Question to all Christians?

Question

How can I work on having more faith in God? I stay at home all day resting because I am 5 months pregnant with twins, while my husband works 6 days a week. Because I'm not working, money is really tight, which I'm stressed out about. I fuss about his way of paying bills, rent, giving money to the church, and everything that I feel could possibly hinder us in the long run. No matter how much he makes, I still find something wrong, and end up being miserable. We have 5 kids and a very limited budget. When he approaches me saying that we are giving the church $100.00 out of this check, knowing that all we are going to have after we pay bills is a little over a two hundred dollars, it makes me depressed. We have to feed our kids and ourselves for two more weeks before he gets paid again! Not to mention gas, and toiletries, etc. He tells me that I don't have enough faith, and that I am hindering our blessings, and that giving to God should come 1st. How can I have the same amount of faith?

Answer 1

Prayer is the only answer. The closer you are to God and the more dependent on him you are, the better he will be able to work in your life. You have to trust him, though, and wholeheartedly at that. It's difficult sometimes. But if we continue to pray to him and depend on him he won't let us down.

I don't always have a lot of money either, and sometimes I wish I could keep all my money instead of sharing it with my church, or I wonder how I'll come up with enough to fulfill my pledge for the new building....but then I remember that God is the most important thing in my life, and if it comes down to making do with less, or not buying as many clothes, or simply getting a cheaper brand of shampoo, then so be it. I think of the people in this world worse off than me and then focus on my blessings, and the fact that I'm able to give to God, if only a little bit, some of all that he gives to me.

Prayer really is the answer. The closer you are to God, the more you love and depend on and believe in him the easier it will be to let go of what belongs to him anyways in an act of faith that will come back to you multiplied. (I do find that when I give with a bedgrudging heart God simply accepts my gift; but when I give with a joyful heart and genuine spirit he returns what I've given him at least double...it really makes it easier sometimes to give, but then I have to be wary of any false sense of security that I'm doing a great thing and I deserve to receive so much in return........) Anyways, I'm rambling. Please try to immerse yourself in more prayer and read Bible verses that deal with God's faithfulness and absolute power. He will never let you fall, and he does have the strength to support you, even when you're doubtful...

God bless!!

p.s. I'd like to respond to somebody above me who said that if you're sacrificing to give, then it's a problem. I'd like to caution that that's not true. If you're sacrificing to give, then you're doing it right. It's so easy to give away what you don't need. It's when you part with things that seem important and essential to you that you are showing God your faith in him and thanks for all he has given you. It's then that it's the hardest to give, and that's where our faith in God (and God himself, of course) is the only thing that will pull us through...

Answer 2

I guess he just has what I would call a different outlook on what he needs to do to be a good christian.

I am a christian and I believe that all I need to do is have faith in Jesus and God, the old rules or laws were all outdated when Jesus died on the cross for us. Had he not done this there would be no-one on this planet that would be seen as a true non sinner.

In your case I guess I too would be stressed and you do realise that stress is not good for you if you are pregnant! I have no idea what you can do and very basically I can't tell you what to do but I personally would talk to my wife if she was doing what your husband is doing, because there comes a time when you need to be able to survive in the periods between the pay days.

I might ask what happens when you are both working? Do you both pay the tythe?, why I ask this is because if you do then you wouldn't really be any better off..

It is a very hard one to answer and in the end you and your husband need to communicate with each other otherwise you re building on a failed relationship..

Good luck and hopefully God will guide the two of you in the right direction,

Answer 3

i kno that giving money the church is very inportant but god will understand that sometimes ppl dont have enough money 2 give 2 the church 4 example like poor ppl on street may belive in god a lot but they cant give money 2 the church that dosnt mean that they r bad ppl so if u cant give money 2 the church but still have faith in god during that time he isnt going 2 b mad at u but if u rlly want 2 u could mayb give half of that 2 the church like 50 dollars insteed of 100 dollars ppl will understand cause u do have 2 get ur priorties staright and if u cant feed ur kids cause u r giving money 2 the church then u should stop giving money 2 the church so that u can feed ur children 4 the time being....also 2 save money on gas u could walk 2 places its also good exersize!i hope everything turns out ok... good luck!

Answer 4

Your husband is right, but I can understand your frustration having been there before myself. But God promises that if we don't steal from Him, if we give Him back the small part He asks of us, then He will open the storehouses of heaven and pour blessings upon us.

My husband and I are real tight financially too - and we even give above and beyond our 10% tithe and extra offerings. We don't have a lot of money to spend when everything is said and done. In fact, we don't have any. BUT- we never lack anything. It seems that if an extra bill pops up, He provides the money to pay it. The car has been running for 2 years with no major problems. We even managed to scrape together the money to go camping recently. Sometimes money will just appear - like $20 in the glovebox of the truck and $75 in my backpack. Always when we need it the most. He provided a 3 bedroom mobile home for us for $1000 just when we got our income tax return in and had the money. We have learned to be content with our lot in life, and we have learned to be happy even though we don't have a lot of money. In fact, my ex had a good deal of money, and I'm happier now than I ever was with him.

The best way to strengthen your faith is to spend time with God every day. Start your day off with God - in prayer and in Bible study - and you will find that it becomes easier and easier to have faith that He will provide. Tell Him your doubts and your fears, and then give them to Him (and don't take them back). I promise you - He will provide for you. If you need encouragement, contact me. I will be glad to stay in contact with you.

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Answer 5

Ok. To have faith you must first know Jesus. To know about his work on the cross and what He did how it effect you.

Jesus was punish for your sin so that you will never be punish. He gave you Hid place as a child of God and took you place as a sinner. He took away your sin and gave you His righteousness. The bible says that the righteous shall be blessed with ALL blessing including fiances.

Don't worry about giving to God. You cannot out gave Him. God love a cheerful giver.

Remember ALL the good things God had done for you and it is something you want to do in return. Give because of any other reason you are giving in vein.

Answer 6

Some people just want to make fun of everyone. As for your question, you could have been me. I am 32 weeks pregnant with my 4th child and sometimes it is so hard to trust that God will supply the things that we need if we are obedient to Him.

Let me tell you from personal experience that He knows what we need. The Bible tells us to tithe, so when we do what He says He will take care of us. I have been down to nothing in my cabinets and I will get the mail and someone has sent us money, or open the door and there is food on the doorstep. God has over and over shown me that He will not let my children go hungry.

Sometimes God has to get us to the place where we have nothing so He can show us that He won't fail us. All we have to do is ask for His help.

Answer 7

Wow! If this is true, I am so sorry. That is absolutely crazy to give money to the church when you are struggling to support your own family. You obviously married someone who has been brainwashed by the church.

You might suggest that you stop paying for a month and see what happens.

Another option, not entirely honest, is to ask him to pray to God with you and then come up with the answer that God wants you to spend the money on your family. .

Answer 8

I know you are a wonderful woman of God you love your husband. you are faithful to your children that is a character hard to find now adays. I know your husband has a great woman of God on his side! So I know you can hold on a bit longer.

look at your life do you have to beg for food are your bills being taken care of, yes things are tight but God is faithful.
When you plant a seed does it grow to full stalk the next day?

Your husband is planting seed into the kingdom of God read Malachi 3:10-12.
this will help your faith this is one of the few areas where God says to test Him to see if He will not be faithful! It is about giving offerings and tithes and what God promises to do if you are faithful. I know He will not fail you! just read this daily keep bringing it before God.

Matt. 7:7 Keep on asking, and you will be given what you ask for. Keep on looking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened.NLT
You will be blessed just hold on a little longer "Mary"

Answer 9

What you are going through has nothing to do with you believing or not believing Gad. Your earnings will not increase because you believe in God ya ?

For a change you can start working - part time may be. You can work till 1 week before delivery without a problem - it is there in after you will have to be there for the baby. It will be tougher then. But that is life - nothing to do with a God.

All the best for the rest of your families life.

Answer 10

Oh sweetheart, the way you get faith like your husband's is to just have it. so eas;y to say and so hard to do.

He is right about stopping the blessings with your attitude. I know I did my husband that way for a long time. use that beautiful mind god gave you to bend your will to accept the giving.

Now some practical things you can do: Tell you church leaders. They are commanded by the word to help others. Then when they help thank them. Pray, Pray, Pray.