I am a 48 year old guy and I am dating a 16 year old. We do not have sex!! I am not a pervert that is only with her to get into her pants. Its her mind and personality that I am falling for. I enjoy her company and I like to buy her things just to make her eyes light up and to see her smile. I wouldnt do anything to hurt her and I think I am falling in love with her. My wife is mad about it and is giving me a hard time about it. What should I do?
2006-07-20 23:37:26 · 39 answers · asked by Jerry L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. Its not against the law to date them, its against the law to have sex with them, which im not!
2006-07-20 23:43:00 · update #1
as much as u think u r not going to hurt her, eventually u will! so pls stay as far as possible from her! not only because of your age difference but also because of you are married! dont hurt your wife like this!
2006-07-20 23:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by polly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically you could be this girls GRANDfather but that is not the point. While I am sure that both of you are getting something good out of this relationship it seems that you are creating problems for yourself and also for her. You speak of your wife, if you are married and intend to stay so, you shouldnt date period. If for no other reason than any state other than Texas will award your wife a very nice settlement should she sue. Try to stand before any judge and find a good ruling when you have said "yes I know she is 16 but I am only after her mind". Step out of it. Leave. Let the sweet little thing down gently, that is YOUR job, you are the experienced one. No morals, no pointers, simply be smart. At the moment you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt for a VERY slim chance of anything but shortlived happiness. 16 year olds seldom stay with they 48 yo highschool sweetheart.
And if you must stay with her, be honorable, get your divorce and see where things lead. But the fact that you havent gotten one already shows that you know the lay of the land. However, why your wife hasnt gotten one, unless you are texans, is completely beyond me. You must have that certain something, perhaps the same thing that made your sweetheart fall for you. Ending on a serious note, end it. Not because its wrong, sick or illegal or whatever people might call it, end it because its not smart and will most likely cause great harm to you, socially and economically.
2006-07-21 00:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Deviant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so seriously your married that should be your life dream, instead of falling in love with her why not just love her, treat her like a daughter, you could end up being the "cool" dad that she goes to when things really get tough, cuz lets face it no matter how you look at it her personality is going to change alot over the next few years because she is only 16. ive had a guy like that in my life 4 lets see 6 years now and im 21 he's 43 now. And whenever I really need help with something or somewhere to get away or just someone to talk to thats not involved with all the "drama" of my life everyday I always go to him. Try that. And does she realize that you two are dating or is it just one sided and whyin the world are you dating someone if your married anyways. But do you really think that it would work think about the changes that are going to be happening in her life. Look at how everyone looks at you. Really you need to sit back and think whats best and if all you wanna do is buy her things you could also spend money on the kids down the street that know that theres no santa claus because their parents couldn't afford it this year! You wanna see eyes light up?? Thats where you could find it!
2006-07-20 23:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling. 16 is way too young and if you truly care about her, you will let her go to mature and grow up without an adults interference. There must be something missing in your marriage to want to light up another woman's face and not your wife's - perhaps seek marriage counseling too. Leave the 16 year old alone. My daughter is 15, if she was 16 and the man was 48, there would be court orders to stay away from her for sure, even if the intentions are good. My daughter has no business getting involved with adult love or feelings at such a young age, it could damage her beyond repair and that's what I'm thinking about with this 16 year old. How much do you really care about her and how much of what you are doing is for selfish pursuits - honestly? I'm not trying to insult you, just giving you things to think about.
2006-07-20 23:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off your married your wife shouldnt be to pissed cause when she devorcise you and takes all your money cause your datiing a 16 year old thats going to drop you like a hot turd out of a dogs butt cause you ant got a dime and by the time shes 21 you,ll be sucking your food throw a straw and looking for your depends and you'll look back and think about ur wife cause she atleast stuck with you throw all the other crap and you know she would have helped you get those dam things on not that 21 year old she dont wanna see some dried up pruns and a pickle in a bag but your wife would have. long story short dont sell out
2006-07-20 23:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by hthammond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont date her your 48, 2 yrs. and you'll be 50, in 2 yrs she will only be 18! She could be your daughter or maybe even your grand-daughter. Say in a yr. u do want to have sex wit her thn that would be illegal. Do you have a daughter? If you do, think bout it, there's a 48 yr. old man dating your daughter. How do u think u would feel wit that 1. Also you said your wifeis mad, quote "My wife is mad about it and is giving me a hard time about it"! Are u cheating? Anyways I could say a lot more but I will just say look at all the answer's, they all say ur a sick pervert so if you really want to know wut to do that explains it.
2006-07-21 06:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realisticly speaking, why are you attracted to someone who can be your child? At the age of 16, she's vulnerable and naive. It seems that the idea of being able to mold her into the woman you desire is your issue. She is too young to be dating anyone seriously because she will evolve and more likely change her feelings about you. Don't even get tangled in that web for many reasons other than the fact that you are married and against the law. You're skating on thin ice my man. Think about it.
2006-07-20 23:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Raye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jerry, i feel that its okay to be a good friend to anybody...even to a 16 year old as u mentioned. I would say, go ahead but don't cross the line. You have the right to be good with anybody u feel. If ur wife is giving u a hard time, then she maynot be trusting you. Be a good friend to her.....never mind what others say !
2006-07-20 23:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by buriedarrow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to stop. ur not her dad and not her bf. thats kool u like buying her stuff but how bout u do the same thing for ur wife. in time sex is going to come and u wont be able to say no. then what ur having sex with a minor. u need to say goodby to her and put all ur time into ur wife. thats the only thing to do. i wonder what her parents think bout u. i know i wouldnt like it. so yeah not being rude or anything telling u the facts and truth. stop now u r married guy act like one.
2006-07-20 23:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question has earned a lot of criticism and as hard as this may sound......it's true .
firstly , you're a married man
secondly ,you're dating a 16 year old girl who is fit enough to be your own daughter
thirdly , its totally disrespectful to your wife, to this girl and to yourself to be involved emotionally , forget romantically .
and the most important question of all .....does this naive child know you are married ?
stop playing the fool. this girl may not take things very seriously , she's only 16 , but as a mature adult , you need to . you can't be doing something this irrational . please leave this girl and move on in your life.don't ruin it for her or for your wife or yourself for that matter . that's the only right thing to do. seek counselling , that would help .
2006-07-20 23:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by dxb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is giving you a hard time...awwww, pitty party over here!!! I wonder why...if i was your wife I'd divorce you, take at least half of everything and let you see how much support and love you could get from your 16 yr old little girl. And if i was the 16 yr old girls parent, I'd shoot you!!!
2006-07-20 23:42:29 · answer #11 · answered by StephNLee2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋