I've been living with my bf for about 3 months now and I've been doing the wifely things like laundry and cleaning. Yesterday I did all of our laundry, cleaned his room top to bottom..did the whole nine yards. I worked on those 2 things for about 2 hours. Then he has like this "junk room" that he and his mom kinda just throw stuff in..it was horrible and it irks me. So I came in here and worked about 3 more hours cleaning this room after he went to bed at 8:30 at night. I mean, I completely threw away all the trash, put stuff away, organized things, dusted the furniture and vaccuumed and EVERYTHING! Then when I went to bed at midnight, I didn't tell him..I was just gonna let it be a surprise. When he got up this morning to use the computer in here, he didn't say one word and that kind of put me off. I mean not even a "Holy sh*t! You cleaned this room!"? Do you think I'm overreacting when I want some gratification of all this work I did yesterday?
2006-07-21 00:47:14 · 24 answers · asked by Jenn 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you are not overreacting at all.. You spent your whole night just do clean things which you didnt even mess..He should at least say something! If he absolutely said nothing at all then i dont know.. either he has you for granded or he didnt even notice.. Go tell him " your girl is way too tired today ..what r u gonna cook for her?" see his reaction .. dont be angry with him or anything cz is just gonna ruin ur mood and u will end up fighting.. tell him something in a funny way and see what he will say back.. maybe he just forgot to tell u...
2006-07-21 00:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think at least a thank you would've been in order, same problem here with the wife, she just trashes the work I do......You do have to understand though, if his inability to clean up after himself is that poor, his mom too, don't ever expect a thank you for something he doesn't take seriously/personally.....trust me, you'll go crazy looking for a kind word, I know.....
2006-07-21 08:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the cleaning thing only to attract his attention. One thing you have not thought about it before is that he is used to live with junk. You may keep cleaning his room for nothing. Or do it because you love him so much. Forget the give and take theory, then you will be fine.
2006-07-21 07:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Cinderella take a break. You are not his wife and if I read correctly his mom lives there too, so let his mommy clean up after him. Use that time for school or a job or two, so you can move out on your own and have a maid come clean for you..
2006-07-21 08:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. No I would say, Any body who does all these house hold chores is to be appreciated and you expecting this is what everyone does.
2. You are living with a BF, and you are doing all this, which is uncommon in India. You are working like a typical Indian wife, who some times also gets the same treatment from her husband/in law.
2006-07-21 08:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Electric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should get at least a minor compliment or atta girl.....and should get a lot more than that, I think......I would say that he is beginning to take you for granted, and expects things like that from you.....One thing you should try never to do, is take the ones you care about for granted, or take advantage of the feelings....unfortunately, it does happen.....point out, kindly, that you do not mind doing these things, but you would like some gratification....and knowledge of your hard work......it might show him the errors in his way
2006-07-21 07:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not overreacting, u deserve some appreciation. but there's one thing u need to ask yurself, r u crossing the line too early? this might be the case of his silence, mayb he's freaked out inside tht u two r already in a relationship like husband-wife, which mayb too early for him. and if he's not worried about the relationship u two hav currently, thn he's just a selfish bustard.
2006-07-21 07:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by profound_000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overreacting??? Are you kidding me??? I think that it is very reasonable to want some gratification for all that work. Anyone who says you are overreacting is a chauvinistic pig. Tell him how you feel. Don't be subtle and drop little hints. Don't stoop to his level. Let him know that you worked hard and would appreciate a little acknowledgment.
2006-07-21 08:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by HONORARIUS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should give you gratification without asking for doing it. It might be a prelude to the future if he does not show some appreciation for your labors. Even work at home is still work and you should be shown the your labors do not go unnoticeds
2006-07-21 07:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by cyborg_2099 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No youre not overreacting my mum is just like that too....she cleans my room when Im away. When I see it I always get mad because she threw away a lot of things that I still want and we always start arguing. I know that she just wants to help me because I hate cleaning my room and she hates messy rooms but I just hate it when I get home and just wanna relax but I cant because I cant find none of my things because she threw them away or put them somewhere I cant find them.
Your man was probably mad because you threw away his stuff and he doesnt say nothing because he doesnt want to argue with you because he knows that you just wanted to help him.
2006-07-21 08:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋