my sister keeps telling me that i am too much polite and i smile too often! she thinks that this means i am immature and not fit to be the boss of my company! she thinks i need to change cause no one is taking me seriously, but i love the way i am! what do i do?
2006-07-20 23:38:18 · 30 answers · asked by polly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No -- it is a sign of strength of character.
2006-07-20 23:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smile, don't you worry.
Think about it. If you lose you temper, it is a sign of weakness to lash out and be rude. If you are furious, and still remain calm, polite and accommodating, it's a sign of strength.
If it is your innate personality to be polite and accomodating, good for you. Boss of your company?
You can be polite and accomodating WHILE holding on to your power. Just don't become a doormat.
People who feel they have to remind others who the boss is... they are not always able to hold on to their staff. I know for a fact I would prefer to have a boss who is polite and accomodating.
No-one is taking you seriously? Really? Who says? Your sister? Is this true? find out. there are ways and means. I don't mean, "Hey employees, people say you are not taking me seriously, is that true?" after such a question, well.... but you know what to do.
What do you do? Remain your sweet self and disregard comments from others.
Good luck.
2006-07-21 06:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Balaboo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at All! Polite & Accomodating Bosses are a Rarity these days...It's soooo refreshing to come across one!
Just Be Yourself Always!...A smile & polite personality Always makes for a Great 1st Impression.
The only reason people won't take You seriously...Is if You can't Deliver on what You've promised!
If You can do the job...and always have a smile on Your Face...Fantastic!
2006-07-21 06:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by AlbertaGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recently, I went for a job interview that I wasn't really prepared for. Out came the the usual employer questions that most of us find hard answering like " tell me your weaknesses". Of course the one before it was - "tell me your strengths. " Like I said, I wasn't really prepared and the only thing I could think of was " I am polite and have good manners". After my interview, I thought about that very answer and and regretted not being able to come up with something better. You know the more type of 'cliche interview answer' that we all practice beforehand. Anyway, I did get the job and after some time the person who had interviewed me said that she remembered that very answer and that it was a big plus for me. So, yeh, there are still people out there who think that being polite and having good manners is still a big plus. Who knows, one of those people could be a future employer.
2006-07-21 06:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ana T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, its a sign of some one who has good MANNERS!! (Something your sister obviously forgot about, eh?).
You will find, that most "top executives" are very mannerly, and polite! They (Dont take Donald Trump as ANY EXAMPLE), are that way because they have "made it", and are set for life, OR, are mature enough, to start enjoying life as it was meant to be, and let those under them, do the work and worrying.
If you are polite, and seem eager to help people, they will actually DO MORE for you!
People are really hard workers, if they "like" the boss, then if they dislike them and try to stick it to them at every turn...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-21 06:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the way i look at it.... i think there are way too many jerk bosses out there who are very cold, and only care about pumping as much money into their company as possible.
i say you should stay the way you are, but just know when to stand up for yourself - like, in cases when people may try to take advantage of you you need to be able to face them, be firm and calm at once, and tell them they can't do that..... or whatever.
let your argument be your big point at all times.... and not your position or tone of voice. (but sometimes i'm sure you might need to use your voice to speed things up a bit ;-))
one last thing.... being polite often keeps you distant from people.
you probably know that already. :)
it's great to be polite to strangers, but you wouldn't want to treat close friends like strangers.... maybe you can though.
i guess it's all in how you do it.
you sound great to me......... i'd love to have had more bosses like you.
.
2006-07-21 06:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by bad_ambassador 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably thinks that because you are kind you don't have what it takes to become an authoritarian (which is what you have to be if you want to run a successful company).
You can be nice and accomodating, just don't let people walk all over you. When you tell employees what to do, let them know by your tone that you mean business. If they fail your expectations, be firm but fair. If they purposely defy you, fire them. Acting in this way will by no mean compromise you good character.
Much love.
2006-07-21 06:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she's not right at all. Being polite and nice to people is important, especially when you're a boss of a company and you meet people. Stay the way you are, and don't let people change you.
2006-07-21 07:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by Alice_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people will interpret politeness and smiling to be weak minded. If you want to be nice, you have to be twice as vigilant about making sure you do what you need to do to have respect. It is unfortunate, but it is true.
Those that tell you it is not weak, are not being totally truthful. Everyone likes someone to be nice, but everyone respects a bit#h. It would be a better world if nice was not seen as weak.
2006-07-21 06:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being polite and accomodating is definitely not a sign of weakness, rather it is a God's given gift that should sincerely be appreciated. Being taken seriously has little or no correlation with the issue at stake.It is your character and intergrity that determines how serious people will take you. Be yourself and be proud of who you are.
2006-07-21 07:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mary E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are NOT signs of weakness........These show that you have respect for others.
My husband is polite and accomodating of others and he is the least weak person I know.
You can run a business with these characteristics if you don't let your employees run over you or take you for granted or take advantage of you. You can be polite and still be firm and fair.
Be yourself and enjoy life!!!!!!
2006-07-21 06:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by Auntiem115 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋