First, I would like to say that I have the most wonderful gf in the world. I love her more than anything; she makes me smile and just makes the world beautiful, I feel complete when I'm with her. But she does get terribly jealous, at first I sorta liked it; everone likes to be wanted, but its getting out of hand. She doesn't accuse me of anything, I have never done anything to make her doubt me, but she turns on just about evry girl that comes into contact with me. Lately it was her best friend! Who I am only around when she is. I mean, even ridiculous things like girls way younger than me or ones that I am in no way attracted to. She thinks they are all out to get me or "steal me away". I love her and would never leave her, thats all she needs to be concerned about. How can I make her understand this?
2006-07-21 00:56:08 · 10 answers · asked by beauman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My wife was the same way when I first started dating her. She had been through some pretty awful situations, her self-esteem was pretty low.
Time will help out with this but what also worked for me was just putting my foot down. I firmly (but gently) told her to stop being so darn crazy! Truly try to dig into her past make her feel comfortable about talking what happened in her past, help her explore why she feels so vulnerable. She obviously loves and cares for you deeply which causes this anxiety in her. Trust me, it's driving her crazy, too, to feel that way. I assume she feels guilty when she gets jealous, which causes her to become anxious that she drive you into the arms of another women, which makes her get all the more jealous, etc etc.
If you can, go away somewhere this weekend and just talk and talk and talk. Find out why she is insecure and help her deal with her past, espouse your feelings for her and wrap her in your arms and tell her that you will never let her go . . .
2006-07-21 01:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with your girlfriend and explain to her that any relationship from the most casual of friendships to the most intimate, requires mutual trust. Without mutual trust, no relationship can endure for long. Do it in a gentle way though.
2006-07-21 08:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and me don't play those games, it is a game of control. If you want your realationship to last you have to tell her she has to trust you. Tell her you are not jealous because you are sure that she loves you and you are sure you love her. Ask her to have the same faith in you. If she can't than maybe you are in deep love and you need a boat just to float.
2006-07-21 08:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by butterflyfrills 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and give her an assurance that whatever happens you're going to choose her than the other girls...
2006-07-21 08:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just reassure her and send her flowers at work so everyone sees them and knows they are for her
2006-07-21 08:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has insecurity issues. suggest you both do a counciling gig togeather if you feel she is really the one, otherwise, ask yourself, how long do I actually want to put up with this?
2006-07-21 08:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a muscle relaxer and take her to a shrink.
2006-07-21 08:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing.......That's something she has to work out on her own.If you telling the truth about being mister faithful,she gonna have to work it out on her own.
2006-07-21 08:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing you can do about it,its a problem your girlfriend needs to sort herself, if she thinks shes got one that is
2006-07-21 08:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by Princess xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to reassure her there is no reason to be jealous.if there is no trust, there is no reason to think the relationship will last.
2006-07-21 08:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by retrac_enyaw03 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋