my son has a friend who is 10years old and he is in my opinion out of control! he is always cursing and yelling and punching and kicking people! if he doesnt get his own way its like WWIII he goes and breaks things or throws things at people! his parents just ignore it but they have been doing this is whole life and so far it doesnt seem to have worked!
any suggestions?
2006-07-21 01:31:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
If you can not correct the problem---remove it---if the parents of this little rabid ape can't and or won't get him in line---you are risking the future of your own child's behavior by letting the two of them continue to associate---your own son will soon begin to exemplify some of the same patterns here if the disassociation does not happen---he will see that the other child gets his way far more and gets by with more over his bad behavior than what he gets for himself minding and behaving and he will start changing in order to test the waters of that kind of activity for what it holds for him
Confront the parents---tell them outright ---they won't like it--but someone has to say something here---later--they won't be able to say that no one said anything---tell them that the out of control stuff is becoming a problem you can't deal with anymore---and if they can't get it corrected---you are going to end the association of your child with their child for the well being of your child's future happiness and social skills
2006-07-21 01:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
First off, his parents have to be the ones to reign this terror in. That isn't your job. You can declare your house off limits though unless he straightens out his behavior.
If you want some tips to offer his parents: First the parents have to have the back-bone to stand up to their self made monster. If the child is punished for bad behavior, both parents have to back each other up and make sure that penalties or punishments are consistent. Start by grounding the child from things he really enjoys, like video games, the Internet, etc.
Don't even try to get in the way of this child as far as behavior is concerned. He knows he can get away with murder, because his parents are dumb enough to let him, so anything you try to push on him will only be met with derision. I hate to say it, but that's the problem with the youth of today. It isn't so much the youths themselves as the parents who don't know how to use discipline, or think that domestic problems will work themselves out. If possible, try to diplomatically confront the parents on their sons behavior. They probably won't want to hear it, but at least you gave it a shot. If more people pointed this behavior out, or confronted lazy parents, I think this type of behavior could be toned down.
2006-07-21 08:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MYOB....(mind your own business) The parents are not blind, and if thats how they choose to raise their child, there's nothing you can do about it.
You can do several things.
First, don't let your child play at their home. You don't want your kid picking up any of the bad habbits.
Second, set firm ground rules when the child is at your home. Let him know what is acceptable behavior. If he mis-behaves, then there should be consequences...and you should follow through on the consequences. (However, you shouldn't really discipline the child (see above) so the consequence should always be he has to go home.
Third, never babysit for this kid. If you do, then you have to discipline him...again not your business.
Finally, steer your child towards other friends. Make playdates with other kids on elsewhere. Enroll your child in activities that don't include the problem child. With any luck, the kids will drift apart....probably by the time they are in middle school.
Good luck.
2006-07-21 08:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by Stephen B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boot camp?
I really don't know, maybe his parents should be taught how discipline and punish. Do they think that letting their son get his own way is the only way to show that they love him? It's the parents who need to be taught that what they are doing is wrong. Their son shouldn't be treating others this way. Are there any parenting classes they can go to to get some instructions on how to introduce boundaries and discipline?
2006-07-21 08:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know about the belt and spanking, just as long as no psychological damage is caused, the kid should be okay. I'm not a parent, though, so don't take my word for it.
Hey wait a minute, this isn't even your kid? The good thing to do would be to stop letting your son play with him. As for how is parents treat him, that's not your prob to handle.
2006-07-21 08:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Aloofly Goofy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this little guy need a go bum busting, but since he is ten grounding and a ton of chores should cure this little tyrant. my children range from 5 to 21 and I have taken gameboys away, given no tv time restricted them to their room with books and that includes meals too, had them do not only their chores but their siblings chores too this usually works especially when I remind them that until they are 18 that I have exclusive control over their social lives but the parents have to stick to the rules they make when they say that he is grounded for a week make it a week not a day.and as for the cursing a good washing of the mouth with a bar of ivory soap has cured many children.
2006-07-21 11:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure - tell him he's not allowed to do that at your house or when he's playing w/ your son - he's setting a bad example. We've had a kid or two like that pass through here and I have told them, " you may not behave like that if you want to stay here, I'll have to call your folks to pick you up if you continue to yell, hit, etc." You can't make a idle threat though - you have to follow through. My kids have pretty much weeded out the friends w/ bad behaviour on their own - they just stop asking for playdates w/ them.
2006-07-21 08:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your job as a parent is to provide your son a safe and healthy environment. If this 10 yr old boy is as negative an influence as he sounds, then you would be well to keep your son away from him. Unless you have a very long term relationship with his parents any comments you make are unlikely to impact their parenting style.
2006-07-21 08:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have twin 10 year old daughters with lots of little boyfriends...
some of whom behave like your little nightmare.
First I let them know the rules for playing at my house...and I purposely outline those rules in front of the parent.
- normally I have to interject "And I am not your punching bag" ...
then I let them hear the consequences of their behavior...
which is...mommy or daddy will have to come pick them back up.
My experience has been that the parent will immediately say
"Oh I will be at the store for the next couple of hours"
To which I quickly answer "Gee, then I'll just tie him down until you're available".
I have yet to have a problem...
...and no...I have not tied down a single obstreperous little boy
...yet....
2006-07-21 08:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Warrior 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Child meet baseball Bat, Baseball bat Meet Head. Did me no wrong as a child, I grew up respecting other people, and there possessions, Also take everything out of their room except for the bed, and send them to it, they will appreciate what the have after a few days. And if they dont Ebay the items you removed
2006-07-21 08:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by Dez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋