Okay. so I spent Jan-May studying abroad. My bf had come to visit me, but I wasn't really feeling the relationship anymore after 4 years. I don't think I will ever be back with him because I don't trust him, but we are still good friends since we have mutual ones. When is it okay for me to start seeing other people?? I know he still wants to get back together, but he knows that I don't feel the same. I'm not sure how to get the point across that it is officially over with him without hurting him.
2006-07-21 00:32:24 · 13 answers · asked by rhody07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if U'r ready to be seen by others with someone else and most important of all if u see yourself with someone else then i guess U're ready to start over again:)
have fun and take care!
2006-07-21 00:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi first of all why don't you trust him? I'm also out of a relationship of 2years. When is it appropriate to start dating again?? Well only you can tell that for yourself, but be careful cause you still love this guy under your consciousness even if you don't feel so, don't go in a relationship just for the rebound, you will know when the time is right for action again!! for now go and flirt with all man kind!(ha ha) enjoy yourself my darling we only live ones, good luck!
2006-07-21 07:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him.....tell him you just don't feel it anymore....you still love him, but that love is more of a platonic love now....you're not feeling the romance anymore. It's easier to be honest up front before you move on and leave him wondering what the h*ll happened....
I think that 4 months IS too soon to jump back into a dating relationship....the person you start dating will wonder if he's your "rebound" man......of course, maybe men don't care......I don't know......but you'll be questioning yourself (especially if you have feelings about him....and its more than just dating). Good luck!! Feel free to contact me if you wanna talk!!
2006-07-21 07:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have no feelings at all for your ex-boyfriend is when you can start dating again.
You need to be honest with your ex-boyfriend and tell him straight that you dont want a relationship with him again and that you have moved on. If you still want to be friends with him though, tell him that you would like that.
2006-07-21 07:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have told him it's over. You are now free to do what ever you want. See other people. But out of respect to his feelings, just don't wave the new guys around him, like be discreet.
2006-07-21 07:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you're ready, start in. You don't need to stop living to let him down easily. If he's a real friend, he'll understand that, and if you're a real friend, you won't make a big deal out of it.
2006-07-21 07:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are SURE that it is time to move on
then it is time to begin dating again
(just beware of picking up the wrong lover while on rebound)
2006-07-21 07:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by PlayTOE- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel ready is the right time.If he really loved you then he will understand and not pertain for you to become some pseudo-nun.
2006-07-21 07:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lone Silver Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have waited long enough
let him know how you feel he will understand
im sorry things didnt work out,but you sound intelligent and caring youll meet someone else.
2006-07-21 07:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by Compton,CA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel ready is when you should start dating agian.
2006-07-21 11:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by brown sugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋