Why does this happen?

Question

My dads best friend and cousin got diagnosed with terminal cancer 5 yrs ago, and they gave him five years, they just took him off chemo, it wasn't working. He has 6 yr old twins and a 9 yr old, he is 37 or so. the world is so F*ck'd, its complete B/S. Whay can't it be osama bin laden, that idiot from N. Korea, Hezbollah, someone horiible, I want to sream. Moments like this test my faith?

Answer 1

God knows, we do not. I am sorry for all of you and will say a prayer.If you read the book of Ephesians it will say varying on which bible you use,that all things were known long ago as we all belong to Christ.Just know that family is not alone and there is always a plan,our minds are too weak to comprehend.The person above that says it is a generational curse I beg to differ, as all things from the past / old testament were nailed to the cross with Christ and does not apply.There may be genetics involved yes but we do not pay for the sins of our fathers. Have faith, life is full of changes and choices and perhaps all of this has unknown meanings for many involved. He was given 5 years and it seems he has gotten as stated, millions have no warnings and just go, so perhaps that point is a good thing in this.God's blessings on you all..

Answer 2

I know how you might be feeling a very dear friend of mine had cancer and he died he was sooo young. I can remember wishing that it wasnt him that it was someone who didnt deserve to live. It was really hard through the whole thing seeing him bald with tubes all over him. I still cry just thinking about it. Now i realise that he was in so much pain that it was better for him to pass on than stay here in pain. I also think back and now know that wishing some one else had his cancer isnt going to change anything. The best thing you can do is support you dad and the other family as much as you can. Be strong things will get clearer later on in life. And faith is what you need most now so hold on tight to it.

Answer 3

First of all don't loose your faith.
Lu 22:32 - read this chapter
But I have prayed for you, that your faith should not fail; and when you have returned to Me, strengthen your brethren."
it is exactly to strengthen your faith.
1Pe 1:7 -
that the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ,
1Jo 5:4 -
For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world--our faith.
God has a purpose. HIS ways are best and HE will lead us till the end. as per HIS promise

Answer 4

Statistically, 20% of humans get cancer.
Thus, 20% of hezbollah supporters can be expected to get cancer too.

I'm sorry about your family's misfortune. Unfortunately, loss is a part of life. (My mother was murdered when I was six.)

We all die. We simply must make the best of our lives while we have them.

I suggest that you turn away from faith, which only helps superficially, and get yourself an education in science.
This education will give you an opportunity to assist in anti-cancer research and offer some real hope to future sufferers.

Make the best of your life while you have it.
Do good things for others...to make your life worth living. Try to make yourself a positive force, to counter the negatives in life.

I wish you well.

Please consider science and humanism instead of faith. They are based in reality, and thus, for me, provide more comfort than faith.

Answer 5

Personally, I think the the worst thing you can do right now is wish this on another person. Though, I do understand your position.

Unfortunately, bad things happen to good people. This is something you have to deal with calmly. Try to remember that (I'm assuming you're Christian) your faith teaches that God wont give a situation to someone unless he knows they can handle it.

Be there for your family. Thats the best thing you can do. I hope and pray that your family gets through this tough time.

Answer 6

My regrets. Untimely deaths and the suffering for all that accompanies them do seem unfair. However, remember that we really live in 'a random walk' universe. Faith is an inner strength to be relied upon in moments of crisis. It is not a dependence on an outside greater power to change the course of nature and the natural world we live in.

Answer 7

I can't console you enough, i mean you seem to be going through something really difficult, and it's okay to feel that way. first of all many times terrible things happen and we way, "How can god exist if al this crap is happening?" we get mad and don't want to open up our hearts. but you have to realize if everything went well, and perfect, God could NEVER pour his grace onto us

Hear me out, i'm not trying to get all preachy or anything, but if you look at the bible, there's so many people that went through terrible circumstances and cursed god, but in the end what happens? they figure out that through those hardships, increddible blessings could arise. in Genesis 37- When Joseph's brother's sold him, and when Joseph got put into jail even though he didn't do anything, God did it all so that in the end when there was 7 years of famine, he could save his family,

If joseph was never sold, put into jail, and went through so much pain, his whole family would've died. sometimes, you have to see the LIGHT on the circumstance, if not, then nobody will and everything will be dark forever.

Through pain comes beauty trust me. I'm not BSing. it's not about why everything isn't going perfect for you, but rather, how much more you can recieve out of this for yourself and others. open your heart, and let the light shine even if it's night outside and you're all alone.

and once you do, you can atlast smile again

Answer 8

Worry kills-fast. What ever God has decided for us, it is good for us but we don’t realize it until later. Sometimes we don’t realize it at all. Sometimes a small hardship is sent by God blocks the way of a bigger imminent hardship.
Charity blocks the wrath of God that we have earned due to our misdeeds. This is what Islam teaches us. Your uncle should try to maintain his patience and give charity directly to needy people. No one can predict the time of death, ask him to embed this into his mind and live on day to day basis. This should ease things a great deal.

Answer 9

First quit complaining and murmuring 'cause that turns God off.
cancer is not the end of the world its only doctors that believe in their own time limits, u dont hv to. Doctors treats, God heals. Just switch on to praise with this man in mind and watch the miracle that will take place. "If not for God, it would have been worse is a good way to live. Jesus said Believe in me, all things are possible to him that believes... dont loose faith. want u dont want dont watch, praise God and He will step in.

Answer 10

I have no religion, and can only advice you to try and find your own inner strength to manage what is happening around you. It is hard, but others may rely on you.

As a first step, I don't think you shouldn't care about everything, but try to concentrate on the things you CAN do, like giving comfort to somebody, and for now put the other things aside till you have the space and ability for them.