HHHHEEEEEEEELLLLPPPPPPP... im sowww depressed?

Question

hi, once you answered one of my question about the guy who's got a gfriend but is with me as well. recently i havent been seeing him for he have been giving me excuses and stuff and just now i asked him if i can come and sleep at his place tonight as usual and he said that i'll put him in trouble and hell. i mean, im starting to get the real feeling of being used and fooled. please, how do i get over it??? how do i get over HIM???
dont just tell me to move on, tell me how to deal with him day by day, how to try and ignore him or maybe even better to make him prove himself tht he really loves me. i need your help please cause right now im in a terrible state of depression.

Answer 1

There are people who simply drift along, searching for somewhere they belong to in this world. Looking for a place to call their own, they want to know where they stand in life. Years go by, but the answers might still be unknown to them, even til their very last breath on their deathbeds. Maybe that's what this journey called life is all about.

But living life is never a waste. When we have somebody to love and something to hope for, we learn to embrace the true beauty of life. Cherish every moment of your life because once it's gone, it will never come back. Sometimes you miss it so badly that it hurts inside.

Answer 2

Honey, you're being used. He doesn't love you and from the way he's acting it doesn't sound as if he's mature enough to even be able to love. My telling you, "You're better off without him" doesn't do a thing to help your depression. One of the hardest things to do to get over this is to value your own company, alone so that you become happy. It's not easy. Be good to yourself. Do something you like to do, just for you. Go for a walk with a friend. I know this sounds like hogwash but it works. Look in the mirror and tell the person you see how much you think they're nice and how much you like them. The mirror talk should go on at least once a day. Smile at yourself. When you want to call him, do something else, anything: jump rope, eat a salad, call a girlfriend, answer questions on Yahoo. After awhile, you'll start to feel a little better. I know I had to just go through the motions until I finally realized I was starting to feel a little better. As long as you keep being with him, you won't get over your depression.

Answer 3

You are what is called a drama queen, if you dont have some kind of drama in your life you are not happy. You like the tension, the wanting the fighting, the waiting, and everything else.

I read all your posts, and you insist in going back into a one sided relationship with a guy who is obfiously using you just for sex, and you want him to change and love you. I can tell you its not going to happen, all the rest of the people who did not read all your posts are going to give you incomplete answers that you are going to try to use. Because you on purpose never told the whole sordid story that has been going on for about 7 posts.

So you need to realize what you are doing and go find youself someone who will like to be with you and love you back.

Of course since you are into the drama you are probably going to disregard this message and go back into the "oh I am so depressed, he doesnt care, tell me how to deal with him" line of drivel that you say at the end of each posting...you thrive on being hurt...if you dont...you will get out and start again, but I doubt it will happen.

Answer 4

That is a very good question, but every day will be a challange. You have to first find out within yourself if you wanna leave or stay. Do you deserve the treatmant that he is putting you thru. Do you deserve better or should you settle for less than the best. The true answer to you question is found inside of you.

Answer 5

hi baby, i can understand ur feelings, bcos i hv gone thru the same thing before. But i overcame it by telling myself the truth that the guy does not want me, (in order ways, he doesnot deserve giving me sleepless nights) it was not easy to come to this conclusion, but i made up my mind that enough is enough. First I wrote him a lengthy pages of mail saying all my MINDS, mind you, i was not abusive in the said mail, but i made him understand he doesnot deserve me. after that i felt relieved and move on with my life, and now I have another guy who i will be marrying in the next few months, this experience happened last year, so dear, get up, dust you ***, and look up for the better guy who will be begging you to love him and marry him. all the best.

Answer 6

The problem here is very clear. IT"S YOU....You are of the mind set of " I want when I want and I want what I want now and you don't care who has what you want as long as you get what you want"!

It's not a matter of getting over him....The man clearly isn't a possession and you certainly do not have ownership of another human being!

Wake up...quit putting yourself in the light of just a booty call. Have a little respect for yourself...MOVE ON>>>>GET OVER IT@@

Answer 7

seems like he likes that other female more. i think that you need to make it a goal for yourself not to see him for awhile. just push yourself to stay away 1 month 2 months whatever and in the mean time spend sometime to yourself. go jogging outside with a walkman and just daydream for hours and keep yourself busy pamper yourself girl make yourself out to be a queen. pretty soon he might come around and you know you might not want him no more. I been through what you went through i knew i was the rebound girl and i accepted it cause i thought i was in love Let him go

Answer 8

This will be a good (first?) lesson and experience for u.Don't TRY to MAKE anybody love u.Depression will go away little by little.next time be more mature.There r many REAL loves waiting for u in future.Be patient. The problems r there to teach us.good luck.

Answer 9

i think he is using u n it will b great if u use him n get a revenge call him tell him2 meet n dont go try 2 make him feel dat der r more guys except him n let me tell u if he has little feelings 4 u you he will b hurted 2 know dat u r going around with smbdy try this may feel a bit relaxed

Answer 10

First of all, do you know your own self worth? To constantly subject yourself to the hurt and lies (not to mention risk of STD's) is not healthy. If he's cheating on her with you, what makes you think that there aren't others. You shouldn' have to play tag to get with your man, and based on your explanation, he doesn't seem to be your man anyway. I hate to be cruel, but tough love is what you need right now. Stop casting your pearls among swine. Be more conservative about who you let inside of your world. You deserve to be respected, but you first got to respect youself. Stand up and get yourself together for the man deserving of your affections.