. Admitting is the first step to recover.
2006-07-21 01:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They won't get help or admit to this until they are ready to.
I know it sounds terrible, but you can't force someone to see what is wrong until they are ready to see... all you can do is voice your concerns... but until they come to terms with this themselves, theres nothing else you can to.
You can't help someone who doesn't want help.
2006-07-21 01:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋