I met a boy 6 years ago, he was desperately in love with me then, i wasn't interested but kept him close because he is a great guy and i wanted his friendship... finally i ended up having a short reltionship with him but left him... then we kind of lost contact for a few years and now i rediscovered him at the beginning of this year, i found myself really attracted to him, we tried to rebond but he said it didn't work out for him anymore. i know him well so it wasn't a revenge or anything intended to hurt me. we haven't seen each other since, but now i started going to a fitness club but coincidence makes that he was going to the same club as i am, and when he approached to talk to me i was really surprised because he doesn't even live in the neighbourhood... but it seems that he still doesn't want anything else anymore... so what do i do then since i feel he would be perfect for me, thinking objectively, and i also have a huge crush on him... oh, i'm 23 so i'm not really a kid anymore
2006-07-21 01:33:12 · 14 answers · asked by KiKi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's not "wantting what i can't have" because this year when we met again... he wasn't specific about being interested or not
2006-07-21 01:40:21 · update #1
love just happens.u just cant make anyone love u....just give him time to realise what he really feels for u..it can be mere friendship or more than that..it should not be a hasty decision.u also take time to confirm ur feelings..whether u r infatuated or in love..time will decide..hope u get the best one.best of luck
2006-07-21 01:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Neha 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like because he had a crush on you and you basically rejected him at that time he dosent want to get hurt again and that it took him along time to get over you and he dosent want to go through that again.The best thing you can do is let go and you both live your lives.You cant force someone to be with you and love you.If he truly wants to be with you he will.You could still be friends with him and maybe after a while he will start to fall in love with you again.But if not then you need to let go and find someone that will love you and make you happy
2006-07-21 01:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ifu r not a kid u should know how to get the guy.... any way ur story was cute and i wish u all the luck in getting the guy back.... try a full frontal attack by telling him u want to mother his kids.... i am a guy and it would work on me.... if it works for u do select this answer as the best one....
2006-07-21 02:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by BignTall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a kid sumwat more of a teen & i dont kno if u want advice from me but...heres wat i think.
This reminds me of the book that i read "Flipped" & its almost exactly the same except the girl was the first to like the boy. anyway, have you told him how u felt? cas he liked u at one point & he just might have some at least a little feelings for u still. u never kno. he just might be hurt cas u left him when he liked u.
so i think u should tell him how u feel & if that doesnt work, try to show him how you feel.....but dont end up bein like a stalker(heehee;)... )
So thats wat i think.
2006-07-21 01:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by SheShe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think you can't handle the fact that he JUST DOES NOT WANT YOU.....its a blow to your ego......He grew up and saw how you treated him and realized he deserved better. Maybe he saw through you ...to the real you...and it doesn't interest him.....You want him to want you again...but I would guess..that if you got him....you would do the same thing again.......He probably doesn't want to deal with the drama....He's grown up...and your still living in the past.
2006-07-21 01:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might've gotten over you. He might just want to be friends. Try to go out for coffee or something, not a date but just goin for coffee with a friend. IF you want, try flirting and leaving a hint or to here and there and see how he reacts.
2006-07-21 01:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Fallen Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really seems as if he just wants to be friends...hes being quite honest that he doesn't want anything else so accept that. His honesty is better than him stringing you along. Just accept the friendship and move on...
2006-07-21 01:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 yes still a kid!
You can be his friend
you can enjoy him
let things build. you may know this guy for years and years
and still be just friends,,,but friends are the best
best friends are for life, but would a releationship be...?
2006-07-21 01:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your soul mate. The cupid is hitting on you. He has planned to meet you again and again. That's love, no doubt to mention it anymore.
2006-07-21 01:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find out why he feels it wont' work with him.may be u work out , if there is any wrong aprehensions in his mind.
best of luck
2006-07-21 01:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by sduhbls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋